How do I politely tell my friend that I would like to hang out with her and not her and her 2 year old son?

Question

Seems like everytime I invite her to do something, she has to bring him along. I don't mind it once in a while but she dosent even try to find a babysitter at all. When he is around I can only be around them for a few hours before the headache starts to set in. How can I tell her I would like to hang out with just her for once without offending her?

Ok, First of all this kid hits. I know i know all kids do that but I mean, he even hits his mom. She does not correct anything that he does wrong. So on top of being annoyed by the childs fits of rage I am also very put off by her lack of parenting skills. It is a very frustrating time when I am with them.

Answer 1

Then finda new friend...

Answer 2

Try inviting her to someplace where its very obvious a two year old would not be wanted - a fancy party or restaurant or something. Or maybe an adult movie [by which I mean an R-rated one, not porn!]?

If that doesn't work, I would just try and talk to her. Most parents understand that other people don't like hanging around with their kids - if you think you have a headache after a few hours, imagine how she must feel being with the kid all the time!

What you might need to realize, though, is that once you have a two year old child, you pretty much have to take him or her everywhere. Babysitters are often not financilly feasible and some parents are uncomfortable with them looking after their babies. Its a sad truth, but once you become a parent, you life revolves around the kid.

Answer 3

Be honest. Tell her you love her little one (even if you can't stand him) but you miss hanging out with just her and that you guys are kind of limited as to what kinds of things you can do with a 2 yr old along. Ask her if you can split the time up so that sometimes you do things with her and her kid, since you respect the fact that now that she is a mom she has to spend time with her child, and other times the two of you can do things together while her kid goes to a babysitter.

Answer 4

If you can't take being around her parenting and her son, then don't even ask her to go out because he will always come before you. You could ask her to go out somewhere where kids aren't allowed... she would have to find a sitter then. Remember that it is even harder for her to leave him behind because some people are not drop dead parents and they want to spend time with their kids. You know what, life is short... just tell her how it is- cause you never know if you will be here tomorrow or the next day... LIVE life now, and just get over the kid... get around it and go out to 21 and over (if your 21)

Answer 5

Don't be selfish, if she read this I guarantee she would be offended. I would!! If you want to be friends with her, you better get used to the fact that she is a mom. By no means is there no reason why she shouldn't be able to go out here and there with out him, it's just the way you said it, and if she really wanted to, she would have brought it up by now. Maybe she love her son and wants him by her side all the time.
My answer to you is.....Find someone as immature as yourself to hang out with and leave her to find a better friend.

Ok then....as far as the hitting and bad parenting.....instead of you being mad at a misguided child or her parenting skills, a true friend would help her and be by her side where she needs it most. Not by taking the little tike out of the picture but by helping her cope and deal with her sons behavior.

Answer 6

If the child's father is around arrange your outing when he either can watch the child or when he has the child (visitation and all that). You may want to bring the issue up gently about the hitting. Is the child mimicking what he sees at home? Too much Power Rangers or TV that is too old for him? If she doesn't reign in the hitting now it will only get worse and he will get bigger and have more power behind that punch, OUCH!

Answer 7

I know I'd be greatly offended if someone told me not to bring my child. Find a new friend or deal with it! Or go by your self. Or wait till the child gets in school all day. I had a friend just like that and I stopped making plans to go out to do things with her. I'd rather go it alone anyway because I don't like to wait on some to get ready, or have to do what they want. I want to do what I want, so I go alone, shopping, eating, whatever. Good Luck.

Answer 8

Love the mom, love the child. Have you ever offered to pay for the sitter? Or to care for the child while the mother goes out to a doctor's appointment, or to have her hair cut? Friendship works both ways, and parenthood is forever. Good mothers should be praised for keeping their children with them and not dumping them in some daycare center all the time, not criticized.

Answer 9

You shouldnt decrease your self to a undeniable form of acquaintances. Have some situations once you grasp out with a million and 3 because of the fact the three of you get an prolonged and different situations you supply to chum 2. each individual on your existence supplies you something different and something unique. Dont low value what firend 2 brings on your existence basically becuase he or she won't savour chum 3's corporation. cut up some time up and get extra out of existence!

Answer 10

Say U wanna go to a club and then she will have 2 get a baby sitter or try to find a good baby sitter 4 her tat she can trust, she might bring him along cuz she thinks her baby needs to be by her all the time!!!

Answer 11

Invite her out to a club/bar or adult restaurant - that should let her know she can't bring her son along. You could also just tell her that you love her and her son, but that you would like to have a girl's day out or girl's night out. If she's tight on money, maybe offer to split the sitter with her.