Why am I the only one out of my siblings, cousins, and friends that have parents that ALWAYS have parents that make me study? No one I know have parents that do that. Many people say "because you don't make good grades like them." That is not true. My siblings, some of my cousins, and some of my friends are 10 times more lazy than me. So why am I the only one? I don't understand. That is not fair. Do you agree?
2006-07-25 07:44:30 · 29 answers · asked by youngwoman 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Be happy, very happy, that your parents care enough about you, to want you to do well.
Your lazy friends don't have 'cool' parents. They have parents that don't care about them. To them, their kids are, at best, a nuisance.
2006-07-25 07:50:04 · answer #1 · answered by Jolly1 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you the achiever in the family? Are you parents immigrants?
I'm the only female grandchild in my family (I have a dozen male cousins and 3 male siblings). My parents put a lot of pressure on me to study and excel because A) I was very bright and B) they wanted me to get a college education (and scholarship). I'm the only woman in my family to go to college- that was a TON of pressure!
Maybe explain to them that you understand the importance of studying and doing well in school, but that you feel you deserve a break every once in a while. Perhaps tell them for every hour you study, you're going to take 1/2 hour to have some fun and/or relax. All that studying must be driving you crazy!
I think by talking to them and not pointing out how others have it (less rules), you'll reach them. By coming out and complaining about everyone else having more freedom, your parents may just turn a deaf ear to it.
2006-07-25 14:50:55 · answer #2 · answered by lookdontlook 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you the oldest? If so, you're parents probably tell you to study because your siblings look up to you, and if they see you studying, then they will study too.
My parents don't really constantly tell me to study, but if it's exams or something, they have me studying from the time I get home until they can rush me off to bed to get the proper amount of sleep. They tell my sister to all the time though. She's the oldest (in the house) though. And I've always wanted to be like her. So if she's studying in her room, I go along and study too. That might be what your parents are after. The brunt of it sometimes falls on the oldest. But you'll always have adoring little siblings to make up for it.
2006-07-25 15:21:41 · answer #3 · answered by millancad 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every person is different. Your siblings may not need to study as much as you do. It could go back as far as when you were a toddler and how long it took you to learn things. Sounds like your parents only want the best for you and are wanting to work through problems BEFORE they arrive. I would just buckle down and listen to them. Another thing is they're possibly looking to keep you occupied and out of trouble. :-). Maybe it's being a teenage girl thing. Hang in there!
2006-07-25 14:56:53 · answer #4 · answered by Kimba 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all. It is a sign of love.
You have to depend on your parents to do "what is good for you".
Sorry about that comment but it is true. If they feel that you need to study and get better grades then that is it. You won't appreciate it until later in life when you are mature enough to do so.
Do not compare them or you to others. No situation is the same.
When you graduate from college you will thank them for being your "parents".
2006-07-25 14:51:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the parents of your friends don't care as much about them as your parents do about you.
Maybe your parents want you to go to a decent university, then get a good job and have a good life? Is that so bad?
As for "it's not fair" - there's nothing you could say that would make you sound more childish. Stop it.
2006-07-25 14:52:58 · answer #6 · answered by Alex 42 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
--Not at all. Your parents want you to be as prepared for life as possible and you won't get that hanging out with friends and family. Also, there is a good chance your parents see something special in you that they may not see in your borthers and sisters. Make sure they do understand that social skills are of importance and you need to learn these as well as your school assignments.
2006-07-25 14:52:08 · answer #7 · answered by raiderking69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be happy you have parents that care about your future. They only want you to be smart so that you can get into college and have a great job when you are older. Other kids aren't that lucky to have parents like yours. Most kids' parents don't care what their kids are learning or if they are learning at all for that matter. Be happy that your parents want what's best for you. They aren't trying to make you mad, they just want you to have a good future.
2006-07-25 14:51:32 · answer #8 · answered by BeeFree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not the only one! I have a 15 year old son and he gets straight A's and is majorly smart. he gets totally mad at me when I make him study!!!! BUT I want him to develop good study habits for when college arrives cuz college will not be as easy! Good habits start early! I want him to be prepared! Trust me- they only nag u out of love!!!!
2006-07-25 15:22:19 · answer #9 · answered by cstinkerbell6969 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree and im sorry. that doesn't sound fair at all. how are you stuck being watched over constantly to do your homework (which im sure you would do with or with out your parents forcing you) and your other siblings are getting off easy? thats not fair!
2006-07-25 14:49:12 · answer #10 · answered by chikka 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋