Who else lives thousands of miles away from their family and friends?

Question

I have my husband, and that is it. He is the greatest, don't get me wrong. Just wanna hear what you guys are dealing with..

And...we are trying to make friends...just a slow process. I lived in the same area all of my life, and am a little shy at first. My husband gets us together with couples sometimes (co-workers and their wives) to go out.

Answer 1

Time for new friends. Remember the old song we learned as kids ? "Make new friends but keep the old; one is silver and the other is gold." Your situation is whatever your situation is - with your husband because of his work (military or just a remote location) and you have to strike out on your own. If you aren't working, time to start volunteering - pursuing some interest you have always had - joining a book club - taking a class - getting some exercise (hey, learn to pole dance!). You are where you are and now go out and show that part of the world what a hell of a woman you are!

Answer 2

Yes, I live thousands of miles away from family and friends. I just moved a month ago to a new country with my boyfriend. We are setting up a home here but it is reallllllly difficult sometimes to deal with all that is thrown at us. A true test to our relationship and to ourselves individually. My family and I are really close and it is sooo hard to be so far away. Like your husband, I think my boyfriend is the greatest, and I genuinely believe that it will be enough for me to stay here for awhile. It is just taking time to adjust I guess. New food, new attitudes, new culture, new language, new everything. Ways to cope? I am learning the language for 4 1/2 hours every morning (this both keeps me busy and helps me to feel more comfortable in this new place, starting to know what people are saying). I am putting a lot of energy into my new apartment, making it as homey is possible. Striking out and walking around alone is also a good way to learn the place and to get some alone time. That's it I guess. Best of luck to you.

Answer 3

I work in Johannesburg and live in Tzaneen.There is only 375 miles between me and my wife and kids.It might as well have been a thousand but thankfully it is not.I only get to see them once or twice a month depending on my finances.Fuel is very expensive and public transport almost nonexistent.Sometimes I feel like giving up and going home.The problem is that there is very few jobs around. And I can definitely not sit at home doing nothing.I am still paying one car.The other vehicles that i have has been paid and so is the three houses.Actually I am very lucky but I still wish I could see my family more often.I do not go out as I don`t know anybody.All I have here are my friends of Yahoo answers.Sorry for my long story but I feel better.Thanks.

Answer 4

I do; my husband and I relocated to Florida from the Seattle area six years ago, and I left all of my best friends back there. It's really hard to make new friends; I grew up in the same place my whole life before we moved and have known most of my friends since kindergarten. I've finally got a few friends here, but nothing like my girls :) I still talk to them on myspace though, and I call my best friend every weekend. I know exactly what you're going through...one thing that worked for me was to make friends through my husband, because he's the extroverted one :)

Answer 5

I live three states away from my family and friends. I actually don't mind it at all except now that we have a one month old, I do regret that the grandparents can't spend more time with their grandson. Otherwise, I find I'm actually more outgoing now since I'm not in my comfort zone and want to meet people. We've developed a core group of friends here and our circle of acquaintances is growing. Just hang in there. It will get better but it doesn't happen overnight!

Answer 6

I have been 1000 miles away from my family for 5 years. I only have my husband and it has been very hard. To tell you the truth, we are moving back to my hometown next month so I can be around my family. I did not tolerate being alone very well. I say go home.......family is very important. (if you can) If not then definitely get out and try to find at least one good friend you can talk to and hang out with. I know your husband probably thinks he is enough but girls need other girls to vent to right?

Answer 7

Three years ago I moved form all of my friends and family. The best hting to do is get involved right away- find a church, find a place to volunteer , go out and find groups or clubs where people have similar interests. Join a gym. You will never get to know people if you don't go out and meet them. If people dont know you are there, you can't expect them to be beating down your door. Go places where you canmeet people and invite them over for coffee or lunch or something. Pretty soon you will be too busy to be lonely or bored.

Answer 8

Give the man a holiday. He is combating for his nation. Probably solution to busy to be dishonest. Get over your insecurities. His lifestyles is at the line day-to-day. Imagine how he feels. He will get to bake within the a hundred thirty measure warmth day-to-day brooding about if he'll see the next day to come, whilst you get to take a first-rate tub, appear beautiful, and feature guys hit on you day-to-day. No surprise he's extra far-off. You don't have any concept what he's going via. He goes via sufficient, with no need to fear approximately an insecure gf at residence. He is the one that must be involved approximately you. I do not care what he has performed ago. Give him a holiday till you recognize for certain.

Answer 9

All of my family is 12 hours from me - I have a husband and his family pretty near but nothing compares to mine and since we are so close to his he insists that we spend EVERY holiday with them. It sucks but sometimes you just have to bite the bullet and go see them. It weird knowing that if something happens you only have one person to rely on to be there for you. Car trouble, health problems, etc.

Answer 10

I have my cat, and I'm living in a city that was founded by a General. One aunt and one cousin live in the Sacramento area.
My brother lives in SF and my mother lives north of me. Quite scattered.