for some reason i do. it's just because my parents are totally opposite...and yet manage to stay together. it's just that everytime they fight...i'm always afraid that it's the last straw.
maybe i just think about divorce too much...but does anyone have advice on how to get this out of my head? thanx.
2006-07-25 10:25:48 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
How old are you?
I remember when I was a teenager (I'm 24 now) my parents fought A LOT. I would get so scared that my dad would hurt my mom or that he would leave us. That never happened and now my parents live a happier marriage.
It's funny how things got better as they got older.
Anyway, I never talked to my parents about their fighting cause I thought it might get me in trouble but if you're close to your parents, then talk to them. Or one of them. Tell them that their fighting concerns and scares you.
Many times I wanted to walk in and break up the arguing but I never had the courage to do that. You might though. That will let them see just how much it really upsets and worries you.
Hope everything works out for you and your parents.
2006-07-25 10:32:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
:( I don't really have an answer because I went through a similar situation and I just toughed it out. Pray. I kno it sounds corny but everynight if u pray before bed U have someone listening to u (God) and it will give u a good feeling. Try it atleast for a week. I dunno how old u are., but u can work and move out when u reach a certain age. I hope u can go to a friends or go for a walk. It will really help. I feel u because ur young,. I've been through a lot too. It has made me a strong person . Things will get better at some point, trust me. Also, if ur dad hadn't beat u up by now I'm pretty sure he won't. Music helps but u r still in the atmosphere so it is still hard, I understand that. When I'm upset I go for a long walk with my headphones and I always feel better after. All I can say is have faith, pray, and things will get better one day. Wish all the best to you Hun.
2016-03-16 05:20:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was still living at home, about 7 years ago, my parents used to fight a lot. They used to get along, but grew farther apart. My brother and I got to the point where we hoped they would divorce just so there wouldn't be any more fighting. They ended up divorced 2 years after I went away to college.
I wish I could tell you that your parents are going to stick it out, but I can't say for sure. Prepare yourself and try not to let it affect your life more than it has to. Make sure you have a future and don't let it affect your grades or other activities. It isn't your fault that they fight and there is nothing you could have done different to prevent a divorce if that is the direction they are going. Set boundaries and don't let them talk badly about each other behind their backs. If they start, tell them lovingly that you love both of them and you don't want to be in the middle. It isn't your responsibility to fix it for them.
The reason it is stuck in your head is because you are smart enough to know that it is a real possibility. It is OK not to live in denyal because it helps you prepare for what could happen. If you get a chance, sit down with them while things are peaceful and tell them that you can't ignore the fact that they fight a lot and that you are afraid that they are drifting apart. Tell them that you are afraid of them heading towards divorce and you would like to see them try to work things out without fighting.
Take care.
2006-07-25 10:39:53 · answer #3 · answered by Sara B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I used to be scared when I was younger. I know realize that all parents fight, however I do also wonder many times if this will be the last straw as well because sometimes it seems like it would just be easier for them to be apart. Keep your chin up and here's some advice from someone who knows, stay out of the argument, my parents loved to put me in the middle and believe me no matter what you say it will be wrong!
2006-07-25 10:29:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first thing to remember: Its not your fault. My parents had very little in common and sometimes I think the only reason they got together is because she got pregnat and this was a million years ago when they would still get married just because of that.
It used to scared me really bad, to the point that it would make me cry. Someday you will grow up and wont have to put up with that kinda crap anymore. It does help you to be a better parent that's for sure.
Cheer up! it's not your fault!
2006-07-25 10:31:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to realize that even though they fight, they love and respect each other, they're still together for a reason, right? Talk to them and tell them how much their fights bother you; I'm sure that they don't realize how much it affects you and once you tell them, they will probably stop. If not, you can always talk to someone like a pastor, or counselor, or even a good friend! Don't worry, it will work out! Just pray about it. Good luck!
2006-07-25 15:51:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its a natural reaction to an unnatural circumstance. Just try to remember that you are not the cause of any breakup, if that might sound absurd know that it isn't unheard of.
The fear is the loss of a 2 parent house, its a stable and place of refuge that is protected by both parents. I hope they remain together but I know that many couple quarrel a lot over silly things.
2006-07-25 10:30:11 · answer #7 · answered by Archer Christifori 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do. Its a part of our parents learning to grow up with each other and become "adults" like they want us to be. Parents have pet peeves that if they don't argue seems to blow later. Its okay if they fight within reason - like venting steam. Learn about what your parents are fighting about.. then you'll understand what they are fighting about.
2006-07-25 11:06:58 · answer #8 · answered by dotobjects 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fighting can lead to divorce, but not always. Don't stress about it. Whether or not they stay together won't really have anything to do with you, so you shouldn't worry about it. It might make you uneasy, but they are adults who have to sort out their own problems. You won't be able to help the situation.
2006-07-25 10:28:55 · answer #9 · answered by advicemom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my parents fight a lot and i do get scared cuz I'm afraid that my dad is going to hurt my mom or that he's going to do something stupid. but it all works out. eventually =)
Good luck! =)
2006-07-25 10:45:44 · answer #10 · answered by ¤†_3§a_Tri§T3_†¤ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋