Why have i been single for nine years? Everyone that i have known has had at least one or two gf's in that period of time, and that really bugs the hell out of me. I've gone looking for girls, and i've tried just sitting back and waiting for someone to come along. Nothing has worked, which sucks. Am i never supposed to have a gf in my life time. If that is so, then why the hell should i continue to live.
2006-07-25 07:02:58 · 51 answers · asked by theone 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
be more proactive
try asking friends to fix you up or go ona match website
also maybe on your dates you are doign something wrong
talk to your friends maybe they can give you some advice for dates
2006-07-25 07:03:56 · answer #1 · answered by hanntastic 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hopefully you are not just 10 years old, but an adult. So yes, Here are some things that should help you:
If you are fat, loose it, if you are too thin gain it, go to the gym. If you do not have a drop dead killer smile, spend some buckos and see the best cosmetic dentist in your area. Spend some more buckos on several nice outfits. If you are not educated, go back to school, or get a trade that pays you a decent salary, so that you and your future wife, who will also have a job, won't have lots in the way of $$ problems. If you have a negative personality, change it. If what you are about to say is not nice, shut the hell up. Don't be a complainer, and a whiner. Have lots of interesting things you like to do -- photography, movies, symphony, i.e., become a class act, and you don't have to be a rocket scientist or a doctor to be a class act. If you use foul language, drop it. About the only things acceptable are damn and hell. Get your hair done by someone who knows what they are doing. If your skin is a mess, see a derm. In otherwords, if the jacket of the book is shabby, clean it up -- no one will ever EVER open it if it isn't pleasant to look at.
Now, go have a really great set of photos taken, and put up an ad on Yahoo personals, Match.com and some of the others. Google "dating sites". If you make yourself into a catch someone will want to share your life with you. And I totally TOTALLY agree; life sucks, absolutely and positively without that special person in your life. I have been married, and I have been single and I'll take married any time. When you find that lovely lady, never stop wooing her....when the committment is there, send her flowers for no reason, tell you love her not so much in words, tho we always love that, but in the nice things you do for her. Never, never argue, but discuss..... if you need help in that area, read the book, The Assertive Option. Be the very best loving man, by not being selfish --- Be the best lover she ever had.... read the book "For Each Other" by Lonnie Barbach get them both cheap in paperback on Amazon...
Now that I have figured out your whole life,,, do it!!!!!!!!!
2006-07-25 07:20:17 · answer #2 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well some people have trouble getting gfs or bfs but u just have to be patient if ur over 21 then go to a club or sumthin.. my cousin is 30 and just now is getting a gf he hadnt had one since he was like 20 or sumthin and they're happy and are thinking about getting married.. just theres someone out there for everyone and ur time will come anyhow good luck in the mean time
2006-07-25 07:07:32 · answer #3 · answered by Aj 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you??? And, there is more to life than having a girlfriend!! At one time I was single for two years in between boyfriends and I enjoyed every minute of it!!! Think about it...you have NO ONE to answer to, NO ONE to cater to, NO ONE to b*tch at you...enjoy it!!! Your time will come...maybe you are looking for girls in the wrong places!!! Bars and clubs are not the places for guys or girls to meet someone...I mean, I go to those places, but just to have fun, not to look for love. Go to your local bookstore (Borders?), or start talking to females (questions about how to make something always seem to work) when you go to the grocery store...just start talking to females everywhere you go!!! You never know what might develop. Or, take more initiative...for example, the man I am with (for over two and a half years now) showed up on my front door step the day before Valentine's Day with a gift bag which had a stuffed teddy bear (even though that's NOT my sort of thing), some chocolate and a card in it which said he felt that I deserved to get something nice and that he would like to go on a date sometime if I was interested...the rest is history!!! We've hung out every day since then...sometimes it takes you to do something outside of the ordinary (or even something that makes you super uncomfortable) to get what you want in life. Good luck!!!
2006-07-25 07:11:14 · answer #4 · answered by star 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont worry guy, its not you. Girls MAKE IT difficult on men. Also, if you dont have something significant to impress them with or money it really doesnt help. Yeah , their are some real good girls out there but they are hard to find because they are either really shy or waiting for you to make some ultimate move on them, and even then they might play games. I've been with a few woman and its all the same. Men experience 10 times more rejection then woman could ever comprehend. I have a beautiful daughter to show for it though, be strong and be yourself. Take Care.
2006-07-25 07:11:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, there are more reasons to live than just to have a girlfriend. Sometimes having one is more of a pain in the a s s
than not!
You have probably been cruising the bars looking for someone... WRONG!
Try one of the snappy new dating services. Join a community group. Go to church. Go to the library... Try something new you have never tried before. You will eventually meet someone. Be patient.
There's someone for everyone.. I had to wait to find my girl until I was 39 yrs old. I almost gave up hope... Hang in there.
2006-07-25 07:06:46 · answer #6 · answered by crazyotto65 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your sentence states the basis of your problem. Why are you basing he value of your life on whether or not you have a girlfriend? Find things to do in life that you enjoy...have great friends, do fun things...learn, travel, volunteer, etc...you don't need a woman to have a fulfilling or enjoyable life...
When you are happy with who you are and how your life is...that is when you'll make the best partner for someone else...when you're not actively looking...that's when someone will cross your path and knock your sox off...
...bonus is, that if it takes some time for that to occur, you'll still be enjoying your groovy life and not bemoaning the fact you don't have a gf...
2006-07-25 07:06:40 · answer #7 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should continue to live because life isn't about finding someone else. You have to be completely hapy with who you are alone before you can find happiness with another. Try going out and doing more things you truely enjoy. Like art shows, concerts, hiking, or whatever and you are bound to meet lots of people. The more friends you have, the better networking you do, the moe likely you are to find someone that you enjoy spending time with and vise versa.
2006-07-25 07:07:29 · answer #8 · answered by Carissa is just Spanky 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sister is in the same boat with you. She wants to get married really bad and has not had anyone for more than nine years. I told her that she needs to learn to be happy alone first and when she does that then someone will come along. You can't be any good to someone else until you are complete and happy with yourself first. Just learn to treat yourself good first and learn who you are and what you would even have to offer a woman...and trust me just when you have stopped looking for one she will be right there.
2006-07-25 07:09:11 · answer #9 · answered by kristin747 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Should you continue to live simply because you don't have a girlfriend? hey..once you get one..you may have that same question..she might make your life hell. I don't know why people are so hung up on getting involved with someone. Its not always a good thing. Enjoy your freedom while you have it, soon you'll be tied down, I'm sure.
2006-07-25 07:05:52 · answer #10 · answered by Catherine n 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you defining yourself by whatever girlfriend you will get? Aren't you an individual with specific goals, aspirations, and standards in your life? Why are you sitting around waiting for someone to come along and "make you into something."
What do you have to offer a girlfriend? Maybe you should make a life for yourself; form your identity without another person first. Then you will know what kind of girlfriend you want in your life.
If you are waiting for someone to come along and tell you who to be, tell you what your life should be like, tell you how to live, tell you who you are, then you're not wanting a girlfriend---you're wanting someone to live your life for you.
2006-07-25 07:06:14 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋