Is she in heaven?

Question

All the following is true.
My best friends wife recently passed away. She had a brain hemorragh and, to all intents and purposes died, in his arms. The life support machine was switched off after 2 weeks, and only after both her corneas and her liver were taken for other people. She was a Christian, as is he. One month after the funeral he found her love letters to another man. She was hoping her devoted husband would leave her.
She had no time to repent her sins. The husband is, frankly, in some kind of living hell.
Where is she?, .... apart from the affair she was a good person.
I assure you the husband is a good man.

Answer 1

Well I can assure you she is not yet in heaven. We only go to heaven or hell after the last day, when the judgement has been passed....that is the judgement day. She will then be curently in a waiting place in the grve untill the resurrection when God brings back all to life for the judgement. If and only if she worshipped God alone....and believed He had no partner, no helper, no assistant, no mother, no father, no daughter, no son, and is the creator of all things.....then, only then can she hope that God would accept her in haven.

Answer 2

Why are you concerned whether she is in heaven or not? Deal with what's going on right here and right now. Your friend needs your support and it doesn't matter in the least whether she had time to repent her sins. Focus on what's important at the moment. Your friend has to pick up the pieces and go on with his life. I lost my husband and that was hard enough. If I'd found out afterward that he was having an affair, I can't imagine how much harder things would have been. You can pray for his misguided wife LATER!!!!

Answer 3

We don't know that she didn't repent. Just because she couldn't talk to him or a priest doesn't mean that she was not aware and that she asked forgiveness before her death.

God's love and mercy are abundant and He would not want to lose one of His children.

I think your friend can be at peace with himself and with her.

Psychologically I think his turmoil has more to do with the letters and not being able to confront her with this. As humans go we like resolution to everything and it causes stress when that cannot or does not happen.

He needs to read them, burn them and get over it and get on with life. She's gone and there isn't much he can rant over now.
We all have the flight/fight instinct and his was thwarted by her death.
I'm very sorry for him but this is life and there's not much that can be done when things are the past.

Answer 4

Unfortunately...we can only believe what we choose to believe, but I have a friend that has died twice on an operating table and met her deceased grandmother during that time. A strict Christian, she was not. I believe God knows your true inner self and judges you based on what you know compared to what you choose.

For example, if there was a chance she were somehow mentally ill in her unexplained choice...there may be forgiveness that we couldn't understand.

It depends on how forgiving a God do you believe in?

Also, as my father passed away...he seemed to be have extensive "conversations" in his unconscious state (facial expressions and lips moving). I said, "He's probably trying to talk his way out of this situation with God." (My father did not except his mortality well.)

I'm sorry to hear about the situation and I hope, somehow, her husband can find some inner peace.

Answer 5

Of course she is in heaven, everyone goes there. She will be in a place where others on a similar level of development will be, as the law of like attracts like is universal. On a spuiritual level, She will HAVE to pay back the Karma owed to your friend for causing his agony over the affair, before she can move on, but that is between the two of them, not spirit in general.

God is a loving and benevolent force, not a vengeful one and all mistakes and problems come with the gift of experience and spiritual growth wrapped up in them.

Love and Light
M

Answer 6

She is six feet down pushing up daisies, while the worms feast on her eyes.

God doesnt exist. Therefore, neither does Heaven or Hell. Both are man made stories in order to make us feel better about our own mortality. If she was a good person while living, that is all that should matter. Sorry your budddy had to learn about the affair afterwards - thats got to suck.

Or, if you want to beleive the lies, then she is in Hell, burning for eternity because she didnt ask for forgiveness of her whore like lifestyle...

Answer 7

How do you know that Jesus didn't come to her durring the time she was in a coma, and asked her if she wanted to repent ? It will be up to God, in the end where everyone goes. People should remember the woman as she was. She will always be with her husband, too, as long as he remembers her, and in time, he will heal from his grief. If it is really bad though(if it lasts a long time) ask him to go into counciling, though you really never get over those you lose, I still miss the several family members I have lost.

Answer 8

For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God.

John 10:28 - And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand. (KJV)

Once saved, always saved. We will be judged, the living and the dead, on Judgment day. And she will be judged for her sins, just as we all will. But once she asked Christ into her life and she was saved, she cannot be plucked from His hand. She will be in heaven.

You may comfort him and tell him that whatever her sins were, if she was truly saved and just yielded to sinful temptation, then the Holy Spirit "uttered" for her at her death.

More than praying in her own words, she echoes those "sighs too deep for words" mentioned by Paul ( Rom 8:26), with which the Lord's Spirit urges believers to join in Jesus' characteristic invocation: "Abba! Father!" (Rom 8:15; Gal 4:6).

I believe upon our death if we are physically unable to ask for forgiveness of our sins, the Holy Spirit intercedes and cries out to our Heavenly Father. He hears and forgives, and welcomes us home.

Answer 9

You are the one passing judgment on her and calling her a sinner.

Your assumption is I assume that God judges exactly as you judge?

Jesus said judge not lest ye be judged.

I'm betting Jesus got this bit of advice right from God.

Get your bible out and read the parable of the prodigal son. Think of your friend’s wife in the context of this verse. Then tell your self where she is.

Avoid thinking about all of the nonsense about sin and a judgmental God. Just see her in the light of this verse that Jesus left for us.

This verse speaks of the real God, and of what fate awaits all of us at passing.

Love and blessings
don

Answer 10

She is, according to the promises of God, in heaven. The blood of Christ is sufficient to forgive even the sin of adultery and you have told me she was a Christian. Her sins are therefore forgiven her and she is with God. Do not assume that this means adultery is OK. Far from it. The suffering for every sin committed by those who are forgiven is paid by the Savior. So when we sin - He paid the price. It does not please God for people to live in sin so a Christian aught to serve God and not serve sin. Paul discussed these issues in the book of Romans. Her husband should demonstrate his Christian love and also forgive her completely for his own peace of mind remembering that God is love and that His grace is sufficient.