If an ex of yours, an ex that you loved and cared deeply for. An ex who you saw yourself marrying one day but he broke up with you over something frivolous, and you were so hurt that you never talked to him again. If he came back after some time (8 months) and said he realized how stupid he had been, that he realized how good your relationship had been, that he had changed and could prove it. That there was nothing more in the world he wanted but to hold you again. Would you take him back?
2006-07-25 10:26:52 · 57 answers · asked by Austin S 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The frivolous reason I broke up with her was that she was a cronic liar, to her friends, to mine, even to her family. She never lied to me but I still couldn't trust her. I call this reason frivolous because I know now that in love we could've worked through this, and even if she stayed a liar, she made me happy and I made her happy, which is worth more than anything else.
2006-07-25 15:56:30 · update #1
The reason I say 8 months is that we went to different cities 4 months ago, and during those first 4 months I was preoccupied, yes, I did "test the water" with another girl, and it was cold. During the following 4 months I went to a mens conference, watched shop girl, read "Tuesdays with Morrie" and did a lot of thinking. Each one of these told me how lucky I was to have her in the first place. They also taught me how I should've loved her. I really don't want to think it's over, I really want to make her forget about all the pain I caused her. So I guess what I'm asking (to all those optimists out there who think I have a chance) how do I get her back? We will be in the same city in september and I will have the chance to see her. I will take this chance even if it is to only say sorry.
2006-07-25 16:30:31 · update #2
when i read this question, i thought of my significant other. i feel that if this happened to us, we'd be able to move past it. coincidentally, i am somewhat of a chronic liar too. but its not all the time though. thinking of all this, i would take him back. but he would definitely have to do something to make up for all the lost time. he would have to do something that would grab my attention and really show me that he is sincere and has changed for me. i like to think of big things like skywriting an apology, going on tv to say youre sorry like on a local news show or something she ll watch, or show up where shes gonna be in that city in september and sing her a song u wrote for her. just something really creative and definitely out of the ordinary is what you should do to apologize.but then again, i would take him back if he could really just make a very sincere and and meaningful apology and at the very least take me out and have a very special date planned so that you can explain things and we could talk it over and make up for lost time. you just have to do what you feel will get you back with her again. i cannot speak for someone else. you must go out of your way to show that you do care and will do anything to get her back. you have to do what is right in your heart to fix this.
2006-07-25 17:19:21 · answer #1 · answered by sneasel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No and I will tell you why after eight months the pain has finally gone away and I am sure seeing you probably brought back some of those painful memories and if you broke up with her over something ignorant then she probably felt like you didn't love her as much as she loved you . Also i'm sure in those eight months you where not by your self and you have tried out other relationships and she probably feels like you went and tested the waters and realized they weren't as good as you had it well you don't miss your well till it runs dry.
I am sure she was really hurt bu your decision and you have to live with the consequences of your decision to leave her. If you really love her like you say you do then you will accept her decision and give her her space if she asks for it. Maybe you should try just being her friend and maybe you will find that her feelings for you are still there and things will evolve from there but do not rush it or push it on her because she will probably just push you away hurting you. Also I would not discuss any relationships you had in those eight months with her unless she asks.
Good luck
2006-07-25 10:36:35 · answer #2 · answered by snowhite 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on why he really left, if there is someone else in the picture or a child, all that. Maybe, but it I would take things slow. I would make a list of the good and bad about him, if the good list is longer, he would have a chance. But, I would be careful because I'd feel like he may drop me on a whim again. I wouldn't invest a lot into the relationship until some time had passed and he had time to show his true colors.
2006-07-25 10:31:17 · answer #3 · answered by gina92_2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm thinking you are the ex?
It depends what frivolity you broke up with her over, to an extent. After 8 months, I would really expect to see change, but I don't know if there were problems to begin with that someone could truly change themselves in that short a period of time. It depends on what the problems were and how deeply rooted they were.
Good luck!
2006-07-25 10:29:27 · answer #4 · answered by Eebles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think there's always a second chance in life. You just don't know when it knocks on ur door. But, I do believe that you did'nt do anything wrong coz you can't be in a relationship with someone you don't trust. If she really loved you, these 8 months would've been a learning period for her n' for all you know she might have made some positive changes to her life!
I really hope you both find a way to each other. Good Luck! :)
2006-07-25 19:08:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say NO WAY! He's already proven once that it's easy for him to just walk away, how is he going to prove he can stay? He may feel that he has changed and that you were the best thing for him, but is that after he's already tested the water with someone else? Have you? These are questions that you need to seriously ask yourself. And I say if you have to ask this question on here, you don't know yourself very well and somewhere in the back of your mind, you're thinking that you shouldn't take him back. These are just my thoughts~ do with them what you will. Good Luck
2006-07-25 10:33:52 · answer #6 · answered by babe_in_the_country 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, the word "frivolous" sticks out like a sore thumb.
What you may have considered "frivolous" may have been more important to the other person.
If she doesn't love the guy anymore, then there's no amount of begging that can be done that will make her take you back. In fact, the harder the guy tries to "get back" with her, the more needy and insincere he would sound.
I think he better just hang back and start over. I think that horse has been beat plumb to death.
2006-07-25 10:30:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah. Everyone deserves a second chance. But if I was with someone who cared for me in the same way, I wouldn't risk that kind of relationship. Because if the first broke up with me over something frivolous, what's to keep him from doing it again? Best of luck. Hope she forgives you.
2006-07-25 10:30:26 · answer #8 · answered by iambic_chatterbox 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes there is hope and once there was love involve nothing can stop the relationship, if it was meant to be, my boyfriend and i we broke up, or should i say i broke up with him and went with someone else for 8 months (imagine a girl leaving u for 8 months) and he took me back, the guy i left for it never worked out for us and my man loved me so much that he took me back without even had to ask him, all i did was tell him that i broke up with this guy and that i still love him and then i saw the sudden change so, trust me if u have faith anything can happen.
2006-07-25 10:34:34 · answer #9 · answered by curious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. I wouldn't. He should have done it right the first time. Coming back eight months later to say I'm sorry smells of, "I can't get anyone else, so will you have me?" If he's going to break up over something frivolous why try again?
2006-07-25 10:30:28 · answer #10 · answered by Justsyd 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋