I am dating a guy, for a month now, but, we have different values and beliefs. I go to worship and dont believe in sleeping with a guy and going out of the state/country with someone I am not married with, he does. I told him my values in the begining, but he forgot and keep pressuring me. Also, the conversation does not go well, it is always pertaining to him. He never just hang out at my house, it is always to pick me up to take me to his house or just want me to meet him there. He prefer to hang out at his friends house all day then see me (esp. last week). He made a dumb comment "By not seeing u, I am able to miss u. Therefore, during that week of not seeing him, I eventually met someone else, that I can talk to and hang out with. Here is the thing, the first guy appologize, should I continue with him, just b/c he said he will be willing to compromise? Or should I go with the guy that I just met, who I just connect with? I dont know how long the first guy will compromise.
2006-07-25 06:22:54 · 13 answers · asked by Amenity 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First, I'm not sure of your age. But you sound young. It's not bad, read on... I f you are young, what the heck are you doing with someone who sounds like he has nothing in common with you? You have only invested one month to guy No. 1. He doesn't sound like a serious person, especially if he is pressuring you to do things you're not ready for. Hold your ground.. If he can't wait, he's not worth it. Guy No.2 seems like he is more like you. It's not like you are married to guy No. 1. Give No. 2 a try. You should not have to keep reminding your boyfriend of your beliefs, etc. If he truly cared, he'd remember on his own. He's not into you the way he should be. Also, you yourself do not seem to trust guy No. 1. Ditch him.
2006-07-25 06:32:11 · answer #1 · answered by mandermar40103 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the first guy sounds as if he is selfish. I think that he only appologized because he felt as if he was losing you. Be assured that he did not forget that you said that you don't believe in having sex before marriage; it is just a challenge for him to get his way. By constantly harrassing you he has shown you that he is putting his desires ahead of yours. Honestly this does not sound like a guy that you should be with. But my question to you is, would you leave this guy if this second guy hadn't come along? Never leave someone for someone else or it will backfire. If you really don't want to be with the first guy then leave him because of his own faults not because someone has caught your attention.
2006-07-25 13:30:11 · answer #2 · answered by kristin747 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take time out from both, to clear your mind. But somehow it seems you have made up your mind. You gave us all the reasons to say dump the boyfriend and embrace the newcomer.
Soul searching is my advice. No body knows you better than yourself. Consider both guys, the one you know and the one you don't know. The sincerity in both, the willingness in both. Then search your heart, and then get a decision. Once you do, stick to that decision. God Bless
2006-07-25 13:29:47 · answer #3 · answered by umbralatin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should go with the second guy. You seem to have more of a connection with him, at least it sounds that way. Since the first guy doesnt seem to respect or at the very least tolerate you're beliefs, it seems to me that you should go with the guy you just met instead
2006-07-25 13:28:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you aren't comfortable with the 1st guy, if he gets on your nerves than forget about that relationship regardless of the possibility of a new realtionship. Dump the 1st and get to know the 2nd better, don't jump into relationship after relationship, you don't always have to be with someone...
2006-07-25 13:29:11 · answer #5 · answered by bored....zzzzzzzzz..... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen....after ONE month, you don't owe that guy anything. He obviously feels the same way (not owing you anything) the way you have described him. Why do you HAVE to be with anyone?? If you feel like you want to get to know this new guy better, then do that. You're not obligated to be with someone you were doubting anyway.
2006-07-25 13:32:47 · answer #6 · answered by Dee M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like you don't like they guy who is trying take you out of the country. It also seems like, both are not fitting for you. Find someone else.
2006-07-25 13:28:15 · answer #7 · answered by bedtime_ted 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that if you are seeing these problems early on, get out of that relationship. Enjoy your life and be happy with yourself and whom you are with.
Good luck
2006-07-25 13:27:24 · answer #8 · answered by sweet_n_sassy2204 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guy's rarely change old habits... Go for the new guy!
2006-07-25 13:27:34 · answer #9 · answered by TrippleThreat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey just stick to your beliefs, leave it in gods hands , as long as you wait you will get the respect you deserve, good luck .....
2006-07-25 13:27:59 · answer #10 · answered by bigred 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋