My b/f asked me to marry him?

Question

We have been datin 8 months and i really love him and i no we r young but wat should i do??(he is 16 and im 15)

Answer 1

Well, I think you are too young...but sometimes people know if they love that one person and intend to spend the rest of their life with that person....

My recommendation is that you tell him to ask you again in 5 years....the reason I say this is because college changes people a lot. You learn so many things about yourself and other's that you didn't know in high school and so you need that time to discover who you truly are. Tell him, that right now you don't know the future of where you will be...you don't know what college you will be attending, you don't know what you will major in, you don't even know where life will take you in the next 5 years, but what you do know is that you love him and care about him a lot.

Another thing you should consider is asking him where he see's himself in 10 years, ask him what he thinks about marriage, ask him what he expects from marriage and what is the role of a husband and wife? Ask him if he wants children, ask him if he has dated anyone else, and ask him what he what his dreams and goals are. Once you find these things out...check to see if they are compatible with your needs? Ask yourself the same questions and see if what he says is along the same lines as what you think life should/could/would be like in the future.

Marriage isn't something you jump into, its something that you know for sure...and I think you haven't truly gotten to a stage where you know yourself well enough to jump into marriage. I think maybe in 5 years, you will see who you are and then maybe consider getting married but until then, I recommend you talk to him and tell him to ask you again in 5 years and see what happens.

Answer 2

no way, he wants to get in ur pants and then u won't be college bound. U don't know what love is. U think ur gonna marry the first guy when ur 15, most girls think that and it is almost NEVER the case. U got a lot of growing up to do sweetie. I agree, even if ur engaged for two years. Ur college bound right? U grow and change and meet lots of people, Most are waiting and SHOULD wait till ur 28. I agree w kalynn h
spamie165
Karen H
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etc. And I am much older then you, have experience, and have learned about this. And read facts. Don't. I wouldn't, do what the girl said about saying I love u but.....

Answer 3

no dont do it. Im 18, me and my gf have been together 4 mos, but we both want to go to college and we dont think it would be a good idea to marry just now. Seriously. A 16 yr old guy does not know how to be a proper husband or father. And I am pretty sure a 15 yr old girl doesnt know how to be a good and proper wife or mother.

Answer 4

What is with the teens of today? They are bugging or are on drugs. You guys are just kids who haven't been out and lived in the real world. Your life is just beginning. Don't make the mistake and get married. You guys would only hate each other. This is probably your first real big love. If you think he could be the one then a big long engagement then.

Answer 5

Just say no....tell him to get you a promise ring, they just mean eventually in time you two will get engaged to be married. You both are so young and have so much left to do before you go out and get married. Whats the rush?...If you truly love each other than you have the rest of your lives to get married, why do it at such a young age when you should be focusing on school and friends...love doesnt run out of time, if its real.

Answer 6

Don't make this mistake! I am just your age, so I know what it feels like when people tell me that I have no clue what love is. But just please, please wait until you're at least not a minor anymore. That way you don't have kids at the age of 16. Also, if you truely loved this guy and wanted to marry him, you wouldn't have any second thoughts or doubts and certainly wouldn't ask other people if you should marry a guy. It's you're choice...not mine or any body else's that answers your question. But in my opinion, don't put yourself through it. Think about it thouroughly...and hopefully you make a decision that you won't regret.

Answer 7

I know you really love each other, but WAITING is the best thing. You both need to develop as a man and a women. I would at least wait until you guys finish highschool. Alot can change in two years. But, if ya are meant to be it will eventually happen in time. In the meantime, you should ask him to give you a promise ring. That way he is promised to you and you are promised to him. It's to soon!

Answer 8

WOAH that is young. well i would tell him something like, "i really like no love u. but i don't think i am ready for such a comitment. i hope that we love each other untill after collage (whenever u think it is ok to get married). So now i don't think i can say yes. i hope we can still date. if not i hope we can be friends."

If he really loves you then he'll respect ur desicion. and probably just go on. and probably he'll wait for u. or if he really loves u will still date u.

I hope everthing is ok with u two. and i hope he still loves u in the end.

Answer 9

YOU ARE WAY TOO YOUNG TO GET MARRIED. YOU WILL BE MAKING A MISTAKE. YOU MAY THINK YOU KNOW HIM ALL THAT WELL, BUT ONLY HAVE KNOWN HIM FOR 8 MONTHS.....I'M SURE THERE ARE THINGS YOU DONT KNOW ABOUT HIM. TELL HIM YOU LOVE HIM, BUT THE TIME JUST ISNT RIGHT. IF HE LOVES YOU HE WILL WAIT.

Answer 10

Sweety, you are too young, both of you are, trust me, you think it is love, but it really isn't, it's infactuation, look it up. Life has yet to begin for the both of you, really, just wait till you turn 18 not to mention 21! you will meet many many people, and go many many places...don't ruin your life...at least not yet :)