mean little kid?

Question

ok, here's the deal- i'll babysit my cousins kid sometimes, he's 3 and my son is 2. somehow, whenever i babsit him, he'll be really mean to my son! he will push him over, break his toys... i don't know why he does this! what am i supposed to tell my cousin lol

is he jealous? i don't see how this could be it, because he is so spoiled

Answer 1

It sounds like he is acting out his frustrations for being left by his parents. It's a hard situation to be in as a babysitter. Each time he does something like that, you need to have him sit in a (time out) spot for three minutes (one minute for each yr he is) so that he will learn that kind of behavior is not acceptable. But you will also need to let his parents know what is going on so they can get a handle on this behavior before he gets older because if not, it will only get worse.

Answer 2

do you ever spend time with your cousin and child together? Maybe have coffee together rather than just babysitting, and see if the behaviour is different when there are 2 adults present. If it doesnot change then your cousin can see what is happening. Mind you, you will have to mention the childs behaviour to your cousin as to what happens when you do babysit. does your cousin ever comment on the childs behaviour? you know, gee he is a handful etc. or is it only when you have him. You must try and bring it to the parents attention, tactfully, of course - no-one likes to think that they have a brat on their hands. this behaviour is socially unacceptable and needs to be rectified for everyones sake.

Answer 3

sometimes is not easy to tell others what you think about their kids specially if you are a mom, but one thing i think you should do is... as soon as your cousin kid arrives your home let him know the rules of the house, tell him that in your house is not allowed to push or destroy things other wise there will be consequences like no TV or treats and even time out. Make sure this goes for your kid too so the other one does not feel bad. let your cousin know the rules of your house so she can also let her son know. the kids may be small but they do understand and listen to us. let your cousin know how he behaves in your place and that that behavior is not acceptable.

Answer 4

He does this because he is three. Three year olds have not mastered self-regulation yet, so it is easy for them to get out of hand quickly when they get excited or angry. Your son is also younger... that makes him a prime target. You have to SHOW the child what you expect of him, as well as tell him. "I want you to touch Timmy nicely, like this." and demonstrate with your hands how you touch softly. You also have to be firm (not mean) with discipline. You give a warning, "I need you to touch softly or you will have to sit (in some designated spot)" Then, if the behavior continues, you take the child to the spot and have him sit for 1 minute per year of age (so, three minutes for a three-year-old). During this time, you do not make eye contact, you do not speak or argue with his point of view, you just wait nearby for the time limit to be up. When the time is over, you go to him, get down to eye level with him, and say something like, "Thank you for sitting. I need you to touch your cousin gently. No hitting. You may get up now." You have to follow through with the same plan EVERY time he does the undesired behavior. If you are consistent in your discipline, he will get the idea pretty quickly of what is expected of him. I work at a preschool for children with behaviour issues and disabilities, and this is the plan that we suggest to parents to follow at home. As for talking to your cousin... they need to know what their child is doing and how you are handling it. Simply say, "Look, when I have been babysitting, I have noticed that Jimmy tends to pick on Timmy a lot. Do you notice that he does this with other kids? How do you handle it when you see him doing this?" By soliciting your cousin's advice, you will not only alert her to the problem, but you can then talk about how you should handle her son when she is gone. She may have a completely different way of disciplining, and may not be consistent or something. Toddlers need to know what is expected of them in order for them to comply. Outline your expectations, and then make sure you enforce them.

Answer 5

kids do get mean!!!! I have 3 little cousins who just beat on each other they bite hit, scream in there face, pull there shirts, throw things at them and the oldest one is 5 then 4 then 2 Its a mad house when i'm with them!!!!! I really don't know what you should say to them.Just tell them to stop or you go to time out!!

Answer 6

well, i can speak for your cousin's kid, 'cause my son is just like him! at home he is a pretty good guy, listens to me, plays contently by himself, etc. however, whenever i see him around other children his age he will be very bossy and mean--he gets upset when other people tell him "no" or try and punish him. i have to say it is probably because he is so used to being by himself, with just his mommy and daddy to discipline him.
i think if you watch your cousin's son long enough he will change his attitude and won't be as mean. try and explain to him to be nice to his cousin, since he is 3 he should be able to understand things fairly well.
believe me, it will get better if you try and help. my son is getting better every time he sees his friends, it just takes time and patience. :-)

Answer 7

Your right he is spoiled and don't know how to share or play with anyone else. Nobodys ever taught him that. Tell but also try working with him by finding something they have to do together like tic tac toe, playing a game of catch, or something to help you out that they both have to work together to do. If that don't work then some kids are just that way and can't work with anyone and his mom should get him help.

Answer 8

Because the kid is too spoiled and used to having all the attention. So he acts out to get u attention and acts in a ngative way. Good Luck!

Answer 9

possibly. does your cousin spoil him, but doesnt give him real love? maybe he sees that your son gets real love, and he wants that so he thinks if he can put your son down he'll get some love.

or maybe the kid is a brat and needs a good old fashioned whippin'!!!

Answer 10

put him in the corner and tell ur cousin to take care of the rest. this kid has serious emotional issues