my fiance broke up with me, and I want him back.?

Question

My fiance is 36 and I am 23. We were together for over a year, and live together for 4 months. He broke up with me a day before my b-day but I want him back. He didn't give me any concreat reason, he said that I am too young for him because I still go to school and don't have real job. But I love him so much I and I can't live without him. I have spoken to him coulple times since but he told me that he needs some time to think through. I can't stand this situation, I want to talk to him and see him everyday. I miss him so much. Please help.

Answer 1

you can't make someone want you who doesn't want you. close the door, and get on with your life. There are lots of guys out there, no worries. You'll get over it, we all do, by finding someone else.

Answer 2

It sounds to me like he did give you three concrete reasons. He said you are too young, you are still in school, and you don't have a real job.

All of the reasons he gave are valid. You ARE young. He has 13 years on you and can see things from a more mature vantage point. He is old enough to know what it takes to make a relationship work for the long haul. TRUST ME -- if his heart is not in it -- YOU DO NOT WANT HIM BACK!

I am not at all discounting your pain. Your pain is real. I just think you need to be thankful that you didn't marry him before he came to this conclusion. It would have been much harder to deal with a DIVORCE than a BREAK UP. Try to move ahead with your life. You will be happier in the long run.

Good luck.

Answer 3

If he loved u in a fashion that made feel as though he could not live with out you (the way a fiance should fell about their significant other) he would not have left and u. u deserve that everyone on this earth deserves that so I say let him go he may come back if he realized he made a mistake and if you still love him then take him back if not then tell him you believed that he made the right choice when he left never beg anybody to be with you no one is worth that. Trust me I know I went thru something very sililar in '05 so learn to love yourself more in order to get through this I know I did and more importantly I had God there for me and a great best friend whom I relied on alot to get through it and I did and found out there was someone betther for me anyways so it all worked out in the end

Answer 4

Look as much as you hurt ...HE left you for no good reason.
If he left you once why take him back knowing he had the strength to do it.
This is a disaster waiting to happen.
Please re think this course of action.

Instead of running after him put the love you have for him in the back of your heart….
Finish school …find a real job. If after all that living you still want him back go present your self to him as a adult with a job abs life all your own.

Answer 5

My first question to you would be, is this your first real relationship? If so, it's not going to be easy to get over him, regardless of what people say. You're still very young. Don't waste your life trailing after someone who obviously doesn't want to be with you. You deserve better, and you should have a bit of dignity. You should never have to beg someone to be with you. If they want you, itwould be a no brainer. Think of this as the best thing that ever happened to you. I know couples that have married with years of age difference between them, and it never worked out. Either you would end up wanting someone younger, or he would. Obviously he likes the younger women;) Youre going to make your own decision despite what you read on this page. But hopefully you'll realize that you are worth MUCH more than this. Good luck!

Answer 6

Wow, Simone....that is almost the opposite of what jsut happened to me. My ex is 22 and I am 36. This past Friday, she broke up with me. All I can think for you in your situation is to give him that time. I'm not sure why he's that worried about your career or school...perhaps he's a little embarrassed around his friends too, many of whom I bet are married with kids. It cuts both ways...my ex was a little embarrassed in public by my age, but I was a little embarrassed too. Anyway, give him that time, Simone. One fo the great things about guys in my age group, we are usually ready to settle down. I wouldn't stress too much about him finding another woman right away. I am sorry about your heartbreak....I am heartbroken too right now.

Answer 7

If he can just up and break it off with you for no reason other than the age difference, then he never really cared much, or does not love you as much as you thought he did. The best thing for you to do is find your own feet. Move on from him, continue on with your education, get a job, and support yourself. He is not worth you hurting yourself over. Prove to him that you don't need him.

Answer 8

Forget about him.. at 36 years old and he has still not found himself.. he is a loser... Find someone at least 10 years younger who has the same goals in life you do... the worst thing is being with someone who does not love you.. it will be worse being with him than without him...

Answer 9

For one thing age is just a number so everyone needs to get over the hes old move on ... what are you thinking dating someone that old... u can help who you fall in love with... Id say give him his time .. if its ment to be it will be

Answer 10

i think u should know whether he loves u or not, i mean they say that age doesn't matter as long as the two love each other and age difference between both of u is not that big.
try to know if there is someone else in his life.
if it doesn't work between both of u, don't feel so bad bec. some day u will find someone who loves and u love him too

Answer 11

Maybe it wasn't ment to be. but if you feel that way give him some time. call him everyonce in a while but not everyday. Ask him on a date or make him a dinner and talk to him tell him how you feel and ask him to tell you how he feels.maybe he will come around.