My daughter's latest seems to be one of the Blues Brothers. She brought him to dinner, he wore dark glasses all the time he was visiting, tripped over our dining room rug and put his fist into the jelly trifle (My favourite- We ate round the hole) smoked Marlborough ciggies throughout and kept his hat on, the whole time. I mean, I can get down, daddio, but is this behaviour cool or rude?
2006-07-25 13:37:13 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I'm sorry, but your question made me laugh! Was it Jake or Elroy? Sounds like a good premise for a movie or sitcom! Just know that the more you let your feelings known to your daughter, the more appealing the "forbidden fruit." Be patient, and hope it's a phase that will pass.
2006-07-25 13:43:07 · answer #1 · answered by keri gee 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Have I wandered onto the set of sense and sensibility? Do you remember desperately trying to be cool when you were his age?
I remember a desperately embarrassing episode when I went to visit my girlfriends grandparents with her mum and dad. I got locked outside by mistake (I'd gone back to the car to get something). Don't ask me why but I just didn't want to ring the door bell and tell them I was locked out so I decided to go around the back of the house. UNFORTUNATELY their side gate (about 6ft high) was locked so I decided (rather foolishly) to climb over it.
As I did so the entire thing came crashing to the ground with me on it. My girlfiends grandmother saw the whole thing and came running over only to trip on a peice of wood and badly hurt her ankle. The entire family then came outside to see what the commotion was.
I can laugh now but at the time I was mortified. My point is you are looking at this from the perspective of a world weary adult, I kinda admire him to tell you the truth. I also think you played the trifle thing perfectly...
2006-07-25 20:53:57 · answer #2 · answered by powkesmore 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he was a bit rude, especially the smoking part. On the other hand, he could also hae been very nervous.
Pick your battles - what is it that bothered you the most? Ask your daughter very gently if she could mention to her latest not to do/wear whatever. Tread carefully so that she doesn't feel attacked, but I think you have the right to request a certain level or decorum in your home.
2006-07-25 20:44:27 · answer #3 · answered by Church Music Girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ewwww. Hopefully your daughter will out-grow him soon. Maybe she's just going through a phase where she's trying to annoy you.
It's your house, lay down the rules. Ask him politely to remove his hat and sunglasses, keep his hands out of the dessert, and no smoking indoors. Bet she won't bother bringing him over much after that. Good luck!
2006-07-25 21:04:20 · answer #4 · answered by locolady98 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm almost 40, and maybe I don't know "cool", but I was always taught that guys should never wear hats inside, as far as the sunglasses, I wouldn't like, but could see that as his way of trying to be cool. It's the smoking that would bother me the most. I wouldn't want my daughter to date a smoker, but if he did, I'd hope he'd have the decency not to smoke around her father and I. If he did, I'd at least expect him to ask permission, as a courtesy.
2006-07-25 20:53:53 · answer #5 · answered by Lisa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well--look on the bright side here dude---could have been like Animal from Animal House instead---got something to be thankful for----with some of the choices out there the Blues Brothers could very easily be one of the better
2006-07-25 20:44:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely, rude and disrespectful to her and you! That's the way they're taught these days. That is OK to do whatever you want wherever you want. If you don't approve of him, you shouldn't let her see him. Regardless, you should tell him, if he can't figure it out himself, to take his hat off, no sunglasses indoors, no smoking. And you should remind him to apologize about the trifle. You need to teach your daughter to have more taste and to expect better for herself.
2006-07-25 20:44:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any man who has the gall to deface a jelly trifle would not be welcome at my table again, that's for sure.
Did it have hundreds and thousands on it? If so, even worse.
In order to avoid such an unfortunate situation from happening again, I would suggest that in future you stick to Angel Delight. Butterscotch flavour would be best.
Do not waste a perfectly good trifle on this scoundrel again.
2006-07-25 21:56:55 · answer #8 · answered by Hello Dave 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very rude, he seems to be masking himself from you with the hat and glasses, he obviously has something to hide. He sounds like a real bad apple and hopefully your daughter will see the light.
2006-07-25 20:41:57 · answer #9 · answered by Jay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His behavior was VERY RUDE and not saying much for your daughter,,,he showed you no respect and her any either. I personally would have asked that he not act the way that he does in public at my home,,it is your home and you have worked very hard to make it just that ,,you make the rules and no one that can not follow them does not deserve the rights of you or your daughters company,,good luck
2006-07-26 10:22:33 · answer #10 · answered by sonya w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋