Here's the situation: YOU BROKE UP with your gf for three years one year ago for reasons that the relationship was too hard to handle at that point, that you were busy, and you had a lot of self-issues to fix. You hurt her real bad. She tried hard to make you stay but still left. For one year you were busy realizing yourself, you isolated yourself, and stayed at home most of the time. There was not another girl. While immediately after the breakup, the girl come face to face with one problem after another: family problem, and she was diagnosed of malignant breast masses. You do not know about this because you were busy on yourself. Until after a year (NOW) you finally have realized things and come into terms with your self-issues then realized you really love your ex-gf. Then pursued her. But she keeps on hiding from you and changing her numbers, you see her miserable and frail, very slim.. you pursue her more but she resents (because you hurt her) though you can see she still loves u.
2006-07-25 13:33:46 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well you say that the BF realized he loved her, was this before or after he found out all the things going wrong with her? that would make a difference. if he loved her and THEN foiund out, its different. obviously the girl has been thru a lot, and maybe now its her turn to be "too busy with life for a relationship:. you never knolw, she may be long gone for him
whats odd, is that marriage is thru thick adn thin.
why didnt he just stay with her?
this is a sad story. really.
i hope that they both realize they love each other, and he can stand up and be a man and love her in her time of need. now, how he is going to get her back is another story. thats gonna take ALOT of effort on his part.
but it can be doen.
good luck to the people involved.
(some of these other answers are retarded by the way)
2006-07-25 13:42:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 1⤋
Changing numbers? That's not love chick, that's stalking. Get the net man. Seriously, if you are doing anything to keep him hanging around spell it out to him in no uncertain terms that you don't want him back. If that doesn't work get a restraining order, if that fails look into firearms. People don't get "fixed". We are flawed and broken and altogether too human. There will always be something wrong. You either face it or you turn tail and run. When you tell someone you love them it usually means forever but it does not mean that you will be with them forever. You all need a lot of space 100 yards at all times should get it. Even better get a new man and show Ole Reliable that you have moved on to the next stage of your life and hopefully he will do the same.
2006-07-25 13:41:05 · answer #2 · answered by Jay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Getting her back after the breakup is going to cost you time and money. Before you decide to go any further, stop. Think. Do you really want to get back together again? Occasionally, both parties think breaking up is for the best and go their separate ways peacefully.
Having determined which factors caused your breakup as explained in the previous chapter, you can now develop a plan of action. Your whole plan is based on the assumption that she feels unhappy, and a little bit guilty after the breakup and that she is undecided about jumping in a new relationship just yet. Time is of the essence so you must act fast.
A word of caution here. Since your whole plan is based on the assumption that she is unhappy. If there is already someone else in her life, your plan will most likely fail since she already is happy and therefore does not need you anymore.good luck to you.
2006-07-25 13:42:51 · answer #3 · answered by shyshyunmee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really think that you should leave her be...it is obvious she was and is still hurting. So let her come to you...don't push so much you will only make things worse. You solved your issues did what you needed to do now don't be selfish and pursue her because after you took YOUR time to figure out YOUR issues YOU realize you love her. The world just doesn't work that way!!
2006-07-25 13:41:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok she is changing her number and wants nothing to do with dude and the last sentence says "though you can see she still loves him... Ok this whole thing sounds screwy with those last few words...
A: I would not get back with anyone like this guy...He snozzed he losed
B: If he stocked me like this guy is, i would get a restraining order and also call the cops.
C: If that didnt work i would call my uncle Vinny, he takes care of those who dont listen. :)
2006-07-25 13:41:04 · answer #5 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, its a different story but I know that I wouldnt go back just for that reason, but if i went back i would know i owe something
In may case, the person is long gone and I try to do thnigs for those who knew her
2006-07-25 13:39:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do not know who's asking the question: he or she? but it does not matter! i will sacrifice my life only for love!!! if he broke up with her for those reasons this means he's selfish. if he's selfish he will not get back to her if she's sick. if he's not selfish he'll wil be her best friend but not boyfriend! if he loves her he will be next to her especially when she's having problems.
when i love somebody i'm there no matter what!! and i would not get back to nobody just because i'm sorry,, not even if it is my fault!!!!
2006-07-25 13:57:20 · answer #7 · answered by dionis 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG!This is so hard.But the way i see it is if you go out with her again and really don't have any feelings for her then you relationship is doomed to fail.Don't just go out with her because she's sickly yo ucan be a friend to her but no bf.
2006-07-25 13:39:05 · answer #8 · answered by tiffani0611 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends.
2006-07-25 13:36:26 · answer #9 · answered by Alan_at_rescue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe walk away from that one. You did spend 3 years with her and felt that you had to end it.
2006-07-25 13:37:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋