I heard that my mom was going to get an abortion, when she was pregnant with me, but my grangma told her not to. I can't stop thinking about it, should I bring it up, or what should I do?
2006-07-25 08:37:51 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I bet if your mom could take it back she would. I almost did the same thing with my daughter. The most important thing to remember is that she DID NOT have an abortion. Also, it was your mom's choice to have you regardless of what your grandma said. Who in the world would tell you a thing like that anyways???
2006-07-25 11:00:01 · answer #1 · answered by Robyn W 2 · 13⤊ 2⤋
First off, your mom chose not to get the abortion. Your grandma may have told her not to, but in the end it was still her personal choice not to. When a person is pregnant a lot of thoughts go through their minds. Your mom was probably just trying to figure things out and decide what was best for her life at the time and abortion was one of the options. This has nothing to do with you personally. If you still can't get over it after thinking about this then talk to her and really listen to her and don't judge her because you can't ever place yourself in her shoes.
2006-07-25 08:44:01 · answer #2 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should definitely talk to your mom about this. Unresolved issues can bring up internal issues inside you and get you depressed. Just bring it up in a casual conversation with your mom when nobody's around. I'm sure you'll feel better once you talk to her. If you aren't comfortable to talk to your mom yet about this, talk to your grandma over the phone when your mom isn't home or in person if she lives close. This issue needs to be attended to and you need to know the details. Your best guide is your conscious. If you get along well with your mom, here's what I'd do. If you heard something that you weren't supposed to hear, you should talk to your mom. If your mom knows you know, you should talk to your mom. I don't think the situation would be different based on the details, but use your own judgment. I'll pray for guidance for you in getting this situation resolved. Remember, everyone has a purpose in life. You could also consult this guy from this website. The web address is www.askmrchristian otherwise known as Ask Mr. Christian. This is a good website. The dad of a Christian friend that I have made this website for another friend. He gives you really good advice. You could try consulting him. I have and you don't get any spam or junk mail. All you have to give is your e-mail address.
2006-07-25 10:11:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be too hard on your mom. She was probably very scared and confused at the time. She didn't really KNOW you like she does now. So don't be sad about it. She was dealing with something that was most likely overwhelming to her. If she's easy to talk to, then talk to her about it. But don't hate her for considering an abortion when she was young. You may not know the whole story, and you probably don't really know what emotions she was going through at the time. Just be glad she made the choice that she did, and let the past go away. Think about your own future and what you're going to do with your life.
2006-07-25 08:47:08 · answer #4 · answered by cynthiajean222 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, Ive kind of dealt with simular thoughts. Im the result of rape, which I was never suppost to know. I guess Ive come to think about things like this.
I cant control what happened. And I know now without a doubt that my family is glad to have me around. Im just fortunate that I have had a chance to live, and I have a chance to prove just what a great person I am despite the circumstances, and I have the opportunity to pass my gratefullness on to everyone else, so that if someone else is in the same situation, then maybe someone else will have the chance at life too.
2006-07-25 08:49:18 · answer #5 · answered by Slick Mac 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be sad.
If she had done that you would never have known about it.
You may as well speculate about what happened to all the other sperm that never fertilized your egg, or what happened to the eggs each month that never got fertilized. The idea is similar.
An abortion is not a murder despite views of idiot religious nuts that fail to understand biology.
Having a baby is a long term commitment that should be made in love and with understanding of the consequences. Clearly your Gram made her contribution to that decision.
Just be happy you have a nice life and make the most of it.
2006-07-25 08:44:31 · answer #6 · answered by PlayTOE- 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure she doesn't feel that way now. At the time, she may not have felt ready for the responsibility of having a child, or there may have been other problems that you don't know about. Just be glad she didn't, otherwise you would not be here. If you really need an answer and are ready for the conversation, ask your mother about it. If she truly loves you, she will tell you the truth
2006-07-25 08:44:06 · answer #7 · answered by Medusa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that maybe you should have a heart to heart talk with your mom , just something like this mom i would like to talk you about somethimg it been bothering me i have heard some that i am close to told that you want to do abortion and i was just wondering if it's true or not and just tell her how you feel then take from there, i wish good luck . now i feel sad even thought i don't know
2006-07-25 08:47:50 · answer #8 · answered by tinam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough one sweetie. Your mom might just have been toooo young and panicked. Does she treat you like she regrets the decision? If she doesn't, think -- maybe she is thankful she did not go through with it -- sounds like she has a great little girl!!If you have a good relationship with your Mom and/or Grandma, talk to them. By the way -- HOW did you find out? WHO told you? You will probably be asked, so be ready. Do not be afraid to say, just be honest and you will get your answers.
2006-07-25 08:44:58 · answer #9 · answered by GP 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't dwell on the past. facts are that she decided not to get an abortion and you are here. besides, if she really didn't want you, i think she would have put you in an orphanage...doesn't this tell you that she loves you...
besides, there's no point into thinking of the past, you can't change it, instead, think of what you can do to improve your relationship with your mom if the relationship is not good and strong. Otherwise, cherish your time with her, as you grow older, you will spend less and less time with her.
2006-07-25 08:43:27 · answer #10 · answered by Robert R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your Mom was just scared, I am sure if she is a good mom she never regrets having you. the best thing to do is sit and talk about it with her. Don't be sad, there is a reason you were put on this Earth, God doesn't make mistakes.
2006-07-25 08:43:06 · answer #11 · answered by Maria b 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋