This has been bugging me, how about you?

Question

How come kids are growing up so fast. Im 20 and im hearing about 13 year olds having sex...this is CRAZY!!! what is going on here? what his changed since i was a kid??? why are all of the children become adult minded at such a early age, why arent the parents doing their jobs and teach kids that this isnt NORMAL. Its sick, its wrong...I feel sorry for that generation of kids. :-(

Answer 1

You are very right children grow up way to fast and try to skip most of their childhood. It makes me sad when I look around me and see young children behave like grown ups and parents thinking that it's all just okay which it is not.
It's hard raising children nowadays. I give my children rules they are not allowed to spend all day behind the computer, they are not allowed to chat or to watch everything what's on TV. They have to help with things in and round the house and treat other's with respect because they need to learn to be responsible. They have to be home in time. We always spend a lot of together and make sure that every dinner time is spend together as a family. It's important for parents be interested in their children and to invest time and energy in them. I don't want my children to act as grown ups. I want them to enjoy their childhood as long as possible and give them all the love, respect and attention that they need to become responsible adults that treat other people with respect and friendliness. It seems that a lot of parents don't have or don't want to make the time for that anymore and I worry about their children and what may become of them. Because the two most precuois gifts in the world are the gift of life and the gift of love. Children are so beautiful and vulnerable and in order to make them grow up right they need all the love and repect and attention so they can develop themselves and follow their heart and make their dreams come true. It's not right for children to grow up so fast and start having sex in a very early age. they don't even know enough about themselves so how can they know about love and all what comes along with it. Sexuality should be something beautiful between two people who truly love and respect each other and not something cheap and easy that you just do because your friends and others do it and think that you should do it also.

Answer 2

I agree with you. I think it the generation. Kids today are raised by kids not the parents. Most families both parents work and the children are left alone from the time school gets out till the parents get home (up to 4-5 hours). Then there is the single parent households where the parent is also gone trying to make ends meet, maybe working 2 jobs and the kids then have to raise themselves. I think the biggest problem with today's children is that they are not allowed to be children they are forced into adult rolls at an early age then we don't understand why they want to act like an adult. Maybe if parents took responsibility of raising their children and not leaving it up to others most children would be better off. The problem is also the society accepts this behavior as NORMAL now. Well you get my message. If you are going to be a parent then be a parent.

Answer 3

It is easier to get information about things, like sex, via the internet, cell phones and TV. Many things aren't edited or if they are edited very easy to get around. So kids are exposed to things I had never even heard of when I was the same age.
Parents now also seem to be more preoccupied, be it working extra jobs or hours to make ends meet, or online, or in front of the TV ignoring the kids. That seems to contribute to the TV babysitting kids and teaching them the things they see are acceptable....while their parent isn't present to say "no that isn't right and this is why"
I have three boys of my own (4, 6, and 7), and it is rough trying to decide what is acceptable and what they are going to find out anyway from a friend. When I got the pamphlet from the grade school saying that children as an average have their first sexual experience by the age of 10 I lost it. I'm not explaining safe sex to a 7 year old! I'll grit my teeth and do it anyway...because it my responsibility as his mom to make sure he has the right information to thrive.

Answer 4

Honestly, this isn't new. I'm 17 years older than you are; in fourth grade, I knew two kids who had sex with each other, my age. Not so many generations ago, 13 would have been considered the age of adulthood. The twentieth century actually had kids growing up SLOWER than previous centuries.

Still, 13 is too young to be having sex. And yes, it's a matter of easy access and over exposure to sexually explicit material. Which is better: seeing sex on tv and learning about it that way, or getting sex education in school, so you learn the good and the bad parts of it (STDs, pregnancy, how to prevent same...)?

You decide.

Answer 5

I think it's because there are a lot of absent parents. Society has made it so both parents (if there are 2 ) have to work and are gone 12 hours a day so kids have to raise themselves. Most kids are reaching out to feel some kind of "love" whether healthy or not. They are uneducated and have a bad case of "I'm invincible" but I've heard HIV and AIDS cases are on the rise. and I've heard that now the youngest mother on record is 11 (she's from the UK and was raped but hello who rapes 11 year olds and what kind of parent lets her have ) Hopefully someone somewhere learns from it though and stops this history from repeating it's self

Answer 6

Because there is now a sense of abandonment among children that was unheard until the last few years.
Families are falling apart and children are looking for a sense of belonging.
This feeling so permeates that children who have good homes think that they are abnormal if they are not experimenting with alternate forms of affection.

Someone else on here said that parents now want to be their children's friends. I agree. This can lead to children being the "adult" in many relationships with those who ought to be raising them.

Answer 7

I feel the same way. I have a 14 year old daughter and a 6 year old daughter and I have to say it's a daily fight to keep them as innocent as I can. My eldest is already into boys and I've been to h*ll and back to keep her "clean" and my youngest is going through the "I'm fat" stage already. it's not always the parents, my boyfriends very strick with them as well as I am but the other kids out there play a big part in it. I think that they should inforce parenting classes into high school, if it's gets much worse, junior high should have it too

Answer 8

I overheard an 8 and 9 year old talking about 'being with' men-asking each other how many they had had....each one said 4, and they listed their ages as 11, 14, etc.

Part of it is society as a whole. Part of it is how children are raised. Parents are younger and younger everyday. The youngest we had in our agency was 12 years, 2 months old and pregnant. Heartbreaking.

Answer 9

That's something I've always thought about too.... When I was a senior in high school, there were 9th graders there that were pregnant and I couldn't understand why they were in such a rush either....I'm 22 now and 9th graders are still getting pregnant......I think most parents now a days are young themselves and they want to be friends with their kids instead of their parent.... I think its sad...

Answer 10

I'm sorry you feel that way but you are part of the same generation. When I was in my late teens early 20's (early 30's now) people your age in their early teens were having sex. Just because you weren't doing it doesn't mean it didn't happen. You just hear about it more now.
It is sad but it will take a lot to shift that direction of thought. (mostly better parenting)