I met one lesbian girl and she's hiding it from everyone then I figured it out. For her image, and for people not to find out she's lesbian, I went along with her. Then we became friends and she opened up and said she doesn't wanna be lesbian again for reasons of her own. And so she became my girlfriend, kinda. And sometimes she tells me go look for a girl, and other times she doesn't. She doesn't wanna have sex with me, but she gives me blowjobs. We nearly had sex but sadly we didn't. But I do care about her and she cares about me too. What do you think?
2006-07-25 13:50:46 · 28 answers · asked by curious 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2006-07-25 13:53:49 · answer #1 · answered by Guzzy 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think she's confused about her sexuality and she's clinging to you because she's scared of the stereotyping. It's very hard to go through something like this. Give her your support, be her friend, and don't let her give you anymore oral.....she's probably just doing it b/c that's considered "normal" and being gay isn't normal for most people.
If you care about her as much as you sound-you'll realize you are using her by letting her continue with the oral and not talking her through this. She should definantly find a lesbian chat or gay support group online and talk it through. Contrary to popular belief- gay people are very understanding, caring, and helpful with this kind of thing and won't put a lot of pressure on someone who's confused or unsure of their sexuality.
2006-07-25 13:57:32 · answer #2 · answered by southrngirl2724 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are getting distracted by issues around her sexual identity from asking more central, relevant questions:
--are you interested in me?
--if so, for what?
--what is your ideal relationship to have with me?--Platonic friendship? Friends with occasional casual oral sex between us? Sexual partners til someone better comes along for either of us? Sexual partners who have other sexual partners also? Exclusive, emotionally bonded partners?
Clarify what she wants from the relationship.
That's step one.
Step 2 is: clarify what you want from the relationship. How do you feel about her?
Step 3 will come pretty naturally once Steps 1 & 2 have been talked about openly between you two.
2006-07-25 13:55:20 · answer #3 · answered by snowbaal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lucky man you are. Just don't marry her..... they forget what a BJ is once they have a rock on that finger.... not to mention you don't get as much sex as you thought you would when you are married....throw in the Lesbian thing, and you Sir.... Are a God among men.
2006-07-25 13:58:34 · answer #4 · answered by science G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is trying to find her way in life. Its cool that there are still people in the world who go their own path instead of following the path of society. Let her grow and let her begin to understand what she wants. There is nothing wrong with her. If you can handle the roller coaster ride that she is on ... then stay with her ... but don't expect her to do what you want. she will always follow her heart!
2006-07-25 13:56:29 · answer #5 · answered by ilovedragonflies6 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say its fu$$ed up!!You cant turn off your sexual orientation like a light switch.She likes women and she always will i guess she thought by being with you that would make her like men but she sees it will not thats why she tells you get someone else ,she cant have sex with you cause she is not turned on by you she feels nothing brother believe me.She only looks at you like a buddy and always will best bet is to stay just friends but as a romantic lover you best find someone else at least one who likes d$$k!Good luck .
2006-07-25 13:55:44 · answer #6 · answered by blondie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes ur an idiot... she doesnt wanna be a lezbo but is... actually coz she's with u she's prolly bi. but still more into girls than anything.. And its just a personal choice not to have sex, u should totally respect that.
2006-07-25 13:55:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's confused about her feelings. She may have feelings for you that are strong but she has unresolved feelings about her sexuality. Its something that she has to figure out on her own and accept. Sounds to me that she's not ready to accept who she really is. Give her time to figure out what she really wants...
2006-07-25 13:56:06 · answer #8 · answered by GC 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok this question is not stupid like everyone thinks.....nor is it disgusting......I think you should find someone to be with other than her....its probly not gonna work out so find someone that wants a relationship with you and keep her as a friend....if you stick with her trying to be in a relationship you'll be setting yourself up for heartache later
2006-07-25 13:55:46 · answer #9 · answered by firestoneasetech 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she is just attracted to cute girls that doesnt make her a lesbian. but if she likes sleeping with girls more than guys. practice with the tounge brother. she'll dig it.
2006-07-25 13:54:40 · answer #10 · answered by KingStretch 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure if your an idiot yet.It sounds like you guys are kinda using each other.Thats wrong.And kinda confusing.
2006-07-25 13:54:08 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋