My mom is totally consumed in coke and meth and i feel like she doesn't love me. i know she can love because she loves my younger brother. it was always brandi this is all your fault , brandi you ruined my life , or my personel favorite brandi why are you so stupid. i'm 5 foot 3 130lbs. my moms always sayin how fat i am, am i really fat. i'm a major tomboy, does that make her not love me? Wuts wrong with me? i'm only 13, how can she treat me this way?
2006-07-25 11:17:13 · 12 answers · asked by Kitty Kat 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
your mother is the one with the problem. you must seek self love to overcome these feelings of inadequacy that your mother has successfully instilled in you since you were a small child. i don't know why your mom said that you ruined her life but maybe there is an underlined reason that you do not have anything to do with. stay strong and seek counseling from a higher being. Brandi you have to believe in yourself and realize that it is the drugs talking for her.
2006-07-25 11:25:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your mother is projecting her own self-loathing on to you. That means she hates herself and probably with good reason. If you're the oldest, that's another reason.
She'll blame you for her mistakes, but they are not your fault, there's no way they could be.
5'3 and 130 for the age of 13 is at the 88th percentile for your age, height and gender, according to the Body Mass Index scale, which says it's a healthy weight. However, you're close to the top of the scale, so be sure to monitor your weight.
Nothing wrong with being a tomboy, and there's nothing wrong with you, but your mother is really disturbed. You need to get out to live with a relative or someone else.
2006-07-25 11:29:43 · answer #2 · answered by chairman_of_the_bored_04 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your answer is 'coke and meth'.....That's what's wrong with your mom, not you. There is nothing that is going on that is your fault. You need to go in and talk with a counselor at school, tell them you need help. The situation you're in is not healthy for you or your brother,,,,or even your mom. She needs to have some intervention from Narcotics Anonymous and help to break her addiction that has her under it's control.
2006-07-25 11:25:52 · answer #3 · answered by yep_yep_2004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with you. The problem is her. She needs to get help from like NA or some type of rehab clinic. I would advise calling like the BoysTown National Hotline and ask them for help on how to deal with your mother. A mother should not be treating her daughter this way, especially if that mother loves another sibling. Its not right.
2006-07-25 11:26:11 · answer #4 · answered by wes_borland80 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh sweety, I am so sorry. If she is into drugs you need to seek some serious help. I have a mother-in-law and a brother who are drug attics and alcoholics. Its the drugs that make them that way. They hate themselves not you or anyone around them. Its a problem most people can't kick.
But you really need to go speak to your school counselor or a confidential hot line. If she ever hurts you ,you need to call the authorities.
Remember one thing. It isn't you she hates. You are not the cause of her problems.
2006-07-25 11:23:52 · answer #5 · answered by Cynthia H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is probably some underlying issues with your mother. In either case, just be happy with yourself. Live life in a way that you will be proud of. Do things for yourself and not for your mother. Set up goals to become successful and show your mother that you are the best.
Be successful and be happy with true friends and people who truly care about you.
It might be your mother trying to inflict pain on someone that she can control. It might be that your mom is trying to drag you down to her level. Forget that. Tolerate her for the rest of your teenage years while striving to be a success.
2006-07-25 11:22:41 · answer #6 · answered by instantly_oatmeal 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel the same way, my mom has always treated me different from my brother. She loves boys. She doesn't get along with girls and she called me names and fat my whole life and I wasn't. It's not you. Maybe you can go live with a relative, you don't need that abuse and the drugs anywhere near your brother and yourself.
2006-07-25 11:21:30 · answer #7 · answered by sexymama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Brandi, your mom is a sick person. Mentally sick people say things that are hurtful, but are not true.
There is a group called Ala-Teen. You should be able to find one in your town. Contact them and they can help.
Good luck to you.
2006-07-25 11:26:04 · answer #8 · answered by t t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think, you just answered your own question. She's brainwashed by teh meth and cocaine. If you could some how get it out of her, like the guy got the greey liquid to leak out of that little girl's mother's arm, in The Crow, she' d suprise you!
2006-07-25 11:24:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think your mom needs serious help. she should never say rude and hurtful things to you. I'm sure deep down she loves you. if you need to get away from her you do so. you are not fat you probably are a beautiful young woman
2006-07-25 11:27:34 · answer #10 · answered by mayo_girl_2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋