My friend was struck by lightning on the golf course on Friday. I'm going to the funeral tomorrow. Is it too soon to ask what they plan to do with his vintage Caddy?
2006-07-25 12:49:22 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Sweet! Go ahead and make them an offer. I think it would be a relief to them not to have to deal with it. And then you could have a custom paint job done- with lightning bolts on the side, as a tribute. That would be so nice. What year and model is it? Have fun at the funeral!
2006-07-25 13:42:38 · answer #1 · answered by Vet Tech Steph 3 · 5⤊ 2⤋
Wow.
I wouldn't mention it at the funeral, but maybe a few days later. A more gentle offer would be to "carry on his work" in taking care of the car. But don't think about making the offer unless you have the time or resources to really take care of the car.
And make gently clear that 1) it's their decision, and it will take some time, and 2) that you wish to buy the car, not inherit it.
2006-07-25 19:56:29 · answer #2 · answered by Polymath 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, don't even mention it. If they are planning to do anything with it, such as sell it, I'm sure they will let all of their friends know about it, at a LATER DATE. Bringing up something like that at the funeral would be the ultimate in cruel insensitivity. And here's what will happen if you do: they will hate you. They will do anything to keep YOU from having it.
2006-07-25 20:29:26 · answer #3 · answered by mia2kl2002 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not, ask for the car. If it means something too you and you were that close. Maybe you can offer to pay them for it to help with the funeral cost. If it was my brother I would sell it to you.
2006-07-25 20:37:24 · answer #4 · answered by wondertwins 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes...too soon. I would wait for them to put it up before you go and ask about it....especially if it was special to him. They need some time to deal with thier pain before they can deal with the other stuff.
2006-07-25 19:53:50 · answer #5 · answered by jmk_jenmarie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Another example of the "me me me" in this society. Let the family morn. Geez...their relative was suddenly killed. My grandma was killed in a car accident in 1985. The estate is first settling NOW!
2006-07-25 20:41:05 · answer #6 · answered by Gabby_Gabby_Purrsalot 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, but you may be too late. I talked with them at the hospital and they agreed to let me have it. I may be willing to sell it for the right price, just make an offer.
2006-07-25 22:41:12 · answer #7 · answered by Matthew D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe proper etiquette in these situations would dictate that:
as soon as he's in the ground
you're good to go - ask away!
2006-07-25 20:36:10 · answer #8 · answered by Zippy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should wait at least two weeks. Perhaps they already have plans or want it as a memory. Use tact if you ask.
2006-07-25 19:58:12 · answer #9 · answered by Swordfish 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont ask until the topic comes up,....duh thats so rude!
And even when the topic does come up hint it first to get their expression on the matter, then you choose!
2006-07-25 19:53:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋