My boyfriend is getting anxious to do it but im not ready...?

Question

And i know his friends are pressuring him, and laughing at him cuz we been together a long time and still havent done it, how do i tell him im not ready?

He's not pressuring me and we have been together on and off for 10 months

Answer 1

You just tell him, no playing games about it, it is far too big and important a thing to give in to because of pressure by anyone. It has nothing to do with his friends, they won't be there, it isn't their lives and they won't have to live with the consequences, you will. Besides that why do they know whats going on with the two of you anyway? Do you really want to do this with a boy that you know is going to run his mouth about it to his friends? Thats just wrong anyway. His response to his friends should be what happens between us is none of your business, if it was I'd be sure to let you know.

This is something that will be with you the rest of your life and once its done you can never, ever take it back and you certainly don't want to do it for the wrong reasons. There are consequences, some severe and life altering, if you aren't ready to deal with those possibilities there is no way you are ready to do it. You need to educate yourself on all the possible repercussions and you need to know beforehand what precautions you are going to take to avoid them, yes i'm talking about birth control and sexually transmitted diseases. If you have questions about any of those things find the answers before you even think about it. What are his plans for birth control (and yes you can get pregnant just from doing it once, hec you can get pregnant without even really having penetration). If he can't understand that then you need a new boyfriend, no question about it. Good luck and stick to your guns!

Answer 2

Flat out tell him no. If he can't accept that, dump him. You should never be pressured into having sex with someone. You can be nice about it and just tell him, "Look, I'm not ready yet. I want this to be special, not just something you did because your friends were pressuring you." If he can't understand that, then he's not boyfriend material.

Answer 3

How do you want to feel? Just because someone wants you to do something doesn't man you have to. Ex. if was wanted to jump in front of a moving truck with you would you? Why do you want to sleep with him? To most guys it's just sex, just a piece of meat. Once they have it time to move on. Depending of there age. Are you ready to let him go if that's all he wants? Everyone would love to climb the highest mountains but very few reach the top. Remember that and you'll be fine. Good things come to those who wait. How do you want to feel? Like a piece of meat or respected and keeping your virtue. Anyone who can't respect your wish is not worth being with.

Answer 4

sweety if he is immature enough to let himself be pressured by a bunch of loosers, maybe u shouldnt be with him in the first place, but u should totaly tell him that u r not ready, and if he doesnt want to wait, that means he doesnt respect u, so do u really want to be with a guy who doesnt respect u? if he really loves u, he'll respect ur decision and wait, no matter how much his friends are pressuring him, dont ever do u if ur not ready, its gonna hurt like hell, and chances are if he starts he wont want to stop even if it hurts u, he'll probably say things like "dont worry, u just have to get use to it, the more we do it, less pain u'll feel" that is so not true, if ur not ready it'll hurt, cuz u wont want it, dont let urself be treated like that

Answer 5

Just curious but why are you not ready. Sex is really important to a guy and when a girl doesnt want to do it they feel insulted. His friends have no right what goes on in your relationship so they have no say in it. But what are your reasons for waiting if they are important speak them clearly to him and he should understand, if you realize they are silly go for it. Sex is only as big a deal as you make it out to be and can be quite fun once you experience it. But only you know what you want and what it is you are waiting for.

Answer 6

Just simply tell him, that you are sorry that you are getting made fun of but I am not ready and dont want to do something i dont feel comfortable with. There is no way you can go through with it if your not ready cause you will be insanly depressed afterward and he will just feel guilty about it and your relationship wont work. Just tell him your not ready, and if he cant except that then you dont need to be his girlfriend.... plain and simple

Answer 7

First of all, this is your body, not his. You stick to your decision, when you are ready , you won't be needing to ask people on Yahoo. Also how old are you ? if you under 18 WAIT Please!
I don't want to get into details,but when a woman loses her virginity it is very special, most men don't understand. Also,t theres a lot to think about before having sex.
You are the one that will get a disease ( if he has one) you can get pregnant ( not him ) you will have to deal with the consequences if you get pregnant. So please again, I am begging you wait ... Try to make a deal with yourself and wait until your 18.

Answer 8

If you have been together for a long time and you havent figured out how to say no yet, then dont worry maybe he only likes guys.

Answer 9

FIRST OFF, PRETTY MUCH EVERY BOYFRIEND YOU EVER HAVE WILL BE "ANXIOUS" TO "DO IT". THE ONE AND ONLY QUESTION YOU HAVE TO ASK YOURSELF, IS....DO "I" WANT TO. IF YOU'RE NOT READY, THAT'S AS FAR AS YOU NEED TO GO WITH ANALYZING THE SITUATION. IF THE ANSWER IS NO, THEN IF HE REALLY LOVES YOU AND WANTS WHAT'S BEST FOR YOU, THEN HE'LL BE WILLING TO WAIT. IT DOESN'T MATTER IF HIS FRIENDS ARE LAUGHING AT HIM. FRIENDS WILL ALWAYS FIND SOMETHING TO PICK ON YOU ABOUT. DON'T LET ANYONE MAKE THIS DECISION FOR YOU, BUT "YOU". YOU ARE WORTH WAITING FOR.

Answer 10

Just take a danger, should you suppose like you'll be able to. Most of my relationships while I began relationship have been with my man peers, on account that there used to be virtually no stress. That used to be 12 and thirteen incidentally :). My first courting nevertheless used to be with this man I preferred who rode my bus proper earlier than seventh grade began, and he grew to become out to be a truly asshole. Just ease into it with a man you are relaxed with however do not suppose confused approximately kissing - you desire your first kiss to intend whatever.