she went on friday i didnt see her and she never said anything to me the night before either, she didn't say where she was going or who with, she isn't like a normal mom she never told me she loved me like other people's moms do she never cared for me all she thought about was herself all the time my older sister is getting married early in august and she won't turn up for her big day or hen night personally i think she is just shady. i don't know when i'll see her again i have sent her texts and calls but she never replies them even when her phone is on she'll just ignore me. she has always been like this as far as i can remeber the one thing i want off my mom is respect and to be loved and she can't provide that for me. i have never felt loved for really in my life everything seems to fall apart even why i try to do the right things. that's why i can never find someone to love not because i'm ugly it's just it's hard. i just wanted to tell her that i loved her but now i can't.
2006-07-25 11:42:59 · 30 answers · asked by manda.garrett 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Some people just aren't cut out to be mums and dads and it has nothing to do with their children.
It's very easy to find yourself in a situation you don't want to be in...Most people just tough it out and try to do the very best they can with what they've got...but for the selfish ones (and I don't mean to be disrespectful) it's far easier to walk away.
Maybe she doesn't answer your texts or calls because deep inside she does love you and she's really hurting and to talk to you would bring her back to a situation she's just not comfortable to be in.
You don't say what age you are but I totally believe that there is someone out there for everyone and you will find them when you are not expecting it.
Don't ever blame yourself..
Maybe she wouldn't have left if I was.....
Maybe she'd love me if I was.....
This aint nothing to do with you babe......But I can understand your feeling pretty bad.
Take comfort from your sister...she's the only person who really knows how your feeling..cause her mum walked out on her too.
Take care...x
2006-07-28 12:35:36 · answer #1 · answered by audrey_o 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a hard situation for anyone to go through. HOney, how old are you? Who are you living with? The first think that you need to know, is that it's not your fault. You didn't do anything to deserve this. Second, you are not unlovable. It sounds like you love your mom and your sister very much, and you deserve much more than you are getting. Is there someone that you can go to to talk? The minister at your church, or a teacher that you trust? A friend's mom? You need to build a support group around yourself, with people who you can depend on, and who truly care for you. Keep trying to do the right things, and stay in school, stay out of trouble. Do it for you, you are a good person, and you can have everything you want and need. Perhaps, someday, your mom will realize that she pushed away the most important things, her childen, and will try to make amends. But for now, just take care of you for you. I will pray for you.
2006-07-25 11:52:32 · answer #2 · answered by mightymite1957 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I kinda know what its like to miss some one, but to not feel love, i cant comprehend how bad it must be for u, im 20 years old, and my mom died when i was 8, so along with, not being able to have a mother i miss out on being best friends with my mother, when im older and settled down, pregnant i wont have my mother to ask all d nitty grittya questions mothers are supposed to tell ya, this is why i really urge u to seek counselling of some sort, and maybe is ur mother depressed, maybe try talk her into going if u get the chance to c her again, if possible, but at the end of the day u are not responsible for ur mothers feeling or actions, der is prob nothing u cud of done if u saw her before going, just help ur self before helping others!!!!!
2006-07-25 12:45:47 · answer #3 · answered by MissElection 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey honey the most important thing to remember is this,its not your fault that your mum has left but she does owe you an explanation.Maybe give her about a week then call her and if she does not answer then write her a letter.Whatever happens never give up hope or blame yourself obviously your mum has issues that she is not ready to discuss with you yet...i am not saying what she has done is right,far from it i think she has taken the easy way out that can be very damaging to you and your family..Never put yourself down there is someone out there that will love you just dont let your mums behaviour make you think otherwise.....Good luck.
2006-07-26 08:32:13 · answer #4 · answered by sarah y 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can help you there, my dad is an alcohlic, and all he did was drink, drink. He never said he was sorry for making my life miserable. Every now and then i talk to him but he is always drunk so that never helps. Do what i do, look at the things you have around you, be happy for what you got. Don't let yourself feel guilty all your life, because when you are successful and have the life you always wanted, you'll forget about this. Your mom will come around soon, and when she does, don't be angry, talk to her like an normal adult. Ask her questions, like "why did you leave?" cry if you have too. That will show your mom that all your life was filled with pain because she left without saying bye or why she left, or who she left with.
2006-07-25 12:05:37 · answer #5 · answered by munchy_101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, you poor child!! well first off if this stuff is all true... your mom is very selfish!!!!!! She needs a reality check!! No matter what your mom knows that you love her!! She aslo most definitely loves you too, She is probably going through some kind of midlife crisis or something!! Give it time, i am sure you will here from her. Just wait it out! Don;t be angry when you hear from her, just try to calmy express yourself to her! It will make you feel better & get her to listen to you! No matter what Your mom loves you! I am a mom of two girls. I know it must be hard for you, but just try & clear your mind & do things to keep yourself busy!! Okay Best of luck to you!!!
2006-07-25 11:51:48 · answer #6 · answered by Jm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry... It must be really tough to be going through all that. I suggest that you call her and leave a message telling her how you feel. It might make you feel a bit better by letting her know. Even if she does not reply, you know yourself best, and you need to feel more confidence. I know it's hard but just let go of your sadness and anger. Be optimistic of what you have. If there isn't a mom to talk to, talk to your dad or your older sister. They might be going through the same thing. Just let your negative feelings go.
2006-07-28 04:37:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Your mom is all screwed up.
2. It's not your fault and has nothing to do with you -- she is just a loser.
3. Do what you need to do for yourself, and keep yourself (physically and emotionally) healthy.
4. DO NOT IN ANY WAY BECOME LIKE HER. That means you've always gotta keep two things in mind: do the best you can in school (school is gonna rescue you), and do not get involved in any self destructive behavior (just look at what you want to do -- if it don't smell right, stay away).
BTW, it's OK to hurt, and to miss her, and to feel bad for yourself. But just remember she's the s h i t, not you.
You sound like you really got alot of stuff together, and if you ever feel like chatting, drop me a line.
Good luck.
2006-07-25 12:06:26 · answer #8 · answered by profdave99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry about your situation. Maybe your mom just isn't happy with her own life and she just wants to find the kind of happiness she wants somewhere else. You can always pray and hope that there will be the day that everything will work out. Never lose faith.
2006-07-25 11:48:29 · answer #9 · answered by Jj 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know its hard because you want a mum like everyone one around has but you need to face it she is never going to be there for you if she hasn't now. There is one good thing that you have got and that is you are strong and tough because you have done it on your own and your kids when they come are going to have the best mother in the world. Good luck
2006-07-25 12:10:09 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋