My boyfriend and I have been fighting like crazy. This is not normal. We both live together but now he went on a trip to his home state to soul search per my suggestion. Now I am not sure what to think, he took all his stuff, tells me he is for sure coming back but is staying there for at least 2 weeks. We have never been apart more then one week and I don't know how to act. If I call I feel like I am invading his space. If I don't call I feel like he does'nt think I love him. How do I handle this trip with him by giving his space but letting him know I still love him?
2006-07-25 12:36:51 · 16 answers · asked by Samantha L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
first determine whether you are planning on spending forever with him... if you're not totally certain, then this could be the best thing for both of you. if you are, then give him a little space and ride it out. if you really feel like you need to, it should be okay to call him and let him know you're thinking about him - you've been together long enough to do this without it seeming weird. also, you can always drop him a card / note in the mail, it's less upfront, but can really get your point across - especially when you take the time to actually mail something... you could also mail him a photo of a favorite memory, or something of yours that might feel heartfelt and sentimental :) then after you've reached out once you have to trust your gut… if he doesn't return the favor, or act very excited to hear from you then you can't lie to yourself about it. you can't control other people or make them love you, you can only control how you react to these types of situations.... always remember to respect yourself, always. men may come and go, but you will be stuck with yourself - and your choices - for a long, long time. good luck!
2006-07-25 12:59:11 · answer #1 · answered by hg 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just let him know when he calls you. Talk to him about your arguments and tell him how you feel. Don't let him get off the phone without letting him know....But don't call him so that he has his space. If you give him his space he will have to time to think about everything and realize things about your relationship.
My boyfriend and I had been fighting, although we have only been together 4 months we have been through a lot. He stopped answering his cell phone and so I decided to stop calling him and then he started calling me on his own time so that we could talk. He knew that we both wanted to be together and that I was there for him and so we work those little things out.
So the key is letting him sit and think about you for a while and he'll come around soon enough. It may only take a day or a few hours of not calling him.
2006-07-25 20:03:33 · answer #2 · answered by BbyGrl80 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not normal for people who claim they love each other to be fighting like Crazy. A sensible person would get out as in the long run you can't live like that. Think of this for a moment, life is already hard out there, with the things we have to go through at work etc.
Then to come home to your boyfriend or girlfriend and to be having another issue to deal with.
Like they say on ( Court Television ), there is two sides to every story and then there is the truth. I don't blame the guy for wanting space to find himself and decide if this relationship is worth it with the fighting and what ever else that take place.
You are in a rock and a hard place as which ever way you call it. Calling him have its issues as well as not calling him. Let things place it self out so in the end which ever way things go.
You two will decide from there !
2006-07-25 19:59:51 · answer #3 · answered by Premio 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is probably not planning on coming back in two weeks, but maybe he just wants to really soul search for a while. I'd let him go away for a while, but maybe you could send a card in a few days to let him know you miss him. I hope it works out for you.
2006-07-25 19:44:06 · answer #4 · answered by OnTheShortList 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well look back has he been less with u have he not talked to u latly and talk to him tell him how u fill but do not act like u are mad at him that might make it worse andall soo good luck ^_^
also i can not live with your boyfriend unless u are mairred that is god rule
2006-07-25 19:41:46 · answer #5 · answered by nessa91748 ^_^ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just follow your gut instinct. Don't stress so much about it, if it's meant to be then it will be. If it isn't, then you were let off pretty damn easy.
2006-07-25 19:42:01 · answer #6 · answered by Noah's Mommy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
by the sounds of this you need to just cut your losses and more on. as much is may hurt, you wouldnt fight like you do if it was meant to be.
2006-07-25 19:41:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
call him and let ask him how things are going and let him know you will still be there for him when he gets back. don't get to mushy
2006-07-25 19:40:02 · answer #8 · answered by Mikey B. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him
ask him why he took everything if hes only going to gone a week
2006-07-25 19:41:42 · answer #9 · answered by Lindsey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he took everything, he probably wont come back, if he left something important , that means he would be back for it.
2006-07-25 19:39:25 · answer #10 · answered by robug 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋