why are men intimidated by independent women?

Answer 1

I don't think they are. I, for one, am not. I like spark and will in a woman. That's probably one of the most widely spread misconception and it's so cause women like the idea. One of my friends - she's got a warm heart, a good mind, but she's not extravagantly bright and not very beautiful - told me that she saw herself as that dish that's unforgettable, but it gets too hot for you to handle. I think she may be that dish that you will always like, but never too much and probably really get bored of on the way. On the other hand, women who are very determined and like to say what they think and seem to believe that men are afraid of that. I have a few examples where it's not that they say what they believe is the problem, but the arrogance the claim that they know it all and people should listen to what they're saying or bend according to their wants, views or tastes. It goes a bit like this: "I'm an independent woman and I like this and that and if you can't cope with this, I'm outta here. You can't handle me". I'd be: "Please do. And if you change your mind, I'm gonna probably be busy". They are overbearing and somehow fail to see the rejection of that as a natural reaction, but as an inability, from you, to handle whatever they imagine that is. I think women that see themselves as determined that way are sometimes just complexed and unable to accept the existence of another person around, without worship, who probably won't feel like jumping whenever they need to assert themselves. Cause those people are gonna find that rude. And annoying, anyway.
I think women think of themselves as a rare commodity. And they think you should thank the stars above for meeting one. Not the brain surgeons. Not the painters. Not the great women who ever lived. Every woman. They aren't. In fact, sometimes it's harder to get away from a woman, than get one. They're about three billion of them, and many of them think the exact same thing. Very few people in this world are worth put yourself on the line for and are worth your lying down for them to pass on. And those people wouldn't think of asking it. Some "strong" women would. Why would I do it? I was born free and I'm gonna die free. I'm gonna like having friends, partners, not unstable tyrants.
There are also women who are trying to control. There is a fashion nowadays, people who are in control. "I control everything in my life, they would go, from my job to my boyfriend. And he's gonna love it, cause I'm that good". I'm not a pet, mind you. I hate being controlled. Even if they think I'm gonna love it. And truth is, generally women are rarely that good. It's not being blase, it's just the simple truth that most women are not geniuses, supermodels or sincere, for that matter, and funny and good in bed.
On a different level, women who have the tendency to be the boss lose the frailty, the "helplessness", if you will, the delicateness that constitute a big sensibility for most men I know. Nobody wants to get married to another men - except gay people, obviously - even in the biological shape of a woman, the ethereal quality of women is a big part of the myth and that's being axed at the moment.
And here there's a weak point of men, a natural one I think, which is somewhat connected to the fact above - which is that men expect to be protectors, in a way, the strong part, and feel not necessarily as a failure, but as useless if they are not needed in that way. That's the feeling. And in the mind, a question linked to that is "What does she see in me, cause I'm not manly enough for her - I can't do what men do". They do not understand that a woman needs a man only to be there, to support her even if she looks tough, if she is doing tough things, cause most women aren't really that tough - on the inside. That's my experience. And probably, you ladies, could try telling them that. And also give a man - not cause he's a man, but cause he's a person - the right to his own mind and feelings. And sometimes - not everytime, but I'm saying sometime - accept the fact that maybe it's not fear pushing him away, but something else.

Answer 2

Because they don't know what it is to be, or are too lazy to be a real man. An independent woman is independent because she has had to be, she knows and does a lot which has gotten her where she is. A real man knows that it is the strength and tenacity of an independent woman that will make him look good; but he has to bring a lot to the table himself and its not all about money and sex. Its about caring and providing emotional support and security, monogamous committment, and the ability to intellectually stimulate the independent woman.

For many men, that's too much when they can go get a six-pack Annie that will dummy up and tell him he's great even though she's the one carrying the relationship.

Answer 3

I am a girl and I haven't felt that men were intimidated by my independence very often. Maybe intimidated by my goals and dreams.

Answer 4

Well, unlike you, I cannot speak on behalf of the entire male population of the world. Perhaps independent women are enpowered to do so? Personally speaking I don't find myself intimidated by either sex, I am a confident well balanced person, is there something wrong with me?

Answer 5

I dont know for sure but perhaps thats the way they were brought up by their parents,they like to think women are scared, helpless, need rescuing, then only then these men can feel powerful (just like their fathers)... To be honest women tired of playing the game........i certainly am...

Answer 6

I feel sorry for you, real men LOVE independent women, who know how to convey their own feelings, stand on their own feet and not get by, attempting to manipulate you.

Keep looking.

Answer 7

men never really grow up, they are all scared of not being needed and they all want to rescue the princess. start acting like a princess who needs rescuing and you will find life a lot easier

Answer 8

we aren't. we love truly independent women, but mostly all we get is obnoxious bitches who believe they are independent and smart, but they are neither, and we just get sick of it

Answer 9

I am not! . . . . a woman who could intimidate me was not not born yet, and will never be born!

Answer 10

I too would like to know the answer.