Sneaky Sister?

Question

Ok, so ive got a sister who is 17 that sneaks out of our house in the middle of the night to meet friends. It like 1 Am or 3 AM. Should I tell my parents? I am afraid that her trust in me will be lost if I rat her out. What would you do in a situation like this? Did you ever sneak out of your house at night?

Answer 1

I did when I was in high school, and have caught my younger sister doing the same when she got to be that age. We live in a suburb with a very low crime rate and we weren't sneaking out to drink and drive or do something else dangerous...just sneaking out for the thrill of it. I think it depends on what you're going to do and with whom - if you're sister is sketchy all the time then chances are she isn't making great choices at 1 am, either.

So, if you suspect she's putting herself in great danger you should confront her and tell her that you're concerned. If things don't improve, and you're really nervous, make some noise, turn on some lights - something to "accidentally" wake up your parents. If this is too passive aggressive (or just doesn't work) you can confront them directly in the nicest way possible. Present this plan: next time she sneaks out, alert them. Have your parents pretend that they figured it out on their own - like your mom went to the bathroom or to get some water and realized your sister wasn't in her room. I think your parents will like this idea b/c they probably respect what you've done and would like to help prevent your relationship with your sister from going awry. Good luck!

P.S I just re-read your question and saw that she's nearly 18 - that will change things. Although she will still be living "under their roof" she is at the age where she should be allowed to make her own decisions and mistakes. In which case, I think that you should just confront her and tell her you don't what she's doing but other than that, I think you should drop it.

Answer 2

don't 'rat' to the parents - they're the cause of this mess. best to keep some trust intact and try to see why the sister has to sneak behind your parents in the first place. if there was trust and respect between the kids and parents, the kids would not have to 'sneak' around!

Answer 3

You may have a good reason to be worried. What is possibly open at l or 3 a.m. besides bars. If you don't want to tell your parents directly, how about getting up in the middle of the night and making enough noise to wake them up so that they would check on her. She may not like you right now, but when she grows up she will realize what a favor you did her.

Answer 4

Well that's a tough one cause she will be 18 soon and at that point she can leave the house and be out at whatever hour she wants. If 18 is still months away then yeah tell your parents but tell them that you are scared that she will not trust you so if they could please not tell her that you told. Maybe they could "accidently" catch her sneaking out. Good Luck!

Answer 5

i have a cousin that does the exact same thing
i told her parents, she did get mad but she understands
but you should tell your parents
because if something were to happen to your sister when she sneaks out then it would be partly your fault because you knew she was sneaking out and you didnt say anything about it to your parents

Answer 6

I would tell your parents, if something happened to your sister or to someone in your house, it would be tragic.

Answer 7

If she ends up dead, or something tragic happens you'll wish you would have told them. Just tell your parents to pretend as if they we up getting water or etc.. and notice she was gone.

Answer 8

dont tell your parents..... like she will turn up...... yes i did sheak out at night....