he asked me out again!!??

Question

this guy asked me out a few weeks ago. i told him "no. i just want to be friends." he said he understood. then today he asked me out again. should i tell him the same thing i told him last time? i don't want to be mean. why did he ask me out again?

Answer 1

Hes hoping your going to give in. Tell him again, No thank you, I have already told you that I only wanted to be friends. Thank you though...if he keeps persisting...get mean..lol

Answer 2

Yes, stick to the same reply every time. That's better than trying to think of something else... he will never believe you if you keep changing your story. Some guys subscribe to the theory that girls like to be chased. He thinks you are playing hard to get, and that you expect him to keep asking until he has convinced you that he likes you a LOT. Don't be mean. Tell him, "Sorry-- I'm not playing hard to get... I like you as a friend, but I really do not want to go out with you. But thank you for asking me again."

Answer 3

Nicely tell him that you don't want to date him and just be friends. Have him tell you what he understood you to mean about not dating him. If it comes out of his mouth, then you will know you are both on the same page. If you are comfortable with it, maybe invite him to have a friendly cup of coffee with you at Starbucks or your local coffee house. You will have a better read of how he might take the invitation so use your discression, of course. If you think it will send him romantic expectations, just be kind and tell him no.

Answer 4

Just tell him, "No, I'm busy" in a public area; say it with sharpness and slight volume (not a scream but loud enough so if anyone is around they'll hear it) so that he'll get slightly embarrassed. If he pursues further, call the cops.

By him continuing to pursue, he's stepped outside of the dating boundaries etiquette and has evolved into a stalker. It's important for you to communicate to him that you perceive him as a stalker. If he's rational, he'll get it and back off; if he doesn't, he could be turning more and more into a sexual predator.

Answer 5

Guys are taught that persistence pays off; think about many romantic movies out there, the guy just keeps coming back and keeps coming back, until the girl says yes, and then they fall in love.

Go out with him on the stipulation that he does some very expensive things for you, and then offer not so much as a handshake when you say goodnight. If you can't fend him off, break his bank.

Answer 6

Maybe you were TOO nice last time. Just say:"I really don't like you in that way. I like you as a friend and nothing more. Please understand! I don't want to lead you on and hurt you. Don't ask me out again, this is stressing me out and straining our friendship." Just come up with something bitter/sweet. I've had this happen too. Good Luck!

Answer 7

Honestly, the attention must be flattering - so why not tell him so? It's the easiest way to let someone down without feeling uncomfortable about it later. Just explain that you are very flattered by his interest, but that you're not interested in something like that right now. It will let him know that you're serious without you coming off too harsh!

Best of luck!

Answer 8

Some guys are really persistent i would say no one more time if he asks again it's a good idea to say it in a way he will understand and it means being mean

Answer 9

If you told him, "No," then it means, "No."

Obviously, this guy likes you and it seems like he can't take rejection well.

Tell him nicely, "Look, I told you yesterday that I said 'no.' Why are you asking me again?" Either that, or something along the lines of that.

Answer 10

Say no if you say yes your gonna hate it being in a relationship with him your gonna ruin any kind of friend relationship because if you don't like him then you will break up with him and he won't like that and you most likely. He probably will understand the second time when he says no.