2006-07-25 11:11:33 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
because parents are supposed to always be there for their kids ...... i go to my mum's for tea at least once a week
2006-07-25 11:17:17 · answer #1 · answered by Pink Laydee 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I don't understand why we all want to push our children out, adult or not? My husband is foreign born and raised and their culture is so very different from ours. A family does stay together and takes care of one another, The young really respect the elderly. The children sleep in the bed with the parents. The old stay with the younger. We are also of this belief and raising of our own children. They can stay until forever as they wish. They can still be independent and successful, have careers, They can move away and move back if they so desire as we will always be there for them.We always seem to find time to ourselves, and even with a child sleeping in the bed with us we have been able to have a total of 4 kids! Family is highly valued, just make sure your children are independent, they will do what is right for them in the long run!
2006-07-25 11:55:32 · answer #2 · answered by Rocky C 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
most children/adults know what side their bread is buttered on, my 21 yr old sister is exactly the same, she will not leave home, why should she when she has no bills to pay at my mums and no hassle of worrying over the financial upkeep of the house, or the cleaning, yet if she had her own place she couldn't cope at the moment cos she hasn't learnt to stand up for herself, where as i left at 16 and never went back, although i have the closest bond with my mum, we are like best friends, i couldn't live too far away from my mum, yet i couldn't live too close lol. Children need their Independence and parents need time to themselves and a life of their own, so my suggestion is you explain this to them and that they know that no matter what you will always be there for them and help and advise them when possible, but you have a life too, and they need to stand on their own 2 feet otherwise they'll be dependant on you or any other mother figure for the rest of their lives. I hope your children find their independence, good luck xx
2006-07-25 11:35:20 · answer #3 · answered by Mandy J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By fly back do you mean they leave and then come home again for a long time ie not just for tea?
Parents are childrens security blanket - they make everything safe so if your children feel even slightly insecure about the real world then of course they are going to come running home to mummy.
Try supporting from a distance - change their bedrooms into something for you and your other half to enjoy ie computer room, sewing room anything but your childrens bedrooms. Then when they have a problem tell that you would love to help them so why don't they come for tea and you will discuss it with them. Don't let them invite themselves to stay.
Good luck and try and smile atleast your children (adult though they are) love and respect you enough to want to come home x x x
2006-07-25 11:20:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing complicated about this. They leave, then, when they have no money, then they come back to you because they obviously know you are a soft touch.... I know they are your children, but they need to stand on their two feet. Be strong & tell the NO MORE! they will start to appreciate you then. At the moment, they have no respect for you because they can get away with murder with you.
2006-07-25 11:18:35 · answer #5 · answered by jack 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't leave! I can't afford to, buying a place is out of the question and on my pay I wouldn't even be able to afford the rent let alone bills, food, clothes, car expenses etc. Right now I am living part time with my boyfriend in his parents converted barn (not with his parents of course) and I we can only barely afford that. I blame the tax man!
2006-07-25 11:18:55 · answer #6 · answered by floppity 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh God help ya......My son moved back home for a while, and i lost the will, We just found peace and quiet and a nice tidy home without extra washing cos he needed to change 5 times a day!!!!! Then there was the taxi service again and the big blue-eyed look when he wanted something, We both heaved a sigh of relief when he moved back out!! (just in case you are wondering, we do love him lots). even better from his house.. good luck xxx
2006-07-25 11:30:09 · answer #7 · answered by Tink 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your children are afraid of the responsibility of being on their own. You are really doing them a mis-service by letting them come back time and again.
You won't be here forever and if your children continue to depend on you, when you are gone they are really going to be lost and in a bad spot. Make them grow up and take responsibility for themselves.
2006-07-25 11:17:56 · answer #8 · answered by raiderphan79 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
being a parent is forever. did you honestly think that kids reach 18, leave home and never return? home is their sanctuary in a sea of chaos. home is stability and comfort. or would you deny your children this opportunity.
you throw them out now, when they need your help and guidance, i can see you ending up in an old peeps home drooling, looking out the window...on your own. lonely, empty, bereft of comfort and friendship... think about it, coz im sure they will.
2006-07-26 05:08:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your children are adults I presume. Your nest is too comfortable.
Let them go and clip their wings so they cannot fly back.
2006-07-25 11:16:48 · answer #10 · answered by A G 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
buggered if i know me son of 28 just moved back and he dont pay no house keeping either lol ,mind u he does have an ex mrs and 3 kids so ill let him off
2006-07-25 11:15:45 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋