Why are my parents this way?

Question

My parents always worry about me constantly about my education and my safety and they never worry about my sibling's education and safety. That 's not fair. I am not a bad kid. We are all teenage girls. Why are they this way? I am 16. They are 14 and 13. When I was their age, they always worry about me too. Why? They are not much better than me?

Answer 1

Screw 'em. Go out, get a tattoo, meet some sleazy guy, get yerself knocked up, and forget about them while you live your life in yer Barbie Dream Trailer Home.

Answer 2

Probably your age your 16 and probably intrested in boys and now possible driving and thinking about sex is probably how they see it I am sure they will treat you sisters the same way when they are you age. Just let them worry it's their job and way of showing they care for you. There are hundreds of kids out there who's parents don't worry at all and they end up in so much trouble my mom was the same way. At 16 you also only have 2 more years to do well and start looking into college. Maybe you shold sit down and have a talk with them tell them how you feel and maybe they can shed some light on your concerns. My hubby is the oldest in his family and the oldest always carries the weight on their shoulder cause you are setting an example for the younger one.

Answer 3

Listen...I'm a mother...and I constantly worry about my child...and he's a teenager too.

First of all, when you become a mother you are automatically given this worry-gene that you can't get rid of.

Second of all; this world that we live in is not Mayberry USA, Leave It to Beaver, The Brady Bunch...it's a cruel and dangerous world. So they worry about your safety because they read the papers they watch the news - you are not 10 foot tall and bullet proof -you can get killed out there. This world is full of preditors.

Lastly, your education is going to make you or break you. The more you know...the more you're worth. Listen to your parents...they are wiser than you think. Thank God that you have parents that love and care for you. While you probably think they are over-protective, they are only watching out for your own good.

You're probably older than the other kids right? They are trying to set an example.

Good Luck.

Answer 4

I have a 17 yr old girl, and a 15 yr old boy. my daughter always says the same thing about me/worrying bout her! HERES WHY...She is a new driver, so I worry bout all that..(she just got a speeding ticket for going 50 in a 35 and no seatbelts on her and her friend...) I wonder why I worry....Another reason I worry...shes the oldest, which means she gets the brunt of everything in me, the parents, learning phase. Obviously, this is the first time we as parents have had to deal with teenager kids and all the "drama" that goes with it! So, when we get to the younger kids, the oldest has "broke us in" so we may appear to not worry as much.(BUT WE DO, JUST DON'T SHOW IT AS MUCH) But really...be glad they do worry. you'll understand that later in life

Answer 5

You are the oldest! Everything about their parenting skills is based on your outcome. Yeah, I know it sounds crazy. I'm the mother of 8 and believe me, my oldest had it the worst. I tried so hard to be the perfect parent. He had to have the healthiest foods, the best education, the perfect friends... I tried to organize and control every aspect of his upbringing and I worried myself to death if anything went wrong. I loved him so much that I couldn't bear the thought of screwing up his life for him.
The next child was born 3 years later and I was still trying to get it right but I learned to relax just a bit. By the time the last one came along, I had learned that my kids are individuals with different personalities and outlooks on life. The best I could do as a parent was to love them and teach them how to love and respect themselves and others. All the really needed was to fell secure in that love and everything else would fall in place nicely.
Believe me, your parents love all of you with all of their beings. They are just not seeing the forest for the trees. No matter what, always know that they love you!!

Answer 6

It may not seam that way but your parents worry about all of you equally. I am an oldest child (of two) and now I am a mother of two. My children are a lot younger then you but I sympathize with your parents and your self. Becoming a parent made me realize and understand the thoughts and reasoning behind everything my parents did or say. When I had my son, I was on the phone with my mother for hours apologizing for every thing that I have done to her when I was younger. Your parents are acting in your best interest and are drawing from their experiences in how they treat you. Parents seam to have that vision of what is about to happen and with their actions try to steer you in a different direction. We (as parents) try to give everything to our children and there is always reasoning behind our actions. We (as Children) sometimes don’t see it but trust me it is in your best interest. It is true I treat my children differently. That is because I know them too well, to the point of being able to read their minds. Your parents are the same way. We, as parents, know our child’s limitations and strengths. We know when to push and when to let go.

Answer 7

Maybe because you are the oldest and the role model for the younger ones. They just want the best for you and hope that by your actions, it will help to influence the others. I have three, the oldest now 20 and I did the same thing-parents can only do the best they know how.

Answer 8

Perhaps your parents worry more because of your age. You are at the prime dating age and school is something any parent should worry about with any age. But because you are female and they have your sisters too, they are trying to see that your sisters see that if you have no problems then they too can accomplish. The parenting part goes with your age, I as a parent treat each of my children, all five of them, according to their age differently. As the younger ones grow I will change how they are treated as well unless one shows me they are prone to trouble. Otherwise, each are treated according to their ages and its how we as parents help each child individually.
If this is a really big problem and not something you see in a teens eye, then perhaps you should ask your parents why it seems they are more protective and more concerned about you at the moment than your younger sisters. You may be surprised and find that they are working with you the same way that I am working with my children.
My 12 year old gets mad because I let the 17 year old do things that I wont let her do. She really lets me know she thinks its not fair, but I try to let her know that when she is older things will change for her as well. Its part of parents letting their children grow up and be prepared for what is out in the world that we try to protect them from till they reach certain ages.


I wish you luck kiddo... But do try talking to your parents and letting them know that you have a minor problem with the treatment. Perhaps they will see it your way and then all of you can find the happy medium for you.

Answer 9

Maybe because you are the first-born? Maybe they cannot get out of the habit of being more worried about you since they became new parents 16 years ago. And, because they care. Not everything is life is fair, sorry to say.

Answer 10

It's because you are the first-born, your their baby girl...you'll always be...and your getting to the age where you like to experience things, or maybe it's just because they are afraid of looseing you too soon...It's all for the love...you gatta belive that...Your parents care about you and you should feel lucky...Most parents could care less about what their kids did...and that's the truth...as for your siblings...they will learn from you...so your parents probably aren't as worried with them as with you...