Ok, today i went to wash clothes with my mother and when we got there, I realized i accidently forgot my set of towels, so she got pissed, saying stuff like i am worth nothing, and I'm stupid. Then she said that I am a loser and that it must be genetics (referring to my dad.) Then i said if I am a loser then you are a b itch. It pisses me off when people put me down especially my mom. I hate it here and I hate it even more at my dad's because he is abusive, so where do I go from now or how do I make it better??
2006-07-25 11:37:40 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i am 14 years old
2006-07-25 11:46:27 · update #1
What you are describing is emotional abuse and it is against the law. I don't know how old you are but you don't have to live that way. If what you are saying is true, then try talking to a counselor at school. Don't let it fester and blow up. Take care of yourself.
2006-07-25 11:43:00 · answer #1 · answered by shirley_corsini 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People who abuse others, especially loved ones or family members, are tormented somehow and they take it out on them. Despite your anger towards your mother, maybe show her some love, say some kind words, do something nice. Really try hard there, it may take her a bit to come around, and that can be hurtful, to get insulted even after doing something nice. If that doesn't bring her around, perhaps a neighbor would be willing to mediate. If she doesn't go for that, then try to make her proud in school or job or whatever you are doing with yourself. But don't break your back there. If by then she refuses to show love back, there are deeper issues at play. She or both of you may need therapy, and if you aren't willing to do that, then just stick it out best you can until you move out. Just don't give her reasons to come down on you, or it'll be hard hard hard! Good luck~ and remember, just because your mother has a hard time showing love, doesn't mean it doesn't exist elsewhere.
2006-07-25 18:43:55 · answer #2 · answered by TwilightWalker97 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If what you're saying is true, then both of your parents suck. Tough it out until you graduate, and then cut ties with them if they aren't willing to grow and change. Rather than call your mom names, just ignore her. Don't give her the satisfaction of knowing she can get a rise out of you at any time. It's been my experience that if people are treated better, they tend to respond better (treat her like a lady and eventually she'll start acting like one).
2006-07-25 19:12:47 · answer #3 · answered by elizabeth_ashley44 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? Are you old enough to drive? If so, do your laundry on your own. That way moms doesn't know you screwed up.
Your mom shouldn't put you down. No matter who your daddy is.
Is it possible for you to get your own place?
2006-07-25 18:44:00 · answer #4 · answered by Jessie P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have no answer for you, but to pray and read your bible. Most parents take their bad life out on the kids.
2006-07-25 18:43:26 · answer #5 · answered by winnp1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋