My sister is 9yrs older than me she is making really bad decisions with her life right now and whenever the family confronts her she seems to rebell even more shes a grown woman I care 4 the safety of my niece and nephew that s y Im butting in so much should I leave it alone and let her come along by herself or keep tryin until she gets the bigger picture that we actually love her and are not jus trying to put her down.
2006-07-25 09:22:36 · 16 answers · asked by Mytery Gurl Q 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I also try to babysit her kids as much as i can so they wont get immuned to the wrong type of lifestyle they are only 2 and 5.
2006-07-25 09:32:13 · update #1
I wanna make this clear her actions are NOT physically hurting the kids but she is damaging them emotionally her kids are adorable and so smart and she doesnt even notice.
2006-07-25 09:46:57 · update #2
If possible, try to maintain a relationship with your sister. I would however distance myself from her, keep my visits frequent but few. One day she will realize that she will need her family, don't let her push you away.
2006-07-25 09:27:24 · answer #1 · answered by jtj 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough situation. If she were alone, I would say, let her live her lifestyle. But, there are children involved. From what you say, she's not listening to anybody. How old are the kids? Are they old enough to call you if they feel uncomfortable or threatened? If so, let them know that they can, and that you will come and get them. That's about all I can think of right now, other than calling DCFS,, and then the children would go into the system, I don't think that's what you would want to see happen. Good luck, just be there for those kids if they need it.
2006-07-25 09:30:08 · answer #2 · answered by mightymite1957 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you cannot get through to her and if you trying to help her only makes the situation worse, definetely step back. However, make sure you are always close enough so that in case one of your sister's bad decisions influences the well being of your niece and nephew, you can speak up and save them from a bad situation. Like you said, there's nothing you can do since she is an adult. However, you have every right to step in in case her actions are hurting her children. Good luck!
2006-07-25 09:44:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on the bad decisions she is making. Are they decisions like who to date where to live or are they big decisions that involve the safety of her kids. If they involve the safety of the kids and the children are in any kind of danger, then you need to be as involved as possible to assure the kids are looked after.
2006-07-25 09:29:49 · answer #4 · answered by nana4dakids 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG! I am going through the same thing. Well something like it. My sister seems to be making bad decisions and I am worried about my neice as well. There is nothing you can do but pray. I mean they are gonna do what they want to. I worry every day about my sister and neice. Your sister is probaly like mine. They both are confused and not sure were their lives are heading. Remember just pray.Be there for her. Just let her know that you are there for her.
2006-07-25 09:28:14 · answer #5 · answered by Sugar Cookie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it is perfectly understandable that you and your family are confronting her about her decisions. She probably needs her space though; everyone has to make their own mistakes and learn from them. However, I think that it is important that you and your family are butting in, it lets her know that you love her and care about what happens to her. It's also good that you are spending time with her kids. It is important to keep them safe and let them know that they are loved.
2006-07-25 09:33:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, if anybody interior the homestead gets alongside there's no longer something incorrect inclusive of your 17 year previous sister residing with you. yet she should be the two at college or working and contributing some thing to the homestead. no longer basically residing there for loose.
2016-11-02 23:48:23 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep trying. There are some people who refuse to listen to advice but do it for the sake of her kids. You shouldnt abandon family anyway (unless there's a VERY good reason)
2006-07-25 09:26:48 · answer #8 · answered by BluhBluh 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I commend you for butting in- sounds like your niece and nephew really need some stability in their lives. The only problem is, no one can help someone who does not think they need it.
2006-07-25 09:28:33 · answer #9 · answered by drinkupmehearties 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is all pretty vague, but in general it is none of your business what she does; bad decisions are relative- what is bad for you may be good for her- like I say, you are too vague. Unless her life is in danger of termination, leave her alone or you will alienate her and lose her anyway.
2006-07-25 09:28:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋