Is there a rule of thumb? Or a normally standard? Just wondering? Starting to budget all the little things in and I got to wonder what's the proper amount I should spend on a gift. I have read you "can" spend more on the maid of honor but that's all I found.
(YES, I know it's the thought that counts and blah blah blah keep you mouth shut if you going to go on about what really matters in a wedding isn't the gifts.) I am asking an ediquette question not for a lecture about what really matters in life. I just didn't want to "over do it" and I don't want to fall short.....
I am thinking about giving them jewerly- earrings. I wanted them to be nice but how nice should I go??
If you can tell me what your spending or spent that would be wonderful!!! Thank-you!!
2006-07-25 06:33:29 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Im getting married next year and we are having 2 bridesmaids,we have bought them a jewellery gift each and we have paid roughly £30 each for them which is about $45 each.
Its enough because as you say its supposed to be the thought and a small thank you gift is ample.
After all you have alot to pay out so keep it simple and everyone will be pleased.
2006-07-25 06:37:54 · answer #1 · answered by freerange00720002000 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I gave each bridesmaid around $30-40 in gifts, plus a gift at the wedding worth around $10. I also gave their husbands gifts of some sort so that they wouldn't be left out, and gifts of around $20 to each of the companions of the Groomsmen.
"keep you mouth shut if you going to go on about what really matters in a wedding isn't the gifts.) I am asking an ediquette question not for a lecture about what really matters in life" Just a word of advice - try being a little more positive and friendly. It will make the wedding go much smoother when you aren't filled with anger and negativity. I don't mean this is a new age hippie manner, just in a realistic manner. If you have a bad attitude about people offering help, then you are one step away from Bridezilla - and that's no fun for anyone, including the bride & groom.
2006-07-25 07:37:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your attendants gifts should be between $25-30. and no more than $50. on the maid of honor. But you do have to look at the budget, this is how alot of young marriages get into trouble by not having a budget.
2006-07-25 06:51:16 · answer #3 · answered by roncarolhillsstupid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I spent about $20. In other weddings I have been in and attended, I think the average gifts were worth about the same. In one wedding, the bridesmaids all got matching necklaces that we were expected to wear in the ceremony. At mine, I bought all the girls different gifts that I thought would appeal to each of them. A lot of it also depends on what you can afford. I was pretty broke, but I didn't want to be tacky and cheap, so for me $20 each for five bridesmaids was the most I could allow. Hope that helps.
2006-07-25 06:43:09 · answer #4 · answered by trenchant 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just got married June 10th and we had 14 attendants all together. We ended up spending approximately $25 on each of them. I would say if your wedding party is smaller then you could afford to spend a little bit more but I would definitley set up a budget now (like you say you are) because it is those little things that add up in the end.
**Someone above me mentioned weddingchannel.com, I think they are great for ideas, pics and articles but we ordered our attendant gifts from them FIRST and the day before my wedding, after I paid for overnight shipping for them to arrive earlier that week, I called them and they let me know THEN that my girl's bracelets weren't even going to be processed until the following Monday. Their service is horrible and I fought with them for 4 weeks to cancel the order and get my money back. I STRONGLY SUGGEST that if you decide to order online that you look the business up on the Better Business Bureau's website, I looked up weddingchannel after the fact and they had an F rating. In the end I got my girls gifts on our honeymoon.**
Be careful, congrats and good luck with the rest of your planning!
2006-07-25 06:49:16 · answer #5 · answered by jessicamarie0572 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that traditional the gift should range between $20-$25 but I think that the best way to give is from the heart. Every wedding I have been in, we have received jewelery for the wedding or shoes. But if you feel your maid of honor deserves a $50.00 gift then give it to her.
2006-07-25 06:36:48 · answer #6 · answered by Brandy O 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So the generic anser is about 20 - 30 bucks. I am getting my maids all jewelery too. I am getting them jewelry they can wear with their dresses. I will get four of the same and one different for my MOH. I have five attendants so that is a 100 bucks. I found some great jewelry at the mall at one of those kiosk for a very reasonable price (under 20). I agree with one of the other answers though, DON'T shop online. Go to the store and look, its usually a hell of a lot cheaper too.
Don't forget about the groomsmen. Usually their gifts are engraved beer mugs, money clips, pocket watches. But men usually don't care about stuff like that. You can always get them 20 gift certificates to Hooters or something.
Last but not least, your parents gifts. Since you ahve two sets of parents you can spend a little more. I am budgeting about 50 for each set. I like I going to get an engraved picture trinket box from Things Remembered and find old pics of me and my fiancee when we were kids and then some of us now and put them in it. My parents are divorced but if yours are still together you can find their wedding photo or photos of them from ages ago and out them side by side with yours.
Parents love gifts that remind them of what it was like before you both grew up. If you want to LOOK and see what Things Remembered has you can go to their website at
http://www.thingsremembered.com/
They are having a 50% off bridal sale right now. I highly recommend them. I think I will get all of the gifts from there.
One more gift is a gift to your husband (of you choose to) I am electing not too, (we discussed it though) spend about 50 on him too. So all in all you are looking at about 400 dollars to spend on gifts. 200 for the enitre wedding party. 100 for both sets of parents. 100 total for each of you. If that isnt in your budget you can always for go the gifts to eachother.
2006-07-25 07:06:35 · answer #7 · answered by Sarah J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, I am definitely spending more on my maid of honour, just because she has done way more than anyone else ans has put up with my ranting (sometimes you just need an ear). I was thinking on going $100 for her and $50 for the other girls. Hope this helps you. Good luck and best wishes.
2006-07-25 10:48:55 · answer #8 · answered by lauraenic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For my wedding I gave personalized gifts for each person in my wedding party. Something I knew they would like and remember from my wedding. They ranged from $30-$60. I don't think its the cost that matters, but the personal touch.
2006-07-25 13:11:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
rule of thumb: the best you can afford. Only you know for sure what that is! Jewelry is a great choice, and it's common to get matching jewelry for each person to wear in the wedding. The simpler, the better since it will more likely reflect each person's taste. since you sound like a considerate and thoughtul person, they'll appreciate it. best of luck w/your wedding
2006-07-25 06:41:46 · answer #10 · answered by shycello 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋