I do. I find it profoundly disrespectful when a man or woman says something like "Hi, beautiful!" or "You're gorgeous!" to my wife--right in front of me. My wife IS beautiful, but she's not a piece of meat, and she's not 'on the market'. Why are people so rude?
2006-07-25 09:57:15 · 10 answers · asked by Quang 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I don't know why people find it hard to resist sticking their foot in their mouths- when I first read your title without the details I thought "No, I love it when people tell me how great my husband looks" and THEN I got to the details. Women do tend to compliment each other- sometimes to feel good about themselves, others to be one-up on each other. But I would hope, if any guy walked up to me and called me gorgeous, or a woman walked up and started laying it on my hubby like so, that there would be a royal smackdown. Or at least the suggestion of it. Some things are just inappropriate. :)
2006-07-25 10:03:08 · answer #1 · answered by runninggirl23 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your question does not match your example. Calling someone a name like beautiful is not complimenting them. If someone were to compliment your wife, a proper way to do it would be to tell you <"You have a beautiful wife". When used as an adjective it is a compliment, but when it is used as a noun it is insulting with the statement directed to you. Any other way besides used as an adjective is rude.Your wife should consider it disrespectful to you and her. She should tell the person, "I am married this is my husband who is very attractive to me." and quickly walk away. A woman that would like this type of attention is childish and needs cultural training. Any person who talks like you are telling people do to your wife have no proper manners and have no respect. You and your wife should quickly walk away. This not flattery; it is an insult to you and your wife. If they talk like this, they think your wife is easy. Your wife needs to understand this too. What is her demeanor? Is she a lady? Is she sleezy and thriving on other people's compliments? Doesn't she have enough pride or confidence in herself to realize This is rude. This is a "come on" and insulting? What is she doing to bring this on? Ladies should have an air , an illusion, about them that makes this type of thing unapproachable and unacceptable.
2006-07-25 10:32:32 · answer #2 · answered by ruthie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't mind at all and neither does my man. We both enjoy each other's apperance as a piece of our relationship.
When you first met your wife, and you saw her beauty did you ever tell her so? If you did, do you think that she ever felt your words made her feel like a piece of meat?
Acknowledging someone's beauty (respectfully) doesn't strike me as rude at all. Also, just because someone is married doesn't mean that they are rendered invisible. You say she is beautiful, and it seems a lot of people agree with you, take pride in that and take pride in the fact that she's YOUR wife.
2006-07-25 10:19:55 · answer #3 · answered by Muse 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A genuine compliment said in the right way is fine. But something said in a 'chat-up' or presumptuous way is not right.
I think that beautiful people are open to these approaches through no fault of their own. Its not right when it makes the recipient or their partner feel uncomfortable.
2006-07-25 10:48:30 · answer #4 · answered by aliantha2004 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend takes this with pride. He knows what he's got. He doesn't mind people "coveting" because it's like, "damn right."
I don't mind being thought of as a trophy girlfriend, either, because I'm intelligent as well.
YOU should take the compliment. Beam with pride and she'll always know you think she's beautiful, but it's nice to hear it from others.
Just like how your mother probably always called you a handsome boy, but hearing it from someone new and different makes you believe it more.
2006-07-25 10:00:28 · answer #5 · answered by Lydia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how the compliment is given.
For example, if someone said to my wife, "You look nice today", or "Your hair/eyes are pretty." Then, no, it wouldn't offend me.
But if they were to say something like, "Your breasts are like couch pillows. May I fluff your pillows?" Then it's time for the husband - or boyfriend - to step in on his wife's behalf knockout the cuss, cuss, dirty word, kick him when he's down, rip off his genitalia, and stuff it down his perverted throat. Bet he won't ever say something like that again to any other woman walking the planet again.
2006-07-25 12:17:08 · answer #6 · answered by GottaGo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't mind. And my husband doesn't either. You just take it with a grain of salt. I mean, you trust your wife, right? So, then anyone can say any compliment as long as its not demeaning or suggestive.
2006-07-25 10:27:11 · answer #7 · answered by welly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's just compliments. Why are you so hung up about it. Haven't you been complimenting your wife lately, so much so that you know she will appreciate it from someone else?
2006-07-26 05:09:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am the jealous type so yes I would!
2006-07-25 10:38:32 · answer #9 · answered by princeessintraning 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if they aren't trying to get in bed with her then you have nothing to worry about ... try not to get all hot headed about it
2006-07-25 10:22:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋