There's this new woman in my life, who has really been the exact kind of woman I could have hoped for. We haven't gotten around to s e x yet, but it's pretty obvious that we will, and soon.
Today, we were talking about s e x and she says that she likes it a little rough (i.e. some hair pulling, biting). Now I think this sounds fun, but I have to admit that it's new to me. It's not something I've practiced in the past, but hey, I'm open to anything new in the bedroom.
I was just wondering if any women who are into this kind of thing can give me a little advice. What kinds of things can I look forward to? What is "too far?" Are there accepted "common sense" boundries for this kind of thing? Any thoughts on the subject would be appreciated.
2006-07-25 11:15:43 · 26 answers · asked by MdnytTokr 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wow! Thanks for all the answers. That was fast! Except for the one who called us both sick. Screw you. Or not. Whatever works for ya. I'm actually kinda pumped about this one. She seems like a real keeper, so thanks for all the great answers.
2006-07-25 11:40:41 · update #1
Here's an answer from a guy. Your story sounds just like mine in my present relationship. (I've even posted a question that was similar to yours). Sounds like your girl enjoys sex quite a bit, and so does mine... Mine started dropping a few hints right on "that" moment that she want it a little rough, and we started doing just like she wants it. The great part is, I'm getting to enjoy that too, and it gives you a lot of satisfaction, knowing that you are giving her pleasure. So it does work out in the end and it is real fun. Don't worry, and follow her teachings! Just as an example of things that can be done: a few firm slaps in the buttock, getting your thingye roughly in her with a little roughness, pulling her hair, crossing your hands over on her waiste and pulling hard when doing "doggy", a few warm bites just to wake up the senses, some dirty talking and so on! Man, get ready for the ride of your life and just watch a girl groan and moan, you WILL!!! lol, good luck and congratulations, dude!!
2006-07-25 11:27:40 · answer #1 · answered by disintegrationisthebestalbumever 2 · 7⤊ 2⤋
Actually, the only person that should be answering those questions is the new woman in your life. Everyone is different and there are no cookie cutter sets of boundries. She's obviously a woman that knows what she likes and if you've already started to discuss those things, it may have been an ice breaker on the subject for her....I'm sure there are a lot of things that she is just itching to tell you! Talk more before, talk during, talk after...talk, talk, talk and then there are no surprises, no questions, no fears.
2006-07-25 11:23:53 · answer #2 · answered by Syrann 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are fantastic to ask...and i am happy to answer. i admire your desire to please. MEN FOLLOW THIS EXAMPLE. Anyway..
i, myself, like it this way. i take it a bit to far though but i think i can give you some advice. STD tests should happen first if you will be exchanging body fluid, sperm, blood, etc...
Be confident in your "roughness". Don't hesitate to spank her, pull her hair, etc... i like my men very Dominant in bed. If this is to get serious..create a safe word. If it gets to be too much for either of you just say the word. That way, no one is left unsure. Talk about boundries. This is extremely important. "Safe, sane, consentual" is the common sense boundry. Open communication is important. After the first time you do this, sit down & talk about what you both liked best & what you could each do differently to make it more pleasureable. Toys are fun, bondage is fun, submission is fun. Just be safe. Also be tested for std's. ALWAYS important also. Have fun with each other. You may both realize that there is something more to the rough sex thing.
2006-07-25 11:26:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on what she considers as rough? A smack on the a$$? A bite on her inner thigh? The best way to progress with this would be to discuss it. The next time it comes up jokingly question her collection of whips and chains. More than likely she divulge what more or less gets her going.
If not, you'll just have to play it by ear and hope she doesn't bring out the spurs and bullwhip for your first sexual encounter.
2006-07-25 11:27:24 · answer #4 · answered by Queen L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont hit her except on the ***... just so it tingles a little. Just be rough.. like toss her around the bed and flip her around. Strong wit yo thrust. Pull her hair and nibble. Don't bite hard. I hate it when my man bites too hard.. it ruins the entire thing. I am sure she'll let you know what exactly she likes and doesn't. Just listen to her and be open to what she has to say. I hate feeling like I can't say what is wrong with what a man is doing in bed. Guys are really weird about that.
2006-07-25 11:20:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only the woman you are going to be having relations with can really tell you what she is in to. Safe things you can do that probably won't be to uncomfortable for you to do. Like, Hitting it from that back and slapping her ***. Biting on her back, not to hard though. Pulling her hair. Remember, it shouldn't be that uncomfortable to you. This is new to you and you must move to more aggressive actions once some of the simple ones are comfortable to YOU. It should be arousing to the both of you!
2006-07-25 11:23:55 · answer #6 · answered by Jáe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-08 07:50:47 · answer #7 · answered by regula 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have one thing to say that you shouldn't do while rough sex. Don't scratch her up because that won't be pretty the next day. When you pull her hair, don't grab it and pull, gently rub your fingers through her hair and pull then let go!
Bite her on her neck softly. Start to kiss her roughly, that always turns me on when your a good kisser.Then let her get on top of you and slap her on her butt a few times.GOOD LUCK!!
2006-07-25 11:25:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I know that I like it rough and I love it when my husband takes command in bed. I can see in his eyes that he needs me and he'll take me, even if he has to force me. Of course my husband is as gentle as a kitten, but we roleplay. This was built on trust and communication. So maybe the person you should be asking is the lady you like so much. I real woman loves to tell her man exactly what she needs.
2006-07-25 11:19:04 · answer #9 · answered by Flutter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk it out, first, set up a safe word, so that if you go to far, she can call it out, and you can and must stop, what you were doing.
A little rough means just that, a little light spanking, hair pulling, light biting, etc.
Let her guide you, to what she wants and needs. She knows better, what will do it for her.
So just follow, her lead.
2006-07-25 11:20:31 · answer #10 · answered by johnb693 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋