I need some input. I have always wanted to be a mother. But I also would love to be a veterinarian. My husband would love for me to do either, he is behind me all the way, but he doesnt have much schooling, so we might struggle if I dont become a vet first, and make money. Is there any moms out there who have went to college and also have a baby at the same time? How hard is it? Also, I will be almost 30 when i become a vet, and so at least 30 or later before I have my first baby, are there any risks if I wait till after my 7 years left of school?
2006-07-25 13:55:49 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
You are young and have time. Go to school and find a away to fit a baby it somewhere in the 4th or 5th year. Babies are Hard! And having one while in school is even harder, however women do it. The most successful stories are from women who have a LOT of support at home. And are willing to spend hours upon hours away from their new baby in order to do school work. Get yourself established financially then try for the child.
You can't quit a baby. But you can quit school and/or a job. (not that I would advice that) Right now you come first, follow your dreams and become a vet. Once the baby's come, it's all about them and their dreams.
Good Luck
2006-07-25 14:01:46 · answer #1 · answered by JulyBaby 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋
30 is very young. Vet at thirty, child at thirty one. Grand kids when you are in your fifties. Trust me, there is a lot of life left in the fifties. Go for it. Career first. As for your husband, even if he does not have much schooling, he still can work for decent money if he has a skill. So depending on his income, there are variables to play with. Career for you, then baby, then stay at home Mom while Dad works. Or how about Dad working in the Vet office with you taking care of the administration. Lack of schooling does not mean not smart. Where there is a will there is a way, however, I believe you would like to at least start on your way to being a vet. You can always change your mind. So right now go for it.
2006-07-25 14:05:19 · answer #2 · answered by pshdsa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is VERY difficult to be a parent. period. Throw in financial worries, and school, and you've got yourself a dangerous combination. I am struggling to get my bachelor's degree in Social Work with a four year old daughter. I wish I already had my degree before I got pregnant. I imagine that it is so much easier to be a college student without a child.
College is ALOT of hard work, late nights and parenting is the same way. Both at the same time is downright stressful, and very time consuming. I am dreading the upcoming semester, when a paper is due and she is pulling at my arm when I am typing....
You are in for alot of that if you choose to parent now.
I am not trying to be negative, just realistic because I am struggling so much now. My advice to you would be to concentrate on schooling NOW...and then when the time is right, have your baby. You, your husband and baby will be alot better off for it.
And being 30 isn't too late to have a child!
2006-07-25 14:04:30 · answer #3 · answered by Becca 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The baby will take most of your time, but you can start both at the same time if you look into study options. You can always take classes...on-line and traditional...find those which fit your schedule. If your husband is supportive of you doing both, more the better. Having a baby at 30, no big deal either. You just need to work out what is best for you and your husband. Talk to a councilor at the school you wish to attend. Good Luck :)
2006-07-25 14:02:40 · answer #4 · answered by My Answer For What Its Worth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to college first. I had my first baby at 30 and I will be having my second at 32 yo. I graduated first, worked for a few years, felt accomplished and still was young enough for a baby, get an education first, your child will be proud of you either way, but will be prouder if you have a higher education and can enjoy a better life, it is not impossible to do both, but why the hassle??? Babies need a lot of attention, you will have a clearer mind to concentrate in your studies if you don't worry about your child. 30 is a perfect age for babies.
2006-07-25 14:06:25 · answer #5 · answered by starfedra 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to college first. You can still have a healthy, happy baby at 30 - or even 40. But you won't always be able to have a college education and a career. I wouldn't give up my two kids, or staying at home to raise them, for anything...but I went to college first, and I had a career first. At least that way you'll know what the real world is like...much easier to be a good mom that way.
2006-07-25 13:58:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm struggling with baby and career right now. If you and your husband can make it through the schooling time, go for it. At the point where you will be a Vet, you will be making enough income for your husband to be an at home father if it works for you both. I admire a couple who can support eachother in non-oldfashioned standards. Good Luck.
2006-07-25 14:03:31 · answer #7 · answered by DNY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, time might say that you should have a child soon.
Both of you should work hard and save money. In the future, then go to vet school, but maybe on a part time basis. That way you can still work too and have enough time for your baby.
2006-07-25 14:00:13 · answer #8 · answered by Adam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not both? technology is so advanced that now people in their fifties are having babies. I am 27 and have had a baby I took some courses on line and now I am becoming a Real Estate agent.I will be sending her to daycare but I have had the chance to stay at home with her for 15 months
2006-07-25 13:59:37 · answer #9 · answered by kcbrown1979 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it would be hard to do both at the same time, but if you choose to do the baby after school, risks increase with age, but the critical age is not until 35. once you hit 35, the DNA in your eggs can actually start to denature, and that is why there are more problems.
It is entirely up to you and your hubby. Good luck with your decision!
2006-07-25 14:00:40 · answer #10 · answered by Tyrtyl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋