I'm 26 and he's 36. For now it's all fun and games, but if we ever decide to have kids, is this something I should consider? One of my friends had a kid with a guy 6 years older and she said she preferred to have the baby sooner than later because she didn't want an old dad for her child. My man isn't in a rush, he wants us to enjoy each other first, so no pressure for me, but should I worry? What's your experience?
2006-07-25 06:23:02 · 15 answers · asked by mmaybe mme 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I should add that it was never an issue for me, but one woman told me she wouldn't do it again if she could turn back time. Her husband is easily tired and has a bad back and that affects the amount of help she gets from him with the kids. My man has a bad back now, so I suppose it got me thinking a bit. He's in great shape otherwise and he is the first guy who makes me want to be a mother and I know he'd be a fab dad.
2006-07-25 06:39:38 · update #1
Your fella is so right, get out there and enjoy yourselves first, its OK for all of these people saying they want their kids while they are young but the funny thing is they suddenly get bored and run off with some other person cause they think they have missed out on life by having their kids at a young age, you will not be having a child with an old man for a dad you will be having a child with a loving man who's age is no matter, I know men now who are 36 and are bored stupid with their kids and I know men who are a heck of a lot older who just adore their kids, its the person and who they are that matters not the age, get out there now and have a damn good life together, if your not that bothered about having kids till your older then why rush and spend your life wishing and regretting about all the things you could have done with having kids so soon, he seems a guy fella so enjoy his love.
2006-07-25 06:36:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
10 Years? Is that all.
If you love him and he loves you, that is ALL that matters.
If you are worried that he might look too old to be your childrens father, then you don't love him enough perhaps? If you do think you love him enough, and you want babies, now, then have them. Do not wait for a man in his 30's to be ready! He is getting set in his ways around now and you might find it very difficult to get him around to it , ever.
Also, don't you miss out on being a mother because of a selfish man.
10 Years? lol.. when you get to 36 you will realise why I am laughing. (its not as big a gap as you think)
I don't mean to sound blunt, but its the way I am.
Good luck x
2006-07-25 06:32:48 · answer #2 · answered by super_star 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I'm 26 and my husband is 36. He wants to have kids a.s.a.p but I wouldn't mind waiting a couple of years. We have been married 4 years and travel to 10 different countries so I think it's time.
2006-07-25 06:40:40 · answer #3 · answered by ani2525 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
36 isn't too old for the father. My dad was 42 when I was born and I never noticed a difference comparing him to my friends' younger fathers. Other than my dad was in better shape and not fat.
If your man is in good shape he'll be a great father well into his 70s, if you can keep up with him.
2006-07-25 06:28:16 · answer #4 · answered by Samuel C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend is 6 years older and I think it's a bonus, young dads aren't as great I think because the older ones can be the sort of dad that knows all the answers. I think you should just relax, older dads are sooo sexy!
2006-07-25 11:40:37 · answer #5 · answered by floppity 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel like this if you want to have a baby do it because he is older and wiser than these young "dummies". My reason? The younger generation is only out to get satisfaction not responsibility your partner is old enough now that he should be finished playing games
2006-07-25 06:29:06 · answer #6 · answered by lil_atl_ma 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband is 10 years older than me, we have 2 beautiful sons starting when I was 29. Now my sons are 4y and 15 months.
My husband says it is better older because he is mature enough to give the kids what they really need.
2006-07-25 06:28:14 · answer #7 · answered by ilikesew 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm 32 and my husband is 45 this year we been married for 10 years and have 3 kids aged 8, 5, and 3 months he is great would't change him for the world age never been a problem so just go for it and be happy x
2006-07-25 08:43:39 · answer #8 · answered by billie x 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its when ever u feel,you both want to have a child together,age has nothing to do with it. i am 36 and my boyfriend is 43,and we have just had a baby. She is 6mths old now,and both me and my boyfriend love her too bits. Dont lisson to other ppl,when they say he'll be too old,cause there fathers out there in their 70s. Not everyone is the same.
2006-07-25 08:07:38 · answer #9 · answered by lovableleachy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't worry about his age, i went out with my hubby when i was 21 and he was 30, got married at 23 and 32, started family next year at 24 and 33, and finished family ( 5 ) at 33 and 42, so while he wasn't a young dad he was more mature to most and it worked out ok,
2006-07-25 06:47:42 · answer #10 · answered by tors 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋