Me and my girl have been together for 3 mos. Neither of us could imagine loving or trusting anyone more than we do each other. We complement each other soo well. We each think the other is absolutely perfect. We're goin to colleges 600 miles apart in 3 weeks. We decided to break up because it would be really difficult to hold onto a realtionship from 600 miles away in the middle of trying to live on our own for the first time. The thing is, when we end, we will STILL love each other and still be best friends. I dont know how to deal with this. Really, I think she could be the one, and I would pop the question if I had a career and could support her, but what should I do?
2006-07-25 12:58:06 · 4 answers · asked by Ladd C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't think you should break up unless one of you really wants to see somebody else. I would at least give it a try for awhile, that long-distance relationship, and see how it works. Stay in touch, concentrate on your college work and organizations while you are apart... and make a promise to spend time together on all breaks. Write letters, email one another, get on IM or Yahoo Messenger... just don't break up only because of distance. Enjoy parties and friends, but don't "date" other people until you've had a chance to get together again to talk it over. Promise to tell the other person, if you meet somebody else, rather than keep them hanging on. Give it a try!
I was 2000 miles away from my husband when I was in college and he was in the Navy. That was 35 years ago, before internet and cell phones.... and we wrote letters every day. We stayed true to one another and then got married, and are still married.
It might not work for you... but how will you know, if you don't at least try?
2006-07-25 13:07:04 · answer #1 · answered by mia2kl2002 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you both need to think about how you feel about the other. If you both truly love each other you can make it work. My boyfriend is almost 600 miles away from me and we've made it work so far. We've been together for 4 months and been through a lot. I'm moving to be with him soon but that'll be another 6 months away.
If you think you might cheat on the other then you should break up so that no one gets hurt. But if you think you're meant to be and you won't cheat then stay together!
2006-07-25 22:08:39 · answer #2 · answered by BbyGrl80 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen...I know how you feel - your heart is hurting and you're so confused. You do need to let her go. You need to find who you are and what you're going to be in life. If you popped the question you would be cheating yourself out of an education. In this world you need that college education to get far in life.
If one day you two meet up again...who knows it might work - but right now it can't. You have to concentrate on your education.
Stay busy and focus on school.
God Bless.
2006-07-25 20:05:37 · answer #3 · answered by Wanna-be-Dear-Abby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are doing the right thing. Go to college. Keep in touch. Then start a career and see where you are. Experiencing other girls is important.
2006-07-25 20:03:34 · answer #4 · answered by David B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋