grounding (as a punishme t for kids)?

Question

I'd like opinions on this form of punishment. Here, I mean making a kid stay home and not have fun. I think in some cases it can be OK for a short period of time, a day or 2. But for longer periods, it is a cruel and contaproductive punishmentI I know of parents nwho for several weeks allowed their kids out of home or even at theirv rooms only to go to school or use the bathroom, without any activity at all. I think this is cruel and will probably create a strong resentment and psychological problems. It's very bad for a children or a teen to remain grounded without anything to do. Once I hard of parents who even confined their teen daughter to bed for a month, allowing her out of bed only for school or to use the bathroom (is this possible?). Punishments sometimes are necessary, but should be given with love and teach something. If a kid did something wrong, the instead of such punishments, it's much better if he or she does something to compensate for his/her mistake.

Answer 1

i agree...you shouldnt ground a kid for more than 2 days at the most. And definatly dont hit them. you need to explain what they did wrong , make sure they know what they did wrong, and then send them to their room for an hour or so to think about what they did...if they did something terrible, you should make them stay home for a day or so, but they are allowed out of their rooms, but they cannot watch TV. Making a child stay in the house is cruel. They need fresh air. I dont know who would ever want to do something bad to their kid.

Answer 2

I agree with you you! When I was young I would (occasionally) get grounded for a day or two at the most. I would have things taken away (bike, phone privelges, going to movies w/ friends, etc.). I was never confined to my room though. That seems cruel. If you're going to ground a child it doesn't seem that it would be very effective to do so for a long period of time. I'm sure after the first day the kid has learned the lesson. Any longer than that and it just seems like it would breed anger and resentment towards the parents.

Answer 3

Confining a child to bed for a month is child abuse. Grounding a child for a month is not. If a child disobeys once, the grounding could be for a day or two. Stay home, help with the dishes, do your homework, read to your little brother, and don't go out and have fun. You deserve that. If the child KEEPS on disobeying, the punishment needs to get worse until the child learns his/her lesson. Children who are expected to follow house rules, grow up knowing their parents cared enough to set boundaries to live by. These children actually grow up to be the most secure adults. The children whose parents let them do whateve they want and set no boundaries or guidelines, grow up insecure and with lower self-esteem as adults. The punishment should always fit the crime, though. Some parents are too harsh.

Answer 4

Well, it is a rightful punishment to make the kid learn their lesson for what they did that was wrong. If they have a strong punishment then they will understand to not do stuff like that again. By taking away all they do, they won't have anything else to do but think about what they have done or try to find a way of forgiveness. A child should be free but always have a netting to pull them back in...(but ONLY when they need it to be done).

Answer 5

My opinion is that the punishment should fit the crime. I would think that the girl who had to stay in bed for a month became very resentful. This happens a lot when parents have little to no communication with their child. Sometimes we as parents do not have all the answers, and it is good for us to attend workshops on Parenting Skills. Parents who are insecure in their roll of parenting sometimes make poor decisions. All of us can use guidance and even those "good" parents make poor
decisions. Parenting is like walking a tight rope and if we lean over too far in either direction, we fall.
Parenting is a full time job. Parents who hold themselves
responsible for their children's upbringing are to be admired.
Unfortunately, our kids don't come with an owners manual.

Answer 6

I punished my children in many ways, spanking when they were young, taking things away from them when they were a little older and yes, grounding them when they were teens, and it never killed them or damaged them.

There are many ways to punish a child for bad behavior, If you feel that grounding is not appropriate then "don't do it" but do not criticize those that do because the bottom line is that you are not the expert on child rearing and nether is anyone else.

We all do the best we can as parents, and I have seen kids that have been disciplined the way you are talking about turn out to be IN JAIL.

There is not one way to raise a child and all children are not the same. Good luck with raising your children.

Answer 7

It's much better for a kid's punishment to be work. Grounding a child is just letting him or her sit around the house all day and does not teach the kid anything. It's also really easy for kids to escape from the house when grounded without the parents knowing. Kids punishments should have to do supervised work for their parents/older relatives/neighbors/etc or something else they wouldn't like doing.

Answer 8

It depends on what kind of upbringing you want to instill on your children. What thign they did wrong and what you believe in. if they did something bad and religion is a part of your family life. Compensation through reliegion if applicaable if not. an extra chore before they get to do something. and or an extra chore for a week. and maybe not able to do a certain thing they've been looking foward to. also maybe cut tv out or sweets as well.depending what they did...but remember if u cut access of something make sure you cut any wayy to gain access to it like sugar give them a bagged lunch and no money....and stuff like that. make sure your not punishing yourself or the other children too....

make sure the punishment fits the crime. if their old enough. maybe parent and or parents and kid should sit down. and have a set punishment you and partner comes up with but also ask the child what else they think their punishment should be.

Answer 9

I agree that grounding can be really excessive.

The thing is, it's better than physical punishment or verbal abuse.

When your children start to get old enough and big enough that they defy you and are not afraid of your disapproval, you have to resort to some kind of consequential punishment. So I think grounding serves a purpose at that point in time.

When a child is excessively punished, somebody should report that parent to the authorities. Nobody should have to live the life of a prisoner or be abused by anybody.

Answer 10

Well I'm a 13 year old guy and I say being grounded for shorter periods of time such as 1 or 2 days helped me learn to appreciate my freedom and to be honest the longer periods of time made me feel a HUGE amount of anger and resentment towards my parents.