Do any of you have the problem, of being indecisive?

Question

I have been dealing with this problem for years, any suggestions?

Answer 1

*raises hand*

Answer 2

I am guilty of being indecisive. It drives me crazy!! Sometimes it has to do with not wanting to make the wrong decision and other times it's because i'm completely ambiguous. My boyfriend on the other hand is the exact opposite. He knows what he wants and when he doesn't, he flips a coin. It's too hard for me to do that though, because I feel like I have to be in control all the time.

Maybe the best way to fix the problem is start out small. Make quick decisions about small, inconsequential stuff (like what to eat for lunch). Once you're comfortable with that, move on to bigger things.

Answer 3

Yes. I have been dealing with that too. I always think that someone wont like my answer, so I dont make decisions. I dont know why I am so worried about someone not agreeing. It could be something like "Do you want McDonalds, or Wendy's" Well, I like and hate them about equally... but Ill never suggest either. Ill never suggest either because Im worried that the person asking wants the other. So one day. I heald my breath, let my stomach turn, and I made a decision. My boyfriend was stunned... and told me "thats a great idea... lets go." I still have a hard time making any decisions, but I think if I keep working on it with some who knows the situation and can be supportive, I will eventually not feel so hesitant to make decisions.

Answer 4

I was like that for seriously a long time. For years after somethign that I felt was the cause of my actions I just had to find a way out of that rut.

I read a book ... and it asked me to imagine what would happen if i didn't make a decisionBasically visualizing the outcomes of decisions and not making one.

I'd like to tell you it worked. But it didn't.

So one day I woke up and said you I'm going to go with my first instinct on where to go for lunch. Something I'd always left to others when we went out. When everyone was gathered around, asking where to go I basically said: "If you guys don't have a problem with it, Why don't we go to Olive Garden!"

I didn't get shot down. Didn't have a bad experience. So i felt a bit bolder and picked a few more things the next day. Somethings small ... some not so. It took me a total of one month but I remember basically feeling like I was able to get a lot more accomplished.

I'll tell you this... there are days where you feel you made all the wrong decisons, or that no one values your opinio, or others opinions override yourse. But you know what, you gotta wake up the next morning ... and just DECIDE.

Been there. Done that. Indecision makes me look weak and 9 times out of 10 I don't particularly get something that I liked and I feel like I missed out. So ... go for it ... DECIDE to do it!

Answer 5

Yes, um, no, uhhhh yes....welll no. Um, definitely YES!

When the Time is Right

There are times when we simply do not know what to do, or where to go, next. Sometimes these periods are brief, sometimes lingering.

We can get through these times. We can rely on our program and the disciplines of recovery. We can cope by using our faith, other people, and our resources.

Accept uncertainty. We do not always have to know what to do or where to go next. We do not always have clear direction. Refusing to accept the inaction and limbo makes things worse.

It is okay to temporarily be without direction. Say, "I don't know," and be comfortable with that. We do not have to try to force wisdom, knowledge, or clarity when there is none.

While waiting for direction, we do not have to put our life on hold. Let go of anxiety and enjoy life. Relax. Do something fun. Enjoy the love and beauty in your life. Accomplish small tasks. They may have nothing to do with solving the problem, or finding direction, but this is what we can do in the interim.

Clarity will come. The next step will present itself. Indecision, inactivity, and lack of direction will not last forever.

Today, I will accept my circumstances even if I lack direction and insight. I will remember to do things that make myself and others feel good during those times. I will trust that clarity will come of its own accord.

Answer 6

I think this comes from fear of making a mistake. Just be willing to make a mistake and live with the consequences. If you make a decision that turned out badly, you will probably recover from it and move on. If you make a good decision, then all is well. Making no decision at all just bogs you down and you get nowhere.

Answer 7

I'm not sure.
Indecisiveness is really a fear of making the wrong decision, kinda like a phobia. Learn as much as you can about the subject, weigh your options carefully and go for it. If it's wrong, at least you'll know better next time. Mistakes are the best teacher...as long as you survive them of course.

Answer 8

um, let me think, not sure...damn i cannot make a decision on how to anwer you Kat...by the way you caught unto to the spooner thing...lol. i love it....you rock'

Answer 9

definitely. just when you make a decision stick with it.

Answer 10

I don't know, sometimes, other times no

Answer 11

I'm really not sure . . maybe . . nah that won't work. I'll get back to you.