im 23 weeks preg with a two year old that thinks hes a baby still?

Question

im preg due in nov, i have a two year old that sleeps with me, he sucks on my finger to go to sleep weird but true, hes not potting trained. the dad says that i baby him to much and to stop because once i have the baby im going to have a hell of a time, teying to take care of both of them. i dont think theres nothing wrong with me babying my son hes my kid. but what can i do? ive told my boy that theres a baby on the way i just have a feeling that hes going to be very jealous and try to hurt the baby or something?

Answer 1

This is a very difficult situation becuase even toddlers who are NOT 'babied' have a heck of a time getting used to a new baby. I would suggest making some "big kid" changes immediatly. He needs his own bed, no bottles, and potty training. That way, his role will be clearly defined: the big brother, not the baby. The frightening thing is...he might regress even MORE once the baby is here and then you'll have a bigger problem on your hands. The good news is...you have time. It's going to take patience, but you can do it.

Congrats on your pregnany! Best of luck

Answer 2

This would be a good time to start letting him nap at grandma's or aunt susie's or somewhere away from you.
Also, it is a little early to begin potty training. I would wait on that until the new baby is a few months old. Diapers are easier than training any day!
He probably will be jealous, but if you have already begun teaching him gentleness and continure to show him how to be easy with the new baby after it arrives and let him 'help mommy' take care of the baby, the jealousy shouldn't become a major problem.
Don't forget to spend good one-on-one time with him after the baby comes even if it means asking someone else to watch the new baby for awhile every few days.

Answer 3

You need to try to get him to understand that he is a big boy now. At the age of 2 he should be sleeping in his own bed. Potty traing takes a while dont worry about that to much. I can tell you it is very expensive with 2 in diapers. You can just treat him like a big boy and he will pick up on it with no hesitations and when the new baby comes it will be hard but spend as much time as yoou can playing with him let him be a part let him help change the baby or throw the diaper away. Help him hold the baby let him help feed the baby this will help so he doest get jealous

Answer 4

Ok, take this advice very seriously. I have 4 children. I am 32 years old, and at the time, my husband and I wanted a large family, and started right away. Whenever I had a bun in the oven, and a little one clinging to my leg, I made sure to give him all the attention he needed while I was pregnant, but making sure to include him or her in on the growing baby in my tummy. I went to the bookstore and bought all sorts of toddler friendly pregnancy books that showed my toddler exactly what was growing in mommy's tummy. Then I let the toddler help me get ready for baby. I also got a baby doll for the toddler and let them practice holding it and playing with it and "feeding the baby" and changing the baby etc. By doing this, you help the toddler transition from being the "baby" to being the BIG BOY or GIRL. I even got a tiny little diaper bag that my toddler could tote around and pretend that it was for his or her baby...(since it's a boy, get him a teddy bear or elmo or something he can pretend is HIS baby...")

Then when the real baby comes, it won't be such of a shock. Make sure to include him in on all aspects of the new baby. Tell him that the baby is HIS baby, and he has to "help mommy take care of it"... You will be surprised. Toddlers may be little babies, but they are surprisingly independant and love to feel needed...
YES IT WILL BE HARD. All my kids are 2 years apart. And the sooner you get the little one potty trained... the better...BELIEVE ME!!!

Good luck to you and your family!

Answer 5

There is something wrong with babying him because the longer you do it the harder it'll be for him to not be babied anymore. Put him in his own bed and make him sleep even if he has to cry it out. You need to do it now before you have your next child because then it will be even harder. He's not a baby anymore, he's walking & talking and old enough to sleep on his own. How are you going to wake up 3 or 4 times a night to feed and change a newborn with your 2 year old in the bed? Not good. The potty training is something that he may not be ready for, but he definately is ready to sleep in his own bed. Good luck and congrats on the new baby.

Answer 6

having two children in diapers is NEVER easy.

my friend just started to tell her child that a baby was coming and that she'd have to help around the house and be a big girl. We kept telling the girl that, and giving her incentives... like "big girls use the potty." And "Big girls put their toys away"... and we'd give her a puzzle or something along those lines. She's now three, and is still having difficulty realizing when she has to go pee in the potty, but she's doing a wonderful job.

As for the new baby, she knows him as her "Baby brother" and will do anything for him. You just need to work with your son now, so he gets the idea!

Answer 7

What else do you expect from a two year old?

Your husband is absolutely wrong about "you baby him too much" stuff... he definitely is a baby... not a 18 year old who should adjust his schedule just bcos you are pregnant...

Please read: Preparing Your Firstborn for the New Baby

http://www.drspock.com/article/0,1510,3963+AgeY1_2+cbx_behavior,00.html

Answer 8

hun i hate to tll you daddy is right you need to get him out of the baby thing he isnt a baby hes a big boy and if he thinks he is a baby he may hurt the new baby and you dont want that try rewarding him for being a big boy

Answer 9

just because he's your kid doesn't make whatever action you take correct. sometimes you have to listen to other people to get a different perspective.

Good Luck!!!