age difference matter?

Question

I'm a 27 year old female, and I have recently met the guy of my dreams. We talk for several hours a day, and I have fallen in love with him. My question is this: Does his age of 20 figure into anything?

Answer 1

Age dose not matter! What matters is if you love him!!!!!

Answer 2

He is 20 and probably acts like a 20 year old(and so he should,he's only just out of his teens).
You are 27 and probably know what its like being 20.
Would you want to be in a serious relationship when you were 20?
especially when the other person is declaring their love for you!
I dont understand how you can fall in love after only meeting some-one recently.
Talking for several hours a day is completely different to holiding together a relationship.
Dont forget,he will want to go out every week-end with his pals,if his pals are all single and are doing the single thing then its likely he also wants the single life,after all,he is only 20.
Its up to you,but,personally i dont think you can get a full commitment from a 20 year old and why should he,he's 20 and in the prime of his life and will experience loads of life skills and in the time from 20 - 27 he will change,just like you have changed.
As i said,its up to you but i really think if your looking for a full commitment then i doubt you will get that from a 20 year old.

Answer 3

No, not really, not if you get along really well. You're not all that much older than him really. The big thing, with a guy of 20, is that they are often really immature still..and if he is, then things likely won't work out. At 27, you may be interested in a family and he may be interested in club hopping, etc. I was 38 when I met my fiancee, and he was gulp...23 (he found me, not vice versa!! I wouldn't even have thought to go out with such a young guy on my own!!)..anyway, that was 5-1/2 years ago and we are still going strong. Age wise, we are on par, even though I am a lot older. He's mature, I'm not I guess. We are so much allike and when we are together, age simply isn't an issue.

So, don't let the numbers rule what you do or don't do. Any relationship can work if the two people get along and have a lot in common, and are committed to each other. Go for it!

Answer 4

Hi Daisy,
When I was 17 I was already dating a girl who was 28. That sounds outrageous, and I know. She was also the girl of my dreams. Everything I could ever want, and more then anything I would ever have. Those were the only thoughts in my mind at the time. But now some years have passed and she is happily married with children and 39 already.

Where am I in life now? I have a good career and manage my own multimillion dollar air freight company. I am still young, and still think of myself as handsome, but most importantly my personal life has remained the same. I have a girlfriend, but marriage and commitment are thoughts still far from reality in my mind. I am sure that if you continue to date the 20 year old guy of your dreams you will have many happy times ahead of you.

But consider this, no matter how mature he is, he is not ready to commit the rest of his life to you. If you would like to have a family, think twice before pouring your whole heart into a relationship with him. Age is not important for a man, but it sure is for a woman. 5 years from now you will be 32 and you will feel the pressure. 5 years from now your boyfriend will only just be starting out with his career. Please ask yourself what is it you really want out of this relationship and ask yourself if he will be able to give it to you.

Answer 5

Age should not matter. I am 7yrs older than my boyfriend, and we have been together for almost 8 yrs. Sure we have some things we do not agree on when it comes to what to do, but we compromise. No matter what the age, you should enjoy your relationship. The only time age should matter, is if the person is a minor, and the adult should know better than to even persue that. Some men mature quicker than others. My boyfriend was tired of the dating scene, and preferred to be with someone who had stability in their life. I am a divorced mom of two boys, who think he is the best, and he is really great with them and to them. Sometimes the age thing comes out when I am interested in doing something totally opposite of what he would chose, but it works out, plus it's funny when we start teasing each other about music....usually, the music we both like, was when I was in college, and he was in junior high or highschool....that's funny!

Answer 6

some people consider 7 years too large of a gap espescially when the girl is older, but there really is nothing wrong with it. I've heard of larger gaps. The other factor in age gaps is how young the couple is. when the girl is 16 and the guy is 23 or so, or the other way around, then people look down on it alot. But in the twenties should be ok.

Answer 7

Yes, and no. It depends, of course on how you and he feel about it. Moreover, even if you're both cool with the difference at first eventually you'll have a disagreement about something or other and it will be very difficult not to assert your role as his elder. Even then, it can work out fine sometimes, but you need to be careful that it doesn't swing into pseudo-parent, pseudo-child territory. For a relationship to work there need to be a healthy feeling of equality. If you start to feel like you are vastly more wise and he is innocent and naive by comparison, just be sure you avoid the parent/child like power-struggle where he is trying to rebel or act up and you are trying to make decisions for him and nagging him to get his act together. Of course, a lot of relationships where the individuals are closer in age end up like this anyway since women are typically more mature and goal-oriented (though men tend to catch up in their mid-late 30s), but the risk is much higher with an older woman and younger man.

Answer 8

my guy is 23 ; im 29 and he is the sweetest man ive ever been with, still! we've been together for 2 yrs and no, the age doesnt make any difference. i never thought id go out w/ a man younger than me- before i met him i was dating ages 35 and up, but they were all "been there, done that" you know, they were just used to dating women and didn't really go out of their way to be charming or excited about the relationship,and sometimes they were jaded, too, like they had been through some bull**** in relationships & had sort of given up on being the sweet type. so, we're talking marriage, now, and best of luck to you, too!

Answer 9

Ok Chester

Really, what can a 20 yr old do for you. As women we are already 3-4 yrs mature in mindset compared to men of the same age. Is it sex, he must have a lotl of lot of money, or a lot of time to spend hours on the phone with you . Do you work, does he work?? Are you trying to still live in your youth? Give it up. Unless he is mentally, physically spiritually, emotinally able to take care of you, which is a mans job, let it go. Realize what type of relationship it is. Its fine if it is just sex cuz hey, we have needs too. Work on self improvement or do some volunteer work

Answer 10

I'd say it all depends on the specific person, but in general, a 20 year old guy is equivalent to a 16 yr old female. I'm 29, but when I was that age, I can honestly say, 98% of the guys (including my own friends) acted like they were 12... I advise, get to know him REALLY well before getting serious.

Answer 11

I met the guy of my dreams too at webdate.com and he's 22, I'm 24. I don't mind the age difference and the fact that I'm older than him. I just enjoy the love we share for now, so you should too. A guy like that doesn't come often.