I haven't been with my guy for even 6 months now, but we both know and say that we want to marry each other. He got divorced about 2 months ago, she burned him bad, but they've been seperated for over 2 years. I really don't want to pressure him but I am so ready to spend my life with this man. Any suggestions?
2006-07-25 08:59:33 · 13 answers · asked by Texas cowgirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Before you marry him, take some pre-marital counseling.
Setting down roles for each of you would help, and the counselor would be able to help you to prepare for marriage.
If you are interested in this, many churches offer pre-marital counseling for free.
I only knew my husband for 4 months when I married him, and we have been married for about 3 and 1/2 years.
Once you marry:
There will be fights, this is normal.
There will be days when you think you have made a huge mistake. This is also normal.
Just remember, the first year is the hardest because it is the year when you get to know each other as you really are.
People tend to act differently while they are dating. (like you don't fart in front of him, or you don't cuss in front of his family) Once you get married, you tend to relax and get more comfortable with time.
Good luck
2006-07-25 09:07:55 · answer #1 · answered by Katie N 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wooooaaahhh! sweetie slow down now. I know you might feel very strong about this guy and I'm sure he does you to but marriage is not a thing to jump into. there are alot of things that go along with it that can cause problems that a new relationship is not ready to handle. Even couples that have been together for years and years before marriage have problems with the process and one of the only reasons they can make it through is because they have years of being together behind their belt and they know they wouldn't want to lose all those years a 6 month relationship doesn't have that. If you really do love this guy do you really want to put what you have on the line for a last name, a ring and a piece of paper.
Marriage really isn't everything you can have nearly everything a marriage has with out the marriage. there is no need to rush into it just try living in a way like you were married and see how it works. Time and getting to know a person is very essential to a marriage.
Think It Over!
2006-07-25 16:10:27 · answer #2 · answered by DixieDarlin939 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Slow down. Let him decide when he's ready. If you're going to spend the rest of your life with him, a few months or years won't matter.
2006-07-25 16:04:58 · answer #3 · answered by lexicam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to take sometime to open his baggage....sort through it....decide what's good and what's toxic....what to keep and what to throw away. You should take a step back and give him lots of time to regroup. It doesn't matter how long he's been separated he's only been a single man for 2 months.
2006-07-25 16:06:51 · answer #4 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl, don't rush. you can't REALLY know a person in 6 months...
i have friends who rushed into a marriage like that where it has worked, but majority do not.
if you guys are meant to be together and married someday, it will happen! just be patient.
2006-07-25 16:02:58 · answer #5 · answered by Jamie C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah...WAIT A BIT LONGER. Don't rush into it or you'll regret it. There's a reason he's divorced, give him time to move past that. Wait, at least another year.
2006-07-25 16:04:58 · answer #6 · answered by Pyromaniac 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how you feel just remember that once someone has been hurt it takes time to heal. So, when you ask him and the answer he gives you isn't what you wanted to hear just remember that time heals all wounds. So, just be patient
2006-07-25 16:04:42 · answer #7 · answered by s. life 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, i think you should tell him how you feel coz it doesnt help you have all these feelings and you dont do anything about it, you should tell him and you can see if he really wants to spend his life with you then he will take it further but if he hesitates there is something bugging him.
2006-07-25 16:05:12 · answer #8 · answered by theguru_10 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well take ur time make sure he has no left over baggage. if he really loves u he is not going anywhere. put it on cruise control and enjoy the ride.
2006-07-25 16:03:46 · answer #9 · answered by soloyo67 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just take your time...also find out why she did what she did...dont rush into it cuz you may marry him and find out that it's a complete mistake...that's why i thank God that i found out how my ex was b4 i married him...
2006-07-25 16:03:07 · answer #10 · answered by klee0926 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋