It seems that every time i meet a guy that seems promising, i'll do the usual things: talk, maybe dance (if clubbing), just getting to know you type things... But all they seem to want is sex! How do i display interest without them trying to jump into my pants? Or is that all guys see in me!?
2006-07-25 10:31:58 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just to clarify.. i'm not afaid of having sex, im not not ready. i've had sex. It just seems thats ALL that guys want, n i want more than that... plus that. ;)
2006-07-25 10:49:14 · update #1
Most guys will take it if you give so let it be know that you're not giving it.
Tell a guy what you want upfront, which is something easy going not rushed.
If he's a respectful guy he will respect your wishes, if he's a creep he wont want to date you, in which case he did you a favor!!
2006-07-25 10:34:15 · answer #1 · answered by PG 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the first thing you need to do is not find guys in a club. That's what clubs are for....to put yourself out there. Alcohol and dancing stir up all kinds of "frisky" hormones in men....it's just nature. So my advice to you if you are wanting someone to meet at a library or museum or someplace that's less hormonal. See where it goes from there. Not all guys are geeks that hang out there. But if you feel uncomfortable there then try getting them to meet you another time outside the club atmosphere where you can enjoy a good conversation. Like dinner or a picnic in the park or something non-threatening to you..... Good luck
2006-07-25 10:40:20 · answer #2 · answered by babe_in_the_country 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl that's all any man sees in woman. The issue you have is that most women have given into that and now they believe you to be the same. You be who you are as far as being nice and even display an interest, but you must keep in mind that your flirting and being nice may be perceived as teasing, and signals for them to take the next step.
A hard fact to face is that you play as big of a role in what they think they can get from you as their past abilities to get away with things with other women. Each of us is different in the modifications we have to make in our appearance and behavior not to send the wrong message in our image. Think about what yours is sending. What are you doing/saying when they step to you with the sex thing. Do you laugh and giggle, or do you turn straight face and let them know you're not about that.
Its as much more up to you than you seem to realize. You can't change them, but you can change them and demand a level of respect.
2006-07-25 10:39:59 · answer #3 · answered by Sola 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever tried being direct about it? As a man, I can tell you that men are very bad at "interpreting" signals. I realize that men and women speak different "languages", but trying talking to us in a way we can understand. As for men just wanting sex, that's not entirely true. That's just how we express our interest. Personality is important, but the first thing that we notice is looks. That's just the way it is. So, don't be surprised when men "seem" like they just want sex. Just say exactly what you mean and keep it simple.
2006-07-25 10:43:58 · answer #4 · answered by th_779 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Watch what are you wearing. Don't even mention anything related to sex. And, no offence, but you honey always findin some garbidge. Not all guys like that, and you just need to have a more close look for a right dude. When the dude thinkin about your sweet spot all the time, he doesn't really care bout you and doesn't have much respect.
2006-07-25 10:40:24 · answer #5 · answered by denlun84 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We're guys. We ALL want sex with girls. Well, actually there are a few guys who don't want sex with girls...they want sex with other guys.
Sounds like you're not ready for sex, which is perfectly fine and totally within your rights. Just be up front about that fact when dating somebody. There are plenty of guys out there who are willing, or determined even, to abstain from sex for reasons religious or otherwise. Seek these guys out instead--if you're religious (and Christian), church might be good place to start.
2006-07-25 10:43:29 · answer #6 · answered by twiceborne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends on how you come across and the age of the guy. But, your first mistake is trying to meet a so called good guy in the club. More often than not, we're there for only one reason....trying to find a hook up. Ladies...if you make yourself look like a easy target, that's how we'll see you. By making the first move, you're only stroking his ego, because then he looks like the man in front of his boys. Trust me, if we like you and want to get to know you...we'll come to you first.
2006-07-25 10:44:15 · answer #7 · answered by navyflyrz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it meows, has paws and likes fish... it might be a cat... If you dress like a slut, try to pickup guys at pubs, nightclubs, bars and only at night... then all you will get is horny guys.
Try picking up guys somewhere else. You should dress and behave like sex is the last thing in your mind. When you flirt, let it be more friendly than sensual.
Good luck!
2006-07-25 10:36:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
XXXXXXXXXXX sometimes action speak louder than words. Present yourself as a lady at all times, don't kiss him on the first day or tease him as if you want to move faster than you really do. By your action, he'll understand the vibes. Smile and display a bit of the cute humor I know you possess. He'll get the idea. XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
2006-07-25 10:37:55 · answer #9 · answered by asoldierswife 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact of the matter is, most guys just want to have sex. Try casual dating to find the right guy.
2006-07-25 10:35:04 · answer #10 · answered by Sonico 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋