My dad died when I was 8, im now 16. I need someone to talk to who has been thru this..?

Question

I was 8 years old when my dad drowned, im now 16 years old. Its hard, cause i dont remember him much. I sometimes wonder what he would look like today, how he would act. he was such a good guy, only 28 years old when he died. I miss him a lot sometimes, and i dont want to talk to my mom about it because i dont want to make her sad and miss him more then she already does. How can i stop missing him so much, or find closure? Has anyone been thru this? I just would give anything to have him back, whos going to walk me down the aisle on my wedding day? :-(

Answer 1

Talk to your mom she's the person who can answer the questions you need because she carried you for 9months and all the conversations about your life was probably shared between the two of them. Your dad was young when he died my dad died when I was 12. Whatever memories your mom have of your dad take them memories and write down and whatever image you come up with let that be your image of how your dad would look today and once you start dating make sure that the man you date know and love GOD then that way he will forfill all the years that your dad couldn't. If you have a uncle or a God father or even a stepdad let them walk you down the isle because that person would represent your dad and make your day as special as it should be.

Answer 2

My dad died when I was 8 also. It really never leaves me. The day he died is rather unclear to me as he was in the hospital many, many month. I saw him at home for Christmas, but he already was dying.He died in march. I think about him often. My mom was not a really good person to go to about my feels of loss. Profession counselors were better. I also find talking to him help tremendously. What happened to you does not happento the majority of people. Don't expect others to understand.. I wish you love and understanding.

Answer 3

My father died when I was 27, but my little brother was 11. He has a hard time lately because our mother just passed and he is only 16 and both parents are gone. It never gets "better", it takes a while to stop thinking about them every waking minute. What happens is you start to remember all the good times and how they did this and did that and hang on to that good feeling it gives you. I always try to keep a couple of pictures around of me and them to help because I knew they loved me and I know I loved them and will miss them, always. Good friends and family are always a good place to vent your feelings. Sorry about you loss.

Answer 4

I didn't meet my dad till I was 26yrs old, then he died. ( I only saw him a few hours) I have a lot of unanswered questions. I know they will never be answered. I suggest you start a letter to him, ask questions, say what's in your heart. That helps to get it out. Do this for as long as you need to. It takes a long as it takes. I would sit down with your mother and talk about your dad, you think it may make her sad, and I'm sure it will to some extent, but it might be good for her to talk to. I am sure she has some wonderful things to say that you would want to hear. Best wishes.

Answer 5

Do you have an uncle or other male member of your family who you could talk to? What about your gramma, gramp or even an aunt.
Try them.

You could also try your school counselor, your priest or youth counselor at your church or go online to hook up with a grief counseling group.

Your mom could walk you down the aisle at your wedding. Or your brother or your best friend or your longtime neighbor. Or even your family dog. It doesn't have to be a dad that walks you down the aisle. It can be whoever you choose.

Best of luck to you.

Answer 6

My mother died when I was 4 years old. and now I am 24, I have lived with my father all my life. and growing up was not easy for me. It's hard for a female to talk to there dad's about some stuff. My mother was killed from Drinking and driving. So I know what u are going through.

Answer 7

OMG im so sorry. I would do anything to help you have your dad back but unfortunatly I cant. Just remember you have a mom that loves you and is there for you. I would suggest talking to another family member you are close to or a best friend.

Answer 8

you can get to choose who walks you down the aisle, and your always going to miss your dad. i lost my grandma when i was 10 and i lost my grandpa b4 i was even born. your always going to miss them, there isnt any medical releiver for you to froget or stop missing them. i would give alot of things to get my grandparents back because they were so loving and caring and friendly. i loved them alot. but you will always miss them.

Answer 9

I dunno i guess go to a physchiatrist or something. You could also become close with one of your uncles and talk to him about your dad hear stories on what he did and advice he gave an uncle could also walk u down the aisle