Smacking children- Yay ! or Nay!?

Answer 1

I still get smacked if I am naughty

Answer 2

Smacks on the legs are fine, but make sure they know why you are doing this. If they scream for items in the supermarket trolley, just put the items back on the shelf and dont buy them. If they throw a tantrum and fling themselves on the floor, walk away and leave them there- ignore them. If they hit, kick, punch or bite you, do it back so they know this hurts, then smack their legs. An excellent punishment for older children is to take away their tv watching time, and remove tv, video, computer etc from their use until they do as they are told. It is YOUR home too, and they must respect your wishes and not behave badly; but its up to you to say NO and mean it, not give in ten minutes later because grannie has come round, or because you cant be bothered . Teach them that NO means just that; kids need the security of knowing how far they can go.

Answer 3

Definate Yay.

A disciplinary smack, not a blow to the head, using an object or causing physical damage.

I was given the occasional smack as a child, we were well behaved - had a respect for our mother, NOT a fear - and any physical discipline was ALWAYS accompanied with a reason, usually after a verbal warning had been given.

The useless hippies that go "No! It's assault!" should all stop & think WHY EVERY COUNTRY, not just families has a horrendous youth culture. I can sit here aged 32 and think that we were respectful of our elders, any authority figures, teachers etc. Now that you idiots have removed ALL of the consequences for bad behaviour except 'talk gently to them' or 'send them on a £10k holiday - they are underpriveledged'. I hope these little s*&!$ verbally abuse you, smash up your house, tell your mother "to go *&*(& herself" and throw dog *(&(* at you in the street! THEN we'll see if you feel the same way....!!

Answer 4

Well i was smacked as a child and i don't feel i am affected by it, plus i was always given a few warnings before hand " stop doing that or you will get a smack" i did it again " i am warning you you are going to get a smack" i did it again and then i got a smack. Nothing terrrible but a shock. But i do not think we should be disciplining our children in this way, it is basically showing that the parent has lost control of the situation and therefore has to resort to violence. I believe there are much better alternatives than causing pain to a small child, such as them losing priviliges. If i told an adult that i was going to hit them if they didn't behave the way i wanted them to and then i proceeded to hit them, i would be arrested. By smacking we are teaching children that violence is a way to resolve things, it is not.

Answer 5

On the rearend immediately after doing something bad, sure. In the face or body or for not doing anything at all, never!

Parents shouldn't be afraid to reprimand their children as long as it's done maturely and appropriately. If they are trying to hurt the cat, then they deserve a good firm palm to the rear (not enough to seriously hurt them or anything, just enough so they feel it and know it was wrong so they know not to do it again). But if they drop their bouncy ball and get a pouty face, that's NOT a time to hit them. Face it, kids don't listen and aren't fully capable of learning from just telling them not to do something. You need to show them that bad things will come from the bad things they do. Just please please use sparingly and ONLY when absolutely neccessary. Some people get carried away and beat the child half to death just for dropping a glass cup or something. Accidents happen. So use your best judgement to decide whether it's a good time to teach a lesson, or whether it would be better to just scold them or move them away from whatever the problem is.

And it also only works if it's right after whatever the kid did wrong. If they're screaming and crying in the grocery store, taking them home and then hitting them won't do anything at all because they won't make the connection between the grocery store screaming and the punishment. Many people don't realize that and that's what constitutes Child Abuse (incorrect or ineffective discipline). The kid needs to be able to easily make the connection between the cause and effect. Make them repeat it back to you though, like if you swat them on the rear and say "do not pull on the cat's tail" make them repeat back "I won't pull on the cat's tail again" so you know they made the connection.

There's always a right and wrong way to discipline a child, and many people don't know. It's kind of sad really.

Answer 6

It does take a little more work to avoid hitting kids. But since there's a fine line between hitting as discipline and hitting out of anger/abuse, it's worth it to learn non-hitting techniques for disciplining children. And if you smack kids that are not your own, it can be easily misunderstood and be much worse!

Smacking children is a mostly a lazy way to correct behavior and makes the person doing it look like a bully since it only works as long as you're bigger than the child.

I was never smacked, nor did I smack my child. You can outsmart them and stay ahead of them a little and get cooperation from them so, so easily that to smack them just makes you look bad.

Answer 7

Yay beat them till there black and blue. No only joking i have found smacking to be pointless especially with my lot i have other tactics for punishment and find that works lot better. My favourite one at the moment is asking what i should do when they have been naughty they usually come up with going to there bedroom but when i say well go they realise they have done it to themselves and go ballistic much better than smacking gonna have to change this one soon cause i think that the eldest is catching on

Answer 8

Smacking, I assume you mean, is spanking. I used it as a last resort, when all other means had failed, and only when my kid knew, without a doubt, he was doing wrong. I think I had to do it once with one of the three boys I had, and it was only one good swat on the bottom, my bare hand on his clothed butt. That was the one and only time any of the three went so far to warrant spanking. I reasoned with them, let them see why the rules were there, and they were willing to follow them. I also reserved a raised voice for those special occasions when needed, about once every few years. They knew, when I yelled, that the goofing was over and the rapture was near. They'd stop in their tracks, and knew they'd screwed up, no argument. No cussing at all, I let words show what I felt, in a calm, quiet voice. I'd just holler "HEY' at the top of my lungs to get their attention. It usually got every kid within earshot to snap to attention, even the ones who weren't related. Spanking is okay, beating is not, slapping is not.

Answer 9

I'm a mum of 4 and I do agree with smacking the child if it's naughty but i don't think it does an awful lot of good to be honest.
Punishment works better.

Answer 10

Well, depends on the people and their personal choices. I think time out works better. A swat on the butt maybe, but nothing else. The thing about hitting children is that most of the time it is done when the parent is very angry. And that's the worst possible time to spank a child, you may hit harder than you think you are

Answer 11

If they deserve it, go ahead. That way they will learn to not do it again. Yelling at someone or speaking softly doesn't change their behavior. But spanking shouldn't be to the point of child abuse. I used to get spankings when I was really bad, and I turned out well discipline and polite. Kids that I know of that have never got a spanking are rude, and unruly children. :/