2006-07-25 11:01:53 · 44 answers · asked by bond girl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
okay thanks for all the harsh words...he does not have any kids.....alos his wife does know this happened..i do not know what she thinks now...
2006-07-25 15:54:08 · update #1
i have been with him the last two and a half years out of five years...
2006-07-25 16:05:20 · update #2
No, but you don't really want to break it off or you wouldn't be making excuses for yourself not to. The first thing you need to do is be realistic and not hide behind excuses anymore. Scared of what? You are obviously getting some sort of pay off from the relationships or you wouldn't continue doing it. This is a matter of deciding who you want to be, how you want to conduct yourself, respecting yourself and others and then following through once you've made those decisions.
2006-07-25 11:05:38 · answer #1 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋
A lot of people in here have jumped the gun in assuming she knew upfront that he was married cause I had a friend who's been there. When she found out & confronted him is when his bad side showed up & things got crazy.
If she did know he was married she may be wrong but SO IS HE for thinking he could still do his thing on the side. Why that man is doing this to the person he's not married to anyway is unknown but all i can say honey is avoid him at all cost & keep some type of weapon w/ you at all times if possible. Tell friends & family about this man so that people are aware of his tendencies. Good luck
2006-07-25 11:17:22 · answer #2 · answered by NicNac 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, i was in a situation like that, but the guy told me he wasn't married cause i ask him when he approached me, cause he was a police officer, but then we started talking thing got more serious, i really started to like him and fall in love with him. But as thing went on for about 2year and a half, i found out the truth that he was married, his wife call me and told me that she been married to him for 4 year and he had two kids by another women. The situation was mess up, but i didn't care i was shocked when i found out, but i still wanted him. Until the point, i just had to walk away cause when he wasn't with me he was with his wife and i couldn't handle that any more.
So i wouldn't say you are crazy you just might have just gotten your feelings involved, but don't be scared to walk away because, Wouldn't you want your man to be with you only, not leaving you to go home to his wife... Just think about it, and stop it before thing get serious, meaning the wife finding out. Good Luck
2006-07-25 11:37:37 · answer #3 · answered by tweety 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not crazy, but you definitely need to break away from this married man. Seems like you don't want to because you know it's a 'safe' relationship for YOU - he can't commit to you (or his wife apparently). C'mon - get some backbone and know that relationships with single men aren't all that scary. The word "no" is used on a daily basis if your chosen single man isn't the one for you.
2006-07-25 11:06:58 · answer #4 · answered by Decoy Duck 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, your crazy.... :) Actually your pretty normal. People get hooked on love and are afraid to walk away even from a bad situation like this because they are afraid they will never find love or love like that again. The truth is they and you are lying to yourselves. In reality what you think is such a wonderful love is really mostly in your mind. After all this married person is with someone else. They are giving their time, love, and commitment to some else. This means you are only getting a small part of their love and you are only able to give a small part of your love in return. You deserve to find a love that is all about you, to find someone who loves you and only you and gives you 100% of who they are. I know it is scary to let go of what you have but until you do, you will never have a chance at experiencing a love that is 100% about you.
2006-07-25 11:07:59 · answer #5 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Let me clue you in sweetheart, if you think for some reason this married guy is going to leave his wife for you your crazy. I'm a man and sometimes we get this desire to get with some strange from time to time. That's where you come in, oh by the way he's never ever going to admit that to you either. I swear I was just thinking of this today and was going to ask the question why are some women so hung up on married guys?"
Look but don't ever ever touch!
2006-07-25 11:06:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe not crazy, but not very well reflected. If you think about it - you know he will probably not leave his wife (unless she throws him out eventually). That might be good for you, or it might be bad. I dont know. (and I dont care)
What I do know is, that when he does this on the side of his life, he is comitting less to his wife and this is making her, a third person involved innocently - maybe there are children too - feel really bad. It is his choise, of course, but you are involved and do also have an ethical choise, you know.
I guess that is why you ask your question - you know it is unethical - and it makes you feel bad.
That is the effect of your action. It harms her and his children, his relationship with wife and children - and it harms you.
Get out of it. What on earth can you be afraid of???
2006-07-25 11:05:43 · answer #7 · answered by Tones 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This man chose the women he is married to and you should respect that. How would you feel if someone you were married to was cheating on you and the girl he was cheating with could care less. Your not crazy you have to give the married man three options. 1) You leave him if he doesn't break it off with his wife. 2) He tells his wife and never sees you again. 3) You leave him and tell his wife because she deserves to know the truth about her cheating husband.
2006-07-25 11:07:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many women find themselves in this same situation. In my younger years I failed to understand that loving and respecting myself first could have deterred me from making the same decision you are facing. The end result will not be good regardless of what you keep telling yourself. This man does not respect you nor the woman he married. Step away knowing that you can do more than better, especially when you realize his true motive.
2006-07-25 11:09:54 · answer #9 · answered by seeversified 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are crazy. He is never going to leave his wife for you so this is as good as it's ever gonna get. You're just a play thing for him and you are allowing yourself to be used. Have some self respect and self worth... leave the guy and find someone who is capable of loving you back.
2006-07-25 11:06:28 · answer #10 · answered by Cheryl K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋