Every time he get mad at me he starts hitting me on my leg and arm, bitting me on my neck but instead of me crying he cry; saying that I dont take him seriously and he dont want to do this but he see he have to put me in check because he dont want me to be hanging on the streets doing nothing good with my life.
2006-07-25 11:50:08 · 27 answers · asked by ms.hershey06 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he is showing signs of an abuser, yes it does get worse, he needs help
2006-07-25 11:52:36 · answer #1 · answered by crazylarry88 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. The answer is that simple.
1. He has to put you in check? What are you a pet?
2. He doesn't want you hanging on the streets? Wow, what a low opinion he has of you.
3. You said once in the question, but then say "everytime he gets mad at me..." so you've answered your own question.
He's showing all the signs of an abuser. He verbally assaults you to lower you defenses and your self esteem, then he follows it up with physical abuse to control you.
2006-07-25 11:57:05 · answer #2 · answered by JB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl what the hell are you doing staying with this man? or should I say 'boy'? I had 1 relationship, and it finally got to the point when I had to call the cops on him he had thrown a chair at me at taco bell! In front of everyone! I was humiliated!!! He went to jail for like 6 months and I ended up leaving him. Somethin I shouldve done a long time ago. So now I'm with another loser, but at least he doesnt hit me! Get away from him you dont deserve that type of disrespect! He is trying to control you and you're letting him by allowing him to treat you like that. tell him to cry you a f*ckin river and walk out of his life.
2006-07-25 11:58:00 · answer #3 · answered by BigBrownEyez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes he will hit you again. Your b/f has serious rage problems. He needs to be checked into a clinic where they can further evaluate his head. It gets worse the more your around someone like this the more abuse is performed. These abusers can become stalkers and find you and beat you. If you dont get a restraining order against him when you break it off with him. Its hard but whatever you decide Good Luck.*
2006-07-25 11:59:44 · answer #4 · answered by girl176a1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should never hit you. If he hits you once, he will almost definitely hit you again.
Most abusers try to make the person being abused feel like it is their fault. "You made me do this" and so on.
While there is no excuse for his behavior, his fears may be justified. You should not be hanging on the streets and going nowhere. He probably does want the best for you but doesn't know how to show it.
Break up with the abuser and get a job.
2006-07-25 11:54:27 · answer #5 · answered by Calindi15 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doens't matter what's going on between the 2 of you. Hurting one another is not an solution. Once this starts in a relationship, it doesn't go away. In fact it can get worse, much worse. It rarely, if ever, stops. Tell him how you feel, if you really want to work it out between the two fo you try counseling and anger management. The best way to deal with this situation is that or leave him. He doesn't love or respect you, if he hurts you. Hope this helps.
2006-07-25 11:56:42 · answer #6 · answered by blackcola05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey I am a mother of two girls & I grew up with a very abusive father! My dad use to beat my mom all the time (almost killed her a few times) get away from this guy!!! If a man or boy in your life fears you doing something with yourself he is an idiot. A good boyfriend should want great things for you! He should be supportive of your goals & dreams!! Screw this guy, he sounds like a low life!! Stay focused & don't let anyone disrespect you!! the next time he puts his hands on you, youtell him to get the **** off of you!!!!!! Bets of luck!!!
2006-07-25 11:56:41 · answer #7 · answered by Jm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No guy should EVER hit a girl..i don't care what the girl does.
Once a hitter, always a hitter...
Tell him that you don't like that...and you didn't appriceate it. And if he says he won't do it again...don't believe him, leave his butt...don't trust him. My sister went through the same stuff..and she's still with him...and today he's strangling her...which isn't a healthy relationship...you dont' deserve anything he's giving you...i dont' care if sometimes he makes you feel special...a girl needs to ALWAYS feel special...and theres no reason to hit a girl...NONE at all...
2006-07-25 11:58:40 · answer #8 · answered by Nanner♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES!!! Run fast and far.
He'll say that it's for your own good and he's sorry and it'll never happen again but it will. He'll appologize but he'll qualify the appology. "I'm sorry but you just make me so mad." That way it's YOUR fault and not his.
It will only get worse. You should never let anyone abuse you and that's what this is. If you're afraid to leave contact your local womans abuse shelter and they can help you get out of the relationship.
2006-07-25 11:57:45 · answer #9 · answered by katrinajoy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him, please. He will do it again because he claims he "wants to protect you". He'll also tell you he loves you. But he's not in love with you, he's in love with the idea that he can take out his anger in a physical way against you and telling you he loves you will keep you from leaving him, so that he can hurt you more. You're just his punching bag. And even if he did love you, he would not stop. The more you stay with him, the more reasons he will find to continue. Every little thing he considers you do "wrong", he will resort physical harm on you. Please stop seeing him for your own sake. You might think it's love, but what will it be once he escalates ?
2006-07-25 11:56:47 · answer #10 · answered by loosenupmybuttons 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First instinct is that he's being abusive, but the more I read your question it seems like he's just frustrated and can't think of a better way to help you. Sounds like you have him worried. I'd take a look at your own life and see if you're making healthy decisions.
2006-07-25 11:55:18 · answer #11 · answered by Kanga_tush2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋