What should I say to my mom? My life is awful right now.?

Question

My parents are separated and I live with my Dad cause my mom works so many hours but I want to live with my mom cause my dad and me don't talk about things. My boyfriend just left me and I lost my best friend too and I have no friends to talk to. I want to call and ask my mom if I can move in with her but don't want to upset my dad either. I am not sure what to do. I don't want to live in this town anymore either but with my mom for a new start. I don't think my mom will listen and my dad will be upset with me.

Answer 1

Sit down with both your parents and tell them exactly how you feel. They probably don't realize what you are going through and I'm sure they will listen. Teenage life can bring alot of up and downs and it is no time to feel alone through them. Once you have explained yourself to your parents and decide where is the best place to live, join a club or group of something you are interested in. Meet new friends. A new start sounds good but make sure that you are not running away as life has alot of ups and downs. Please talk to either your mom and dad right away if you are feeling really down. Parents get caught up in their lives and don't always realize or know how to be the best to their children. Good luck and don't worry things will get better, they always do!!!

Answer 2

Unfortunately, divorce is very prevalent in our society these days and it ends up hurting the kids the most. I don't know how old you are but my guess would be that if your Dad has custody of you instead of your mother, there are some very good reasons behind it. Most always in divorce cases, the mother gets custody of the children, whether by court decree or because that's how the parents decide to handle it. It could be that your father has custody of you because your mother doesn't have the financial means to take care of you properly. This doesn't make her a bad mom...it's just life sometimes. My best suggestion for you would be to sit down and have a talk with your father and ask him why things are the way they are. Depending on how willing your dad is to talk about these things, you may need to ask your mom instead. Most children aren't able to see the "big picture" that adults have to cope with and they can't understand why their parents got divorced. Hopefully your mom and dad can at least be good enough friends, if not now, then in the near future, to be able to do what is best for you.

I have been involved in divorce on the parental side of things and have had to watch my kids grow up from a distance, and I would bet that your mom isn't enjoying you being gone...but then if you were with her, your dad would be missing out too. Either way, sometimes the best thing you can do is accept your situation for what it is and learn to adapt to your new circumstances. I do wish you the best of luck in your situation, and I hope that if things get too difficult that you would seek the guidance of a counselor at school or maybe someone at your local church if you attend services anywhere.

Good luck to you.
Marc
Juneau, AK

Answer 3

I think that you should talk to your dad. Make him understand that you feel like you need to live with your mom because you are going through a tough time and you feel like you need your mother in your life. Make sure he understands that you love him, but that you need to get away. Then, tell your mom that even though she works long hours, you want to come live with her so you can talk to her and she can be there for you during a hard time; however, make sure you are moving for the right reasons. Don't leave just to run away from your bad situation. I hope everything works out for you.

Answer 4

If your unhappy living with your dad, tell him and then let him know that you'd like to try living at your mom's. He may be a bit hurt but in the end it's your happiness that means most. Talking to your mom ahead of time would be a good idea to that way she is not caught off guard and will be prepared for your arrival. Either way its an adjustment for everyone. As long as in the end your happy and not just running away from problems. Good luck

Answer 5

You are making assumptions of what people will and won't do or say.

Just ask. Talk to mom, tell her you really need a woman in your life. Even if she can't take you in to live with her, maybe you can work it out so you can see her more. Talk with mom first before approaching your dad. If she isn't up for it, no sense in getting dad worked up.

In the mean time see if you can get active in a youth group at a church or girls club of some sort where you can meet some friends. Or try taking classes at a local rec center for art/music/dance/etc whatever interests you.

Answer 6

I think if you are honest to them both, they will see where you are coming from, and do their best to help you out. I don't know if they live close enough now to have all 3 of you in the same room, but if not call 3 - way and explain how you feel. On the other hand, have you tried talking to your dad? I know he's a guy, but also I think a man's perspective on things at your age would probably be surprisingly helpful!

Answer 7

First of all, you need to sit down with your dad and tell him that you love him, but you need a new start and that you think the best way to do this is to move in with your mother. I would also tell your mother that because your life is going okay right now, you need her support and need to get a fresh start and would like to live with her. Hopefully both of your parents will put their differences aside and do what is best for you.

I know that getting a fresh start is sometimes a good thing, but so is facing things when life is going so well. You may get to your mother's and things are going fine, then something happens and you are not okay anymore.

Like the saying goes, if it doesn't kill you it will make you stronger (or something like that).

Answer 8

i guess u can one day talk 2 ur dad n tell him wot u think ,wot u feel, n explain him wots da best 4 u, n why n all da oder details. Be confident of urself, n b calm, dunt start yelllin or screamin lol. Ur dad wont b upset wit u , coz ur explainin him wot will b da best 4 u, n make u happy, hes an adult, n he'll definatly understand n accept ur decision so dunt worry.And y shouldnt ur mom listen 2 ur choice? coz shes busy wit her work? so y u wanna move in wit her if she' wont have time to spend wit u? if u think she will have, well den try da same method with her like u did wit ur dad. i hope u all da best wishes n good luck...oh n hey, u can get admitted 2 a course, a sport or a club or anythin, 2 make new friends, n mayb a new guy...?

Answer 9

well, I guess because of your age is why you can't stay with your mom due to her hours which I could understand that, but if you are resposilbe enough and have proved this to both parents then it shouldn't be a problem. The best thing to do is talk to you father first and explain why, that way he won't feel as hurt thinking you went behind his back with your mother, then if he understands,you and him together could talk to your mother and work something out. There is nothing worse than living what is suppose to be the best years of your life unhappy and I am surtain they will understand. It will be hard to tell them but you need to. keep in mind that what ever thay deceide if for your best intrest, even if you can't see it now you will later.Things will work out for you later....they always do. BEST OF LUCK!!!

Answer 10

First of all, parents will listen. Sometimes they are busy and all that but life is hard for them, too.

Walk up to your dad, ask him to drop what he's doing and take a walk with you. Hold his hand and just talk.

He wants to connect with you as much as you want to with him but he likely doesn't know how.

Spend a few bucks or go to the library and buy your dad a book called "Wild at Heart" by John Elderidge.