My soon to be mother in law has a serious control issue. She does not understand that it is not her job to give the wedding. I mean my family has taken all financial responsibilty because she said she did not have any money. But now she is upset because my family is doing everything.
2006-07-25 13:32:22 · 10 answers · asked by ~daTexasPrincess~ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Heres the deal...You need to have your future hubby talk to his mom. He can explain things to her, you dont try. This is his mother let him deal with her and it will save you in the long run...
2006-07-25 13:58:07 · answer #1 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Give her some very specific jobs. My fiance's parents made it very clear that they were done helping with weddings after their two daughers got married. I don't know if they realized how this sounded to me, as their future daugher-in-law. I have not included them in anything except for what the parents of the groom traditionally get involved in s/a the rehearsal dinner, photos, purchase of my bouquet. My future parents-in-law have mentioned that they haven't heard much about the wedding plans and are now "hinting" that they feel out of the loop. So, I've asked them to do some specific things the day of the wedding and they seem to feel better about it. Talk to her and ask her if she can help with specific things. That will make her feel more included without having to have control over something that you and your parents (and hopefully your fiance) have already decided upon. It worked for me. Take care.
2006-07-25 20:41:14 · answer #2 · answered by Sara B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it is not her job to give the wedding. If your parents are footing the bill, then she should just chill. I just hope she is not going to be one of those overbearing mother in laws, who comes over and try to take charge of your life. You might want to ask her nicely what is it she would like to do. Just to be nice. So later on down the line you will not hear a bunch of mess about how mean you and your family were to her and how you blocked her out of her son's marriage and happiness.
2006-07-25 22:08:45 · answer #3 · answered by crash 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure that your fiance' feels the same way, tell him that it is bothering you, and let him talk to her. If you intrude...you will be blamed by her for ruining things between her and her son. I'm in the same situation right now...we just try to not let her behavior get to us...I mean...its YOUR wedding not HERS!
2006-07-25 21:15:14 · answer #4 · answered by Em G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Avoid her like the bird flu..........or West Nile virus. You get the drift. It's her problem, let her deal with it. If it really gets to be a problem, have your fiancee talk to her and tell her to lay off. Good luck!
2006-07-26 01:54:40 · answer #5 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A big thing that I have noticed recently is a "Groom's Cake" at the reception. How about if you have her make/choose a Groom's Cake?
2006-07-25 22:14:05 · answer #6 · answered by littlevivi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her take care of the rehearsal dinner.
2006-07-25 21:10:38 · answer #7 · answered by Angie P. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i hate my ex mother in law and i would just KILL her if i could. My mother in law to be is great
2006-07-25 20:56:06 · answer #8 · answered by suepooh23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her problems, her issues. Forget about it.
2006-07-25 20:39:35 · answer #9 · answered by treday25 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LET HER BE UPSET WITH HER BROKE ***
2006-07-25 20:48:00 · answer #10 · answered by BLESSED.... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋