A Q to anyone who cheats on their spouse. Why? Why not just end it with the person you are with so you can flirt and do other things with the other girls/guys you are hunting so bad? Has anyoneone ever cheated once by then never did again? Why do people cheat, is it becuase they are no longer happy with who they are with? Thanks
2006-07-25 07:11:31 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
By "cheating" I don't necessarily mean having sex with another person. It could be online chatting (cyber/sexually), calling girls, etc.
2006-07-25 07:26:32 · update #1
I want to proudly say I have never cheated, but have been cheated on. I was never able to find out why my ex girlfriend cheated on me. She claimed she loved me, she claims she was happy with me, and wanted to spend the rest of her life with me.
I just don't believe it. I don't think she has the courage to tell me the truth. Of course, this doesn't matter anymore. I am happily married and have been for more than 5 years now. The curious thing about my ex, is she still keeps tabs on me. For some reason she still feels the need to know where I am and If I am still married. This will always be a mystery to me.
People cheat for many reasons. Some for the thrill of it, some because they aren't happy, some because they are seeking revenge for a real or perceived wrong done to them by their significant other, others do it because they can, and some do it because they are very selfish and feel the need to stroke their ego with the fact that more than one person wants to be with them.
The bottom line is there are some people who, for their own reasons, choose not to be faithful. Make no mistake about it, cheating is a willful, conscious act done by an individual knowing the other person will be hurt once they find out about the cheating. I believe it to be a mean spirited action with the solely intended purpose being designed around hurting others. Unfortunately, this is a reality of life.
I don't think anyone who has cheated can do it just once. Once they have figured out they can do it, they will do it again.
If this question has come about because someone has cheated on you, then let me say I am very sorry. My heart goes out to you. I now it hurts. But keep in mind, you are the bigger person if you remained faithful even when your significant other didn't.
2006-07-25 08:14:24 · answer #1 · answered by bowtierodz 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Some cheat for the excitement or the thrill. Some do it to see or feel as though they are still attractive. For the most part something is missing in their current relationship and they've tried in some shape form or fashion to address their needs but failed. So the next thing is to venture out and find what's missing. However, most end up cheating and not leaving their current spouse because they understand it's just a fling or a phase that will soon be over. Knowing the grass isn't always greener and not wanting to lose what they have built over time.
2006-07-25 14:21:43 · answer #2 · answered by mrpuffandstuff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think a lot of it has to do in not being happy with all aspects in your current situation. Sometimes a person may have many qualities you seek but lack in other departments. This can leave the gate wide open for someone who may be aware of this and to present their capability to fill a gap. I do agree with you, that if you seek someone else you should be honest with the person your with but I guess most people either lack the backbone or just want their cake and eat it to!
2006-07-25 14:18:33 · answer #3 · answered by M D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh sweetie, that depends on the person. When I cheated on my exhusband, it was because of my competitive nature. {long story} He thought I was stupid and didn't know he was cheating with multiple people...I was the sweet wifie sitting at home missing her husband; little did he know. I cheated because I could. And, yes it was multiple times, and no, we are not together still today. Thank God!
People cheat for different reasons: let my ex tell it, he didn't cheat because he wasn't happy (after all, he was in love with me he said). He cheated because he could. Same reason why I did.
2006-07-25 14:15:54 · answer #4 · answered by Dee M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay...
I'll take a shot at this...
Why? because you're not getting your needs fulfilled at home.
Why not end it... because... there are oftentimes CHILDREN and financial concerns. Perhaps the co-expensing and the companionship are okay.
Men who cheat SELDOM leave their wives for the OTHER woman, they will more likely find another, other woman.
I've never known anyone who cheated JUST ONCE.
Already answered.
welcome.
2006-07-25 14:16:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I never cheated.. and never plan to either. Most people explain it as an outcome of a larger male sex drive! But thats just shallow
2006-07-25 14:14:30 · answer #6 · answered by Arvind C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People fall inlove more than once. They don't want to lose the first person but the second person is just as important as well. Some people just have that type of dumb problem.
2006-07-25 14:14:44 · answer #7 · answered by lustful_essence 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My DD just found out her DH of 15 years has been cheating on her.
they have 3 young girls.
Even when they met, I knew the guy really only cared about himself.
Usually cheaters cant' get over themselves, life is about them. they don't know how to sacrifice, they don't know what love involves.
2006-07-25 14:16:52 · answer #8 · answered by tuna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when my live in boyfriend treated me like crap I cheated on him just so I could get my revenge. It made me feel so much better, he never found out, but just the fact that I know what I did, makes me smile, I would do it again... no doubt.
2006-07-25 14:17:06 · answer #9 · answered by TANIA M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it starts has innocent flirting but can lead to more serious things. Sometimes people are randy and want do anything that moves; drivnig by sex.
Some are just unhappy with their partners but do nto wnat to leave their kids
2006-07-25 14:16:10 · answer #10 · answered by sam_keane_uk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋