is it a big deal? i hate doing this & i seem to have so many problems with my man over this. he brings it up as many times as possible. little uncomfortable comments like "it can be better" or something ??? does this matter so much?
2006-07-25 12:48:53 · 34 answers · asked by CALI GIRL 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
While most guys love their woman to do this for them, it is not something you should do if you're not comfortable doing so. No man should "guilt" you into doing something in bed you don't want to do. If you don't mind doing it, then do it as best you can but tell him no more snide comments. If you really don't want to do it, don't do it and let him know you aren't comfortable with it. Either way, if he is a good guy, he'll understand. If he is a jerk (and it sounds like he is), then dump him. This is a sign he cares more about himself than you.
2006-07-25 12:52:19 · answer #1 · answered by Regularguy 5 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Guys think so, yes. If your man is giving you problems about it than he probably would like for you to do it more often. He sounds kind of like a jerk to me. If he cared about your feelings then he wouldn't say rude comments like that. In the grand scheme of things it really shouldn't be a big deal. The fact is men like sex and they like other stuff too. Variety is the spice of life and if there isn't any than he may be getting bored with things. Again he sounds like a big jerk, but remember what the others have already said...if he's not getting it from you, there are plenty of other hoes out there that would be ready and willing.
2006-07-25 12:57:58 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It truly isnt a huge big deal. But some men live for this and want a woman to do this all of the time. Tell your man that you do not really like doing this at all and or all of the time. Tell him that when YOU choose to want to do it then have him show you what he likes and have him show you as gentle as possible. Tell him that if he continues to "force" you or "belittle" you into doing this then he could lose you. And to lose a man over this is retarded. Have him show you the way he like it down, maybe if you are both willing maybe you two can watch a porno and he can tell you which way he like it the best. But....if you do not like to do this then dont!!!
2006-07-25 12:53:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a big fan of getting my you know what suked, it feels really good, and sometimes I have the same arguments with my GF. I feel bad asking for it, its somewhat degrading, so I slip in the little comments, I even try to make a joke of it sometimes. It is really pleasureful whan a woman goes down on a man, it just feels really good, and some guys thta I know prefer it over actual sex. When ever I do get some, I usually reward my GF with a similar favor, she really likes it when I do it to her, and I still dont undersatnd why she is hesitant to do it to me.....
One of those things I guess.
2006-07-25 12:52:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If doing ANYTHING sexual makes you feel uncomfortable, then that means that you shouldn't do it! Sex, and love-making is supposed to be fulfilling, and pleasurable, and if one or both parties feel degraded or demeaned by the act of what they are doing, then its time to dump the zero and get with a hero! NO ONE should make you do anything you don't want to do! Especially in the sex department!
And I just HAVE to add that some of the women on here who answered saying that she SHOULD do it, even if she feel uncomfortable doing it, I can tell that you either have low self-esteem, or your man runs rough-shod over you. I can also tell that you would do anything and everything to please " your man", and that is where you start making the wrong decisions and choices. Whenever you start to lose sight of yourself, and your so intent on focusing on his pleasure, and his needs, then it is time to step back, re-evaluate what you have and ask yourself is it worth it to stay in a relationship where you don't know where you began and he ends! I think you should do what you feel is right FOR YOU, and good luck! I hope that everything turns out ok!
2006-07-25 12:52:52 · answer #5 · answered by pcpaula 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a big deal to men. The ones that act like it is not are full of crap. Trying sucking it a bit and then having sex. You dont have to complete but guys like you to start that way.
2006-07-25 12:52:53 · answer #6 · answered by jimbobb1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its seems like it is a big deal because it feels really good. But if it is putting damper on your sexual relationship then something is wrong. If he loves you than he will accept the fact that you dont' like doing it. Don't beat yourself up over it though.
2006-07-25 12:58:08 · answer #7 · answered by D-man 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just suck it up and do it... don't be such a baby. If you really hate it that much, just have him shower, and that way you know it's clean. Pretend that it's a popsicle, an ice-cream cone, whatever. Just do it. Put some whipped cream on it, and go to town on it like it's your job. If you can't satisfy your man, you don't deserve him... I satisfy mine!
2006-07-25 12:55:31 · answer #8 · answered by A Carmy of One 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
(1) Does he go down on you?
(2) If true then he's PISSED because you are controlling and SELFISH -- why should YOU be the only one ENTITLED to foreplay. That's not a relationship that makes him a little servant.
(3) If not true, then he's just being a jerk that wants what he wants and acts pissy when he don't get it.
2006-07-25 12:54:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It must matter to him. In my view the two people need to be agreeable on the details of the deal. Being agreeable does not include yammering about what's not in the deal or not going to happen, or will happen very, very seldom. Having said that, it's not his fault he keeps yammering about it. My wife doesn't do it either. Would I like her to? H--- yes. But she wouldn't stand for me yapping about what's not in the deal. You don't have to stand for it either. We teach people how to treat us.
2006-07-25 13:07:37 · answer #10 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋