Okay so I meet this woman. Whom I really like. I am very attracted to her both physically and emotionally. We have never gone out but she keeps giving me this cold shoulder. I have tried just being friends and try to work towards more but she still is cold. I don't know what to do. I know she probably has alot going on in her life. I know she probably isn't physically attracted to me as this girl is stunning. But to be honest I am a good guy. I am a hard worker. Make a decent living. I am D/D free. I just want to get this girl to give me a fair shake. What should I do next. I am desperate to try and get this girls attention.
2006-07-25 06:11:54 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ask her to dinner, simple enough. If she turns you down, fine, move on. If you never ask her and keep wondering "what if" you'll beat yourself up over what may be nothing. It's the not knowing that is maddening. Ask her to dinner, if she says yes, great, if she says no, accept it and move on. Either way you'll know for sure.
2006-07-25 06:19:02 · answer #1 · answered by Samuel C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok. Think about this. If she is hot as you say she is... then how many other guys act exactly the same way you do toward her. Dont you suppose they act all nice, and give her all sorts of compliments. If you are doing the same, why do you think she would respond differently to you? Do something different. Be creative and really think about doing something she has never heard before. Tell her something that will confuse her a little and then keep her guessing. Women are very perceptive, and can pick up on motives really quick, so make yourself hard to read so that she wont know the next thing your going to say. And if she does start talking with you, dont talk to much, and dont talk to much. Leave her with wanting more.
2006-07-25 13:24:23 · answer #2 · answered by Slick Mac 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you like about this woman besides that fact that you find her attractive? If she were ugly would you still like her? I've noticed that some men seem to get taken in by women who are attractive but aren't really someone that they'd want to spend time with if they really found out who the women really are. A lot of women like men to pay attention to them but they really don't want to connect with anyone. If you and she have a lot in common you should be able to find things to talk to her about. Chemistry can have a lot more to do with people's personalities than their looks and maybe you and she just don't have chemistry. There might be some really sweet (but not as pretty) girl who is mooning over you -- keep your eyes open!! Some women get interested in a man if they notice that other women are talking to him (it's a competitive thing) so it wouldn't hurt for her to see you talking to some other women.
2006-07-25 13:23:07 · answer #3 · answered by GirlfromUncle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you have done everything that you can do. If you do much more right now I think that you would be crossing the line into stalker territory and could get yourself into troubloe and lose her for sure as a friend or anything else. Just hang back be friendly when you see her but do not badger her. You have to face the fact that you may never have a relationship with this woman.
2006-07-25 13:17:32 · answer #4 · answered by hhrugger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you can do right now is learn to enjoy single life. Go out with friends, party, have a blast! Invite her along if she wants to come, but make sure it is obvious that you'll have fun with or without her. No one likes a desperate guy but everyone likes being around someone who looks like their always having fun and loving life.
And if she finally comes around, great. If not, you won't even care because you'll be having so much fun being single.
2006-07-25 13:21:50 · answer #5 · answered by PurpleFool 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She might just not be into you. Doesn't make sence why you are into her if she being "cold" to you. I mean, yes she may be attractive and what not but to be emotionally attracted to her like you say, doesn't make sence. There are many many other woman in this world that are as good looking as she is, if not better that will be into you as you are to her. Just let this girl be eye candy for you and leave it at that. To try to get closer than that seems pointless. Good Luck
2006-07-25 13:18:15 · answer #6 · answered by nickster51875 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Desperate...that's the problem. You're clining to her. Give her some room. Girls aren't attracted to Clingy guys...it's fun for us to chase you!! My advice would be to take it easy, back off, give her space. Just continue being friends. If she likes you, then she'll start calling YOU more and want to hang out more often.
But if you really want to be brave ask her on a date. If she says no or ignores you then just more on. There's no sense in liking a person who could care less for you. Beauty isn't everything.
2006-07-25 13:14:32 · answer #7 · answered by Star 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is she playing (really) hard to get or is she just not interested? This is what you need to find out. Don't try to hard as this might be a turn off for her, maybe she is one of those girls who likes guys are mean to her. I'm not saying to be mean to her, I'm just saying that you might not be her "type". If you want to pursue her, just act casual and find out what you two have in common and go from there. You might even try confiding something personal in her and asking for her advise, this might work to get you in the door, so to speak.
2006-07-25 13:25:21 · answer #8 · answered by Meg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People tend to want what they can't have, so give her a little attention to show you are interrested, but not to much. Always look like you are having a good time and try to just let it be. If it's meant to be it will be. And always know that there are plenty more out there. If you are as great as you sound you will have no trouble finding someone who is just as into you as you are into them!
2006-07-25 13:18:42 · answer #9 · answered by str8tequila80 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay I think you should not give up on this girl.First try to learn her backgrounds.May be there is a reason she is giving you a cold shoulder. Try to be closer to her. And never try to praise yourself where she is like: I am a good guy, Iam hard worker.I am hoping and believing you will get her.
Geraldine.
2006-07-25 13:33:03 · answer #10 · answered by Promise 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋