2006-07-25 13:40:01 · 13 answers · asked by basary 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The best chance is there if anything still there on her part is to pull back and give her space.
All the details are in the book "love must be tough" by Dr. James Dobson.
I think this is the best chance. Although it didn't work for me personally when my ex-husband left me, it helped me to handle it much better than I would have otherwise.
I wasn't clingy, pleading, begging, and doing all the wrong stuff, but handled it with dignity. This helped make the breakup easier than it would havwe been otherwise.
I recommend this book to anyone.
The book tremulously helped me and the concepts he speaks of even helped me with my 20- year old son when he was neglecting me and being rude.
Shortly after I wrote him a letter as recommended in a certain way as recommended in the book, he took me to a park where he told me (at the time--age 20) he was still a virgin..how I had taught him not have sex until he was married or in love, how he appreciated me,and even confided to me he was thinking of having sex and he was in love with this girl and asked my advice on how to handle things (I was shocked as he normally told me nothing) despite my asking.
He even took my advice which in retrospect turned out to be the best path.
He was warm and hugged me and apologized and told me he loved me and it was the most special night for me. I highly recommend this book. They probably have it at the library.
Also assess your role in making her leave and vow to yourself to make changes in improving yourself in relationships.
If she doesn't return, maybe she wasn't the best person for you and God has better things ahead for you. Work tolessen the faults you had in the relationship so you don't carry them on to the next relationships.
Remember this too shall pass. Although it may always hurt somewhat, it will hurt less and less each day.
when my exhusband left me, I was hysterical, devasted, inconsolable, but day by day it improves. I focused on others things like rearing my children and getting a college degree, and it wasn't long before I rarely if ever thought of him.
In fact, I am happy he left because who wants an unfaithful spouse and I was unhappy as he was never there anyway.
Loss of someone we love is difficult but a common experience to mankind.
Be strong, you will survive...calling suicide hotline (they talk to you if you are in crisiseven if not suicidal) and 24 hour crisis lines at mental health centers helped me when it wass too hard,. It always helps to talk to someone.
2006-07-25 13:52:25 · answer #1 · answered by janie 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Think about why you two split up. Was it for a stupid reason, or a good reason, and I mean honestly, not what you want to think. What you know.
Now if it was just a fight about something dumb, you might still have a chance. Just talk to her and ask her out again. If she says no, I'm really sorry.
Now...if it was a good reason, it's probably over. I'm sorry to say I think you should just move on.
Hope this helped.
Best of luck!=]
-Jessica
2006-07-25 13:47:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't. This happened to Trish (my now fiancee) and me not to long ago. It lasted about 3-4 days. She re-established contact w/ me and came back on her own volition. She was the one for me.
However, I have also had gfs that left me that I thought were the right one for me for whatever reason. Looking back I'm glad I'm not still with them for various reasons not to mention the most important one being the one I'm with right now.
It's hard loving but not loving in return. We have all been through it. You need anyone to talk to just email me.
2006-07-25 13:48:14 · answer #3 · answered by Crossroads Keeper 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well what ever went wrong in your relationship, give her a heart-felt apology. Then, tell her how much you care about her and what you would do to win her back. If that doesn't work then there is nothing else you can do. I'm very sorry.
2006-07-25 13:49:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't make anyone do anything. If she's not single, then forget about it. Otherwise, you just gotta get in touch with her. Hopefully you guys are still friends.
2006-07-25 13:42:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
send her flowers and chocolate cuz flowers say like I'm sorry and will u come back 2 me baby and she would probably like it if u sprung for the chocolate 2 not just the flowers
2006-07-25 13:45:22 · answer #6 · answered by dadez_lil_gurl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guess that all depends on why shes your ex..and you do mean win her back right cuz you cant make her do anything
2006-07-25 14:20:24 · answer #7 · answered by dream_star16 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If its meant to be then you will get back together. But do not force it you will only make her think you are crazy
2006-07-25 13:44:43 · answer #8 · answered by ~daTexasPrincess~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is she your ex? There is a reason why..
2006-07-25 13:44:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't make anyone do anything, just be friends and express your feelings.
2006-07-25 13:42:48 · answer #10 · answered by Chocklategurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋